When people say they are not SAHM material

[Anonymous]

Why do you care about what other people say about their own lives, OP? You run your railroad, and I'll run mine.

[Anonymous]

I'm not "SAHM material," but neither am I "employed material." I have a low tolerance for responsibility, which is why I'm one and done!

[Anonymous]

Let's just give the troll what she wants: SAHMs are awesome, WOHMs are terrible. You are better. You win.

[Anonymous]

Some people need the money from two incomes. Some people think that preschool teachers are more energetic and better teachers than they could be. Some people enjoy their careers and prefer to only parents after (just like dads do). Some people want their marriages to be more equal (this is a big one for us) between the dad and mom.

[Anonymous]

Can't speak for others but what I mean is that i like working. I love my kids too. No one asks my husband this question but his answer would be the same as mine.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:What do they really mean by that?

It always makes me scratch my head because don't you parent your kids on the weekends? It's like that but every day. And they go to school for a good chunk of it (including the preschool years)...

They mean "You're being rude by raising the question and I'm trying to deflect you politely in a way that you can't take as an insult."

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Some people need the money from two incomes. Some people think that preschool teachers are more energetic and better teachers than they could be. Some people enjoy their careers and prefer to only parents after (just like dads do). Some people want their marriages to be more equal (this is a big one for us) between the dad and mom.

+1, this is exactly us.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:^^^^ oh yea... and I hate playing pretend. I can build legos for hours but pretend play... shoot me now.

Me, too. I loved the train stage -- DS and I would build crazy intricate tracks, but as soon as it was complete and time to play "Thomas".... ugh.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:What do they really mean by that?

It always makes me scratch my head because don't you parent your kids on the weekends? It's like that but every day. And they go to school for a good chunk of it (including the preschool years)...

They mean "You're being rude by raising the question and I'm trying to deflect you politely in a way that you can't take as an insult."

OP here. I didn't ask this question, it was information that was volunteered. "I wish I could quit my job but I couldn't take it as a SAHM." Just curious about why she thinks it is so hard.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:What do they really mean by that?

It always makes me scratch my head because don't you parent your kids on the weekends? It's like that but every day. And they go to school for a good chunk of it (including the preschool years)...

They mean "You're being rude by raising the question and I'm trying to deflect you politely in a way that you can't take as an insult."

OP here. I didn't ask this question, it was information that was volunteered. "I wish I could quit my job but I couldn't take it as a SAHM." Just curious about why she thinks it is so hard.

Maybe she sees the 10 threads a day from SAHMs complaining about how hard it is?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:What do they really mean by that?

It always makes me scratch my head because don't you parent your kids on the weekends? It's like that but every day. And they go to school for a good chunk of it (including the preschool years)...

They mean "You're being rude by raising the question and I'm trying to deflect you politely in a way that you can't take as an insult."

OP here. I didn't ask this question, it was information that was volunteered. "I wish I could quit my job but I couldn't take it as a SAHM." Just curious about why she thinks it is so hard.

You could have asked her but you're right, it's smarter to speculate on an anonymous forum! Brilliant!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:What do they really mean by that?

It always makes me scratch my head because don't you parent your kids on the weekends? It's like that but every day. And they go to school for a good chunk of it (including the preschool years)...

They mean "You're being rude by raising the question and I'm trying to deflect you politely in a way that you can't take as an insult."

OP here. I didn't ask this question, it was information that was volunteered. "I wish I could quit my job but I couldn't take it as a SAHM." Just curious about why she thinks it is so hard.

I'll bite. Being a SAHM mom wouldn't be hard for me, but it would be mind numbingly boring.

[Anonymous]

Some women get lost in motherhood and become depressed because their life revolves around their kids. It's probably worse for women who stay at home. My husband sometimes works on the weekend and I have to watch the kids without him. I know by the time he gets home, I end up talking his head off and it's usually because my day has been filled with non-stop kid stuff.

I also know its better for some people's mental health if they leave the house and get to interact with adults. I worked part time with both of my kids, two days a week and I fell into the bad habit of sitting in my pajamas all day and looking a mess on the days I didn't work. Going to work pretty much prevents that. Also, if you have a job you really like of which I do it can be hard to walk away from without regret.

Just like men enjoy being able to continue to work, women deserve the same option without being questioned.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I'm not "SAHM material," but neither am I "employed material." I have a low tolerance for responsibility, which is why I'm one and done!

you must be my slacker soulmate!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:What do they really mean by that?

It always makes me scratch my head because don't you parent your kids on the weekends? It's like that but every day. And they go to school for a good chunk of it (including the preschool years)...

They mean "You're being rude by raising the question and I'm trying to deflect you politely in a way that you can't take as an insult."

OP here. I didn't ask this question, it was information that was volunteered. "I wish I could quit my job but I couldn't take it as a SAHM." Just curious about why she thinks it is so hard.

I'll bite. Being a SAHM mom wouldn't be hard for me, but it would be mind numbingly boring.

This. Except I find it very hard to be bored out of my effing mind all day, every day. I work and pick my kids up at 3 and have them the weekend; that is about the amount of time I fill with kid activities happily. I don't want to do it more than that. My job is not big and fancy and important, either - no delusions of stardom here.