When people say they are not SAHM material

[Anonymous]

I loved taking care of my kids and working. Stayed home part-time until the youngest was 1, then went to work full time. I was not cut out to be a SAHM for many years because I would have been grouchy and too controlling if I didn't work. Plus I liked earning money. But each person, man or woman, needs to make up their own mind about this.

[Anonymous]

Let me help some of you with your reading comprehension:

"Being a SAHM would be boring" != "spending time with my kids is boring." So please quit it with the straw men, shall we?

But I'm now on notice that a well meant compliment on how I find the job of SAHM to be challenging and I'm not cut out for it will be poorly interpreted... Basically best to never speak of this subject - too touchy/

[Anonymous]

I think what people mean when they say that they are not suited well to be a Stay-at-Home parent is that they cannot fathom not working at all.

Some parents do not mind the 24/7 task of caring for their child's needs. They derive pure joy from it.

Others not so much.

And each type of parent has to do what is best for them as well as their children.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I think what people mean when they say that they are not suited well to be a Stay-at-Home parent is that they cannot fathom not working at all.

Some parents do not mind the 24/7 task of caring for their child's needs. They derive pure joy from it.

Others not so much.

And each type of parent has to do what is best for them as well as their children.

No one does this 24/7. They sleep most of the time.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Let me help some of you with your reading comprehension:

"Being a SAHM would be boring" != "spending time with my kids is boring." So please quit it with the straw men, shall we?

But I'm now on notice that a well meant compliment on how I find the job of SAHM to be challenging and I'm not cut out for it will be poorly interpreted... Basically best to never speak of this subject - too touchy/

Nope. Being a stay at home mother would be boring = spending all of my time with my kids and none of my time in an adult working environment would be boring.

Working mothers spend time with our kids. Duh.

[Anonymous]

I take them at their word.

Personally I'm well suited to be a SAHM. I have financial independence and love being home, making my home run smoothly and having a lot of time to really enjoy my life and my kids. If other people wouldn't enjoy that that in no way affects me.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:It means she can't stand not to have an important job to go to every day and think big, important thoughts that will save the world Because don't you ever forget, she is WAY smarter and more important than you. You're barely in her range of sight from up there on her high horse.

NP. I don't think this is it. I know many WOHM who say they would do it if they could still use their FT daycare. It's not that they loooooooove their jobs so much (most of them anyway). They're just scared of being with their kids on their own all day, every day.

Not scared just find is boring and tedious after a few hours. I like going to a place with other adults who respect me, listen to me etc. Why bother with grad school if you don't intend to have a career? I would never want to set that example for my daughter. Maybe if i had a boy it wouldn't matter.

What a stupid remark. I'm imagining the conversation between you and your daughter in later years:
Larla: "Mom, why didn't you ever stay home with me when I was younger?"
You: "Are you kidding me? After going through grad school, you think I'd actually take time out from work to (snicker) stay home with my kid?? OMG, what a waste of time that would have been."
Larla: "Oh."

I went to grad school, as did many of the SAHMs I know. In fact, we all had very interesting jobs prior to having children. Most of us will one day return to work, but for now, there is nothing more worthwhile or important to our families than having a parent at home. And we'll absolutely encourage all our kids - girls and boys - to pursue as much education as they desire, regardless of what their future lives look like. Why wouldn't we?

Barf. You sound dull and self righteous. Maybe you don't miss adult company because other adults find you insufferable.

"Dull and self-righteous" perfectly describes the bolded, above. You sound atrocious. All those adults you claim respect you? Yeah, not so much.