Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:There are a lot of posts by men in the Ashley Madison threads acting blasé about male cheating and suggesting it should be acceptable or expected. Do you feel the same way about being cheated on?
I had a boyfriend who used to talk a good game about monogamy being unnatural. As it turns out, I have a roving eye. So, I cheated on him with a craig's list hook up and he found out when I accidentally left unsent a steamy e-mail I wrote the other guy. I had gone to bed before my boyfriend came home and was actually woken up by his cry of agony. He literally cried out loud as if he had been stabbed in the belly or something. I was very surprised by his histrionics and tears, and felt bad. I kept seeing the craig's list hook up and left my boyfriend for him. My ex reacted very badly and became obsessed with me. All these years later, I am still incredulous at how devastated he was by my cheating. I would like to understand the male psyche better.
Would you be understanding if you found your wife's name on the Ashley Madison list? Do you feel that female cheating is somehow more wrong or surprising?
Given DW's lack of interest in what was once a hot sex life with me, I'd tell her I'll be seeing a divorce lawyer ASAP and she better be prepared for a notable downgrade in her standard of living.
Your BF sounds like he planted the seed, so to speak, whereas I have not strayed in 28 yrs though it has been tempting (and AFAIK neither has DW).... I have been cheated on prior to getting married and it is a devastating betrayal IMO unless you have an agreement or arrangement that permits that.
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