Outside of paying for things, how goes your Executive husband contribute to the household? SAHM que

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Hey hey, I was ambitious for the 11 years I chose to SH. Don't judge my ambition because of my choice to be a SAHM. I think WOH females tend to equate ambition with money. Let's not make that mistake.

Come on, the poster bragged about having a masters and working "less than 1/2 time" because she has ambition? Sure ...she has the luxury of having a hobby.

Ambition: an earnest desire for some type of achievement or distinction, as power, honor, fame, or wealth, and the willingness to strive for its attainment:

1/2 time poster here. I'm ambitious and work hard as heck at my job. My family is my priority, though. My ambition is mine, and you can't try to define it by hours I work.

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Hey hey, I was ambitious for the 11 years I chose to SH. Don't judge my ambition because of my choice to be a SAHM. I think WOH females tend to equate ambition with money. Let's not make that mistake.

Come on, the poster bragged about having a masters and working "less than 1/2 time" because she has ambition? Sure ...she has the luxury of having a hobby.

Ambition: an earnest desire for some type of achievement or distinction, as power, honor, fame, or wealth, and the willingness to strive for its attainment:

1/2 time poster here. I'm ambitious and work hard as heck at my job. My family is my priority, though. My ambition is mine, and you can't try to define it by hours I work.

Amen and period. You've won the thread. I feel sorry for any parent (mother or father) whose sole defined of ambition or success is related to their paycheck or job title. You're missing out on so much.

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*definition.

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Hey hey, I was ambitious for the 11 years I chose to SH. Don't judge my ambition because of my choice to be a SAHM. I think WOH females tend to equate ambition with money. Let's not make that mistake.

Come on, the poster bragged about having a masters and working "less than 1/2 time" because she has ambition? Sure ...she has the luxury of having a hobby.

Ambition: an earnest desire for some type of achievement or distinction, as power, honor, fame, or wealth, and the willingness to strive for its attainment:

1/2 time poster here. I'm ambitious and work hard as heck at my job. My family is my priority, though. My ambition is mine, and you can't try to define it by hours I work.

Amen and period. You've won the thread. I feel sorry for any parent (mother or father) whose sole defined of ambition or success is related to their paycheck or job title. You're missing out on so much.

?? Words mean things. "Ambition" has a definition, and, as an earlier PP pointed out, it means you want and are working toward some kind of achievement or distinction. You can want a happy family and a good marriage and successful children but those aren't personally achievable ambitions. (I can try my damnedest to raise good kids but it's not fully in my control.)

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Hey hey, I was ambitious for the 11 years I chose to SH. Don't judge my ambition because of my choice to be a SAHM. I think WOH females tend to equate ambition with money. Let's not make that mistake.

Come on, the poster bragged about having a masters and working "less than 1/2 time" because she has ambition? Sure ...she has the luxury of having a hobby.

Ambition: an earnest desire for some type of achievement or distinction, as power, honor, fame, or wealth, and the willingness to strive for its attainment:

1/2 time poster here. I'm ambitious and work hard as heck at my job. My family is my priority, though. My ambition is mine, and you can't try to define it by hours I work.

Amen and period. You've won the thread. I feel sorry for any parent (mother or father) whose sole defined of ambition or success is related to their paycheck or job title. You're missing out on so much.

?? Words mean things. "Ambition" has a definition, and, as an earlier PP pointed out, it means you want and are working toward some kind of achievement or distinction. You can want a happy family and a good marriage and successful children but those aren't personally achievable ambitions. (I can try my damnedest to raise good kids but it's not fully in my control.)

Da fuq?

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H handles all finances. We have a budget of the amount I can use each month on shopping/ hair appointments etc.
Work around house- weekly cleaner
Kids homework- husband
Cooking- all me

Works great for us.

So you have an allowance like a child?

I am a rising executive making multiple six figures and I have an allowance. DW and I budget our money weekly
and we both know what we can spend. We understand it's not just what you make it's what you save. Seriously, people in this town get too caught up in new things and status. At home, my title and money mean nothing. Yes I drive a luxury car-- but I've had it for several years and it's paid for. I made half of what I make now when I bought it and didn't feel the need to trade up.

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Anonymous wrote:The envy that some working moms display in every thread pertaining to stay at homes is just embarrassing. I work a big law job with shitty hours, but I don't resent women who stay home enjoying their husbands' money and taking care of their children. It is not stay at home moms' fault that being a working mom sucks so badly from absolutely hostile work environments to ridiculous child care costs. I fully admit that I love having my own money, but hate being away from my kids and actually hate my job and coworkers too. I hear other working moms claiming to love working so much, but if you were having such a good time, you wouldn't be so bitter towards stay at homes.

I love my job, love my coworkers, and my kids are thriving. I'm sorry your job sucks, but not every working parent is miserable.

And, regardless of what people in these threads love to claim, I'm a WOHM who is not jealous at all of SAHMs. I didn't go to a top school and then get an MBA in finance to be a maid/personal assistant, and I wouldn't put myself in a position (e.g., marrying someone super-ambitious) where there would be so much pressure for me to take on that role.

I am not an MBA and am okay to be the support person (personal assistant/maid is another way to say it!) for my DH. But you make a damn good point about choosing to marry someone less ambitious. I see ambition as an important, desirable quality but i might advise my daughters to be wary of getting forced into a certain role as you describe. While I was not "forced" this was because I was willing - had I been more ambitious career wise we would have had a BIG problem. we did, however, have lots of problems that stemmed from an unbalanced relationship.

NP here. I'm an ivy league educated SAHM who used to be very ambitious. We are having some marital problems due to my unhappiness. DH is hot, smart, kind and very successful. Sometimes I wish that I married a less successful man so that our roles could be different. Once the kids are older, I plan to re-enter the workforce.

I don't know what kind of fairy tale world you live but every single one of my friends struggles with work life balance. My friends are smart and capable. Some are the breadwinners and have some issues with less successful spouses. Others took lateral jobs to get more flexible hours. We also know many dual successful couples with multiple nannies. Then there are the still single and will probably never marry women. Not one of them is fully satisfied with their situation. We all do the best we can. These are my good friends so we can speak openly and honestly. The working moms seem to envy all the fun things I do with my children. DH earns a high income so we can afford a good lifestyle.

DH sometimes says he wishes that I was more simple and could truly be satisfied being home with the kids. He loved my ambitious and drive just as I was attracted to his. Now my past ambitions are causing my current unhappiness.

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My Executive husband does not help with anything domestic at home. Instead he expects me to hire as much staff as I need to take care of the chores around the house, so that he does not have to do anything when he gets home from work.

I will admit that he is generous with money and provides me with a good life style, yet, running my household in a shipshape manner, even with staff takes a lot of organizing and managing.

The reason I do not hold it against him is because he is very good in bed and we have a very active, adventurous and loving sex life. I am left very sated and happy in my marital bed. So, all in all, I do not mind.