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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]The envy that some working moms display in every thread pertaining to stay at homes is just embarrassing. I work a big law job with shitty hours, but I don't resent women who stay home enjoying their husbands' money and taking care of their children. It is not stay at home moms' fault that being a working mom sucks so badly from absolutely hostile work environments to ridiculous child care costs.  I fully admit that I love having my own money, but hate being away from my kids and actually hate my job and coworkers too. I hear other working moms claiming to love working so much, but if you were having such a good time, you wouldn't be so bitter towards stay at homes.  [/quote]

I love my job, love my coworkers, and my kids are thriving.  I'm sorry your job sucks, but not every working parent is miserable.[/quote]

And, regardless of what people in these threads love to claim, I'm a WOHM who is not jealous at all of SAHMs. I didn't go to a top school and then get an MBA in finance to be a maid/personal assistant, and I wouldn't put myself in a position (e.g., marrying someone super-ambitious) where there would be so much pressure for me to take on that role. [/quote]

I am not an MBA and am okay to be the support person (personal assistant/maid is another way to say it!) for my DH. But you make a damn good point about choosing to marry someone less ambitious. I see ambition as an important, desirable quality but i might advise my daughters to be wary of getting forced into a certain role as you describe. While I was not "forced" this was because I was willing - had I been more ambitious career wise we would have had a BIG problem. we did, however, have lots of problems that stemmed from an unbalanced relationship. [/quote]

NP here. I'm an ivy league educated SAHM who used to be very ambitious. We are having some marital problems due to my unhappiness. DH is hot, smart, kind and very successful. Sometimes I wish that I married a less successful man so that our roles could be different. Once the kids are older, I plan to re-enter the workforce.

I don't know what kind of fairy tale world you live but every single one of my friends struggles with work life balance. My friends are smart and capable. Some are the breadwinners and have some issues with less successful spouses. Others took lateral jobs to get more flexible hours. We also know many dual successful couples with multiple nannies. Then there are the still single and will probably never marry women. Not one of them is fully satisfied with their situation. We all do the best we can. These are my good friends so we can speak openly and honestly. The working moms seem to envy all the fun things I do with my children. DH earns a high income so we can afford a good lifestyle.

DH sometimes says he wishes that I was more simple and could truly be satisfied being home with the kids. He loved my ambitious and drive just as I was attracted to his. Now my past ambitions are causing my current unhappiness.[/quote]

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