Advice for a FTM who is the main breadwinner

[Anonymous]

Option B -Your DC will LOVE having friends and being social at day care and you will be happy not having to worry abut maxing your retirement and 529 plan, while paying for a mortgage etc.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP if you were a man we wouldn't be discussing this. Are you completely insane? 200k in Arkansas? Give that up and you will resent your husband. I'm resenting him for you. This is such a no brainer. What is messing you up is gendered expectations. Your husband fucked up with taking on so much debt. My husband and I are attorneys and we didn't have that much between the two of us. Stay here, struggle & not be able to save for your child's college.

Family should be more important to your husband than his ego.

Really??? American U and georgetown law are at 70k a year for law school right now! easily over 200k for ONE person

Those are not the only law school options. I went to State U. and ended with $50K in debt and a job that paid it off in five years.