DD wants to be a nanny

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Anonymous wrote:Nobody thinks the gap year will backfire? Nannies make good money compared to peers at 18-25. But their potential for advancement and higher salary dead ends.

At which point the OP's sensible, level-headed daughter will realize that she needs to go to college. This is also the experience of the nannies who have posted on this thread.

The barrier of going to college in your mid-20s just to get a bachelors is much harder to overcome than just doing it while you have the momentum at 18. I have a friend who got a job as a secretary right out of school making 40k when the rest of us were making 25k and she is still a secretary 20 years later.

It's not such a difficult barrier if your parents still intend to pay for it and support you while you go to college. My parents were willing to pay for my college education even though I didn't go until I was in my upper 20s. I was very fortunate and I am very grateful that my parents paid for my education and that my spouse was able to support me (I worked just part time) while I was in school. I agree it's tough for people in their 20s to go back to college if they need to support themselves, but it sounds like OP might be planning on supporting her daughter when that time comes.

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If she wants to be a nanny...support your daughter in making her own path in life. She is not there to fulfill your dreams and wishes for her. College is just a money dump anyway, especially if someone already has a very clear vision of what they want to do in life. Maybe it's the right thing for her to be a nanny WHILE she goes to college. Maybe it's the right thing for her to be a nanny FIRST and then go to college. Maybe she doesn't want to go to college at all. Maybe she'd like to take shorter courses and classes related to childcare, first aid, health etc. for a while, while working as a nanny.

College is NOT the only way. Don't forget that it is extremely expensive. There are other ways to be happy and successful in life and college can happen at any age as well.

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Did OP say who'd pay for daughter's college?

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I began nannying immediately after highschool and it was a wonderful experience. My parents and I came up with an agreement that if I was living at home and working full-time without going to school then I would pay rent. If I lived at home, worked full-time, and took at least 2 classes per semester(which they paid for) then I could live at home rent free. It ended up being the best decision for me in the long run as I worked full-time, lived at home, and took evening classes for a year. By that time I had a better idea of what I really wanted to do career-wise (not what my parents envisioned me being). I scaled back to working part-time and going to school full-time, and now I'm a teacher and absolutely love it.
Sit down with your daughter and ask what her plans are and how she envisions the next year or two going. Decide what you and your husband are willing to provide: Can she live at home if she's not enrolled in school? Will you pay for classes if she's a part-time student? What bills will she be responsible for if she is working full-time? Get a good handle on where she's coming from and hopefully it will help you all formulate a plan!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I began nannying immediately after highschool and it was a wonderful experience. My parents and I came up with an agreement that if I was living at home and working full-time without going to school then I would pay rent. If I lived at home, worked full-time, and took at least 2 classes per semester(which they paid for) then I could live at home rent free. It ended up being the best decision for me in the long run as I worked full-time, lived at home, and took evening classes for a year. By that time I had a better idea of what I really wanted to do career-wise (not what my parents envisioned me being). I scaled back to working part-time and going to school full-time, and now I'm a teacher and absolutely love it.
Sit down with your daughter and ask what her plans are and how she envisions the next year or two going. Decide what you and your husband are willing to provide: Can she live at home if she's not enrolled in school? Will you pay for classes if she's a part-time student? What bills will she be responsible for if she is working full-time? Get a good handle on where she's coming from and hopefully it will help you all formulate a plan!

+1. I knew from a young age that it I was working full-time, not in school, and living at home I would pay rent. Only other advice I would give is to make sure DD has done certifications like First Aid/CPR, knows how to work car seat, maybe some basics with babies, and perhaps an early education class.

[Anonymous]

This might be the one thing I would actually be strongly against, but I am a retired nanny so perhaps my kid would listen to me.