Am I Being Unreasonable? Annoyed with MIL

[Anonymous]

All this over Xmas ornaments? ha. put the ugly ornaments on the tree when MIL is at your house and then take them down when she leaves.

Enough with everything needing a "first." No wonder there are so many narcissists in this world.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP. Your post hurts my heart. My MIL has been dead for 5 years, and I still cry every Christmas remembering how much effort she put into DD and DS, along with her other 10 grandchildren. I miss her so much.

Believe me, one day you will cherish these ornaments. Or not. Because you don't accept them with the love they are offered.

OP here. I'm sorry for your loss. My MIL is a very devoted grandmother. That doesn't mean that everything she does is saintly or worthy of cherishing. We will cherish many things about her, but not these ornaments.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:All this over Xmas ornaments? ha. put the ugly ornaments on the tree when MIL is at your house and then take them down when she leaves.

Enough with everything needing a "first." No wonder there are so many narcissists in this world.

Yes, my children having first Christmas ornaments will make them narcissists. Sure.

[Anonymous]

This is the OP. This will likely be my last post on this thread. Despite all the lovely assurtions about my character, this ornament incident does not define me or my relationship with my MIL. lol We are a happy family and I will smile and be gracious while receiving my ugly ornaments. Thanks for letting me vent on an anonymous forum and thanks for all the laughs.

- Bitchy DIL, shrew, wife of tool of the year, etc. etc.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:This is the OP. This will likely be my last post on this thread. Despite all the lovely assurtions about my character, this ornament incident does not define me or my relationship with my MIL. lol We are a happy family and I will smile and be gracious while receiving my ugly ornaments. Thanks for letting me vent on an anonymous forum and thanks for all the laughs.

- Bitchy DIL, shrew, wife of tool of the year, etc. etc.

We'll miss all your sad little "lol"s. Someday when you're unpacking the ugly ornaments from your MIL you'll likely feel shame for your response to a kind gesture. Or maybe not.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:This is the OP. This will likely be my last post on this thread. Despite all the lovely assurtions about my character, this ornament incident does not define me or my relationship with my MIL. lol We are a happy family and I will smile and be gracious while receiving my ugly ornaments. Thanks for letting me vent on an anonymous forum and thanks for all the laughs.

- Bitchy DIL, shrew, wife of tool of the year, etc. etc.

We'll miss all your sad little "lol"s. Someday when you're unpacking the ugly ornaments from your MIL you'll likely feel shame for your response to a kind gesture. Or maybe not.

I fiind it amusing that there are so many nasty posts trying to call the OP out on being mean. She didn't actually do or say anything mean to her MIL. The PP above however was very nasty to the OP. Pot meet kettle.

[Anonymous]

My MIL has usurped things I thought were my privilege as a mother. So has my mom. The difference is I feel like I can tell my mom "oh, actually, I wanted to do that" and it's not a huge deal. With my MIL, I don't feel like I can do that without her getting offended. Maybe that's part of what's happening here?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:First ornaments are NOT a thing. They're just not .

You've never seen a baby's first ornament?

I haven't. I am amazed by all of this. I am a mom with young child. I know lots of other moms and have never heard of hype around the first ornament. we used to make them at school and bring them home when I wa a kid. Assume your MIL has no way of knowing that this could possibly be an issue for you.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:First ornaments are NOT a thing. They're just not .

You've never seen a baby's first ornament?

I haven't. I am amazed by all of this. I am a mom with young child. I know lots of other moms and have never heard of hype around the first ornament. we used to make them at school and bring them home when I wa a kid. Assume your MIL has no way of knowing that this could possibly be an issue for you.

https://www.google.com/search?client=safari&rls=en&q=baby's+first+ornament&ie=UTF-8&oe=UTF-8

[Anonymous]

In my experience kids don't have ornaments, any more than they have tea towels.

Baby's first tea towel?

Silliness.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:First ornaments are NOT a thing. They're just not .

You've never seen a baby's first ornament?

I haven't. I am amazed by all of this. I am a mom with young child. I know lots of other moms and have never heard of hype around the first ornament. we used to make them at school and bring them home when I wa a kid. Assume your MIL has no way of knowing that this could possibly be an issue for you.

Different poster. My kids have a bunch of them. Seems like every other person bought them when they were born. I thought it was a nice gesture.

[Anonymous]

OP, did you post this looking for people to agree with you, or to get some perspective?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:In my experience kids don't have ornaments, any more than they have tea towels.

Baby's first tea towel?

Silliness.

+infinity

Also someone that's never heard of a "first ornament."

But in my family, we're pretty into "baby's first ornamental wall trivet."

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My MIL has usurped things I thought were my privilege as a mother. So has my mom. The difference is I feel like I can tell my mom "oh, actually, I wanted to do that" and it's not a huge deal. With my MIL, I don't feel like I can do that without her getting offended. Maybe that's part of what's happening here?

Not OP. Yes, my MIL is the same.

[Anonymous]

MIL is always giving me framed pics of my own kids that are poorly cropped out cut out with scissors so it looks like my 4 year old did it. She thinks they will look good on my mantle. Most have gone missing over they years.

Not the fight worth picking.