Am I Being Unreasonable? Annoyed with MIL

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Anonymous wrote:Oh, good. Another "my MIL cares too much about my family and I'm a control freak" post. Put them on the back of the tree. Who cares? Honestly.

These are the same people who will later be posting that none of the in-laws seem interested in spending time with their kids. Because you micro-manage every.little.thing to do with your kids.

BTW if I were your DH I'd be annoyed with you over this. Grow up and get some gratitude.

My MIL loves my kids dearly. She will always be involved in their lives. Even if I don't like her ornaments...lol

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Op, I don't know how big your house is but maybe when the kids are a little older you can geta small tree just for them and you can let them decorate it with the ornaments from grandma?

I think that's a lovely idea and a really nice tradition to establish. Consider this, OP. Growing up I always had a little tree in my room and that was very special to me. I loved going to sleep at night with the tree on.

But why would their tree include ornaments with awful photos of them showing only part of their faces?

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Oh, good. Another "my MIL cares too much about my family and I'm a control freak" post. Put them on the back of the tree. Who cares? Honestly.

These are the same people who will later be posting that none of the in-laws seem interested in spending time with their kids. Because you micro-manage every.little.thing to do with your kids.

BTW if I were your DH I'd be annoyed with you over this. Grow up and get some gratitude.

My MIL loves my kids dearly. She will always be involved in their lives. Even if I don't like her ornaments...lol

Also, DH feels the same way that I do.

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Anonymous wrote:To everyone who thinks I'm such a MIL-hating bitch. Chew on this one...I allowed my MIL to be present for the birth of my second child just because....she wanted to be there.

Wait, let me find that DIL medal I've been holding onto. Seriously, OP. Don't you have bigger issues this time of year? Move on dot org.

I'm not holding onto a medal. Just showing that I'm not someone who hates my MIL and doesn't ever give on things.

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Anonymous wrote:You sound just like my ungrateful bitch of a DIL. I quit doing anything for her so I could actually live up to how she feels about me.

Kids got gifts, son got gifts, she got the finger.

Ouch. This is my DIL too. A self described control freak who seems to believe we should all admire her for it. However, I do my best to be kind to her. It's no fun living up to peoples' worst expectations.

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Anonymous wrote:Op, I don't know how big your house is but maybe when the kids are a little older you can geta small tree just for them and you can let them decorate it with the ornaments from grandma?

I think that's a lovely idea and a really nice tradition to establish. Consider this, OP. Growing up I always had a little tree in my room and that was very special to me. I loved going to sleep at night with the tree on.

But why would their tree include ornaments with awful photos of them showing only part of their faces?

Because the kids hopefully won't be hateful bitches like you and will appreciate that their grandmother made something for them.

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Anonymous wrote:This is the OP. I would love to have ornaments that my kids make. I don't want store bought ornaments that my MIL couldn't bother to even crop correctly. Would you really want an ornament with half of your son's face on it??

And yes, the PP is correct. I have let my MIL be a part of every single thing, including the birth of my second child. We need to set boundaries. Some things are for the parents to do - like create first Christmas ornaments.

Ornaments are a very weird line in the sand. She and everyone else will think you are crazy if you make an issue out of this.

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Anonymous wrote:Op, I don't know how big your house is but maybe when the kids are a little older you can geta small tree just for them and you can let them decorate it with the ornaments from grandma?

I think that's a lovely idea and a really nice tradition to establish. Consider this, OP. Growing up I always had a little tree in my room and that was very special to me. I loved going to sleep at night with the tree on.

But why would their tree include ornaments with awful photos of them showing only part of their faces?

Because the kids hopefully won't be hateful bitches like you and will appreciate that their grandmother made something for them.

It's not like she handmade them. She couldn't even bother to look at the preview to make sure their faces were on there!

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OP, at 34, I am not a MIL. But I think you sound really petty and pretty darn awful.

That you even think this is remotely a problem or thing to complain about, makes me thing you might be one of those people that enjoys drama--for its own sake--and has a habit of creating problems out of nothing.

Seriously, you are being ridiculous. I'm not religious, but you have got to count your blessings.

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Anonymous wrote:Op, I don't know how big your house is but maybe when the kids are a little older you can geta small tree just for them and you can let them decorate it with the ornaments from grandma?

I think that's a lovely idea and a really nice tradition to establish. Consider this, OP. Growing up I always had a little tree in my room and that was very special to me. I loved going to sleep at night with the tree on.

But why would their tree include ornaments with awful photos of them showing only part of their faces?

Because the kids hopefully won't be hateful bitches like you and will appreciate that their grandmother made something for them.

It's not like she handmade them. She couldn't even bother to look at the preview to make sure their faces were on there!

You look worse and worse each time you post. You should evaluate yourself.

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OP, would you complain if your child gave you an imperfect gift that they made for you? Your MIL made the effort to make you something - even if you don't like it, even if it's flawed.

Thoughtfulness trumps perfection, every time. Be kind and gracious.

Stop worrying about image and how things looking. Start valuing thoughts and actions from the heart.

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Anonymous wrote:Op, I don't know how big your house is but maybe when the kids are a little older you can geta small tree just for them and you can let them decorate it with the ornaments from grandma?

I think that's a lovely idea and a really nice tradition to establish. Consider this, OP. Growing up I always had a little tree in my room and that was very special to me. I loved going to sleep at night with the tree on.

But why would their tree include ornaments with awful photos of them showing only part of their faces?

Because the kids hopefully won't be hateful bitches like you and will appreciate that their grandmother made something for them.

It's not like she handmade them. She couldn't even bother to look at the preview to make sure their faces were on there!

You look worse and worse each time you post. You should evaluate yourself.

+1 Yeah, I'm starting to think troll due to OP's insistence on posting and posting and posting trying to defend how petty she is. Ick.

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My kids are 5 and 8 and they have so many ornaments from so many different people that they each have their own ornament box. They choose which of their ornaments they want on the tree and the rest stay in the box. Some years they ALL come out and some years only a few. The good news is that when they have their own house they will have ornaments that have some history. Give them to your child and they can decide what to do with them later. This is not something to get in a twitter about.

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Say thank you and hang them when she is there or get a small tree for another room and let the kids decorate it including these.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:This is the OP. I would love to have ornaments that my kids make. I don't want store bought ornaments that my MIL couldn't bother to even crop correctly. Would you really want an ornament with half of your son's face on it??

And yes, the PP is correct. I have let my MIL be a part of every single thing, including the birth of my second child. We need to set boundaries. Some things are for the parents to do - like create first Christmas ornaments.

Whatever. Seriously, you created the first Christmas ornaments. She created other ornaments. You don't like her, and you don't like the ornaments. Don't make this about anything else. This isn't about boundaries, this is about you not liking your MIL or her gift.