Am I Being Unreasonable? Annoyed with MIL

[Anonymous]

OP, you sound like a pretty terrible daughter-in-law in the making. Indulge in a little self-introspection. Seriously. In your heart, do you WANT to be a nice person?

[Anonymous]

lol. I love posting on here. Some of you are so crazy and read so much into things. Thanks for the feedback!

Yes, this is just one of the many ways that I feel MIL is overstepping her bounds. She likes to play mom to my kids rather than grandmother.

[Anonymous]

Good grief! It was a nice gesture. Say thank you and move on. You can still give the grandparents photo gifts if you want. This doesn't negate that. Stop hatin' on MIL.

[Anonymous]

I get it. It is annoying, not in a big deal way, but still.

I think you can write back, "Thanks, MIL! That's so funny, I have some photo ornaments ordered for you too, so it looks like we're going to find ourselves with a lot of them! Good thing the kids are so cute!"

And do what you intended, put up the ones MIL give you (in the back is fine), and I bet she won't do it again next year.

She's probably struggling with figuring out gifts just as much as you are.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP, you sound like a pretty terrible daughter-in-law in the making. Indulge in a little self-introspection. Seriously. In your heart, do you WANT to be a nice person?

I am a nice person. Thanks! I just don't want something crappily done that I could have and have already done myself.

[Anonymous]

Ah, and she's a boundary overstepper.

Work on the boundaries for the big things, and the little things won't be as bad.

Factor in that you're probably not getting much sleep right now.

[Anonymous]

You sound just like my ungrateful bitch of a DIL. I quit doing anything for her so I could actually live up to how she feels about me.

Kids got gifts, son got gifts, she got the finger.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Ah, and she's a boundary overstepper.

Work on the boundaries for the big things, and the little things won't be as bad.

Factor in that you're probably not getting much sleep right now.

You're right. Thank you.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:You sound just like my ungrateful bitch of a DIL. I quit doing anything for her so I could actually live up to how she feels about me.

Kids got gifts, son got gifts, she got the finger.

And you sound lovely...

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:OP, you sound like a pretty terrible daughter-in-law in the making. Indulge in a little self-introspection. Seriously. In your heart, do you WANT to be a nice person?

I am a nice person. Thanks! I just don't want something crappily done that I could have and have already done myself.

Sorry, but allowing yourself to be annoyed enough about this non-issue to fire off an enumerated list of grievances does not back up your "nice person" claim. Actions speak louder...

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:OP, you sound like a pretty terrible daughter-in-law in the making. Indulge in a little self-introspection. Seriously. In your heart, do you WANT to be a nice person?

I am a nice person. Thanks! I just don't want something crappily done that I could have and have already done myself.

Sorry, but allowing yourself to be annoyed enough about this non-issue to fire off an enumerated list of grievances does not back up your "nice person" claim. Actions speak louder...

And what action did I take? Nothing. I emailed her back that they were beautiful. Why does it make you feel good to call somebody who you do not know a bad person? Maybe you need some introspection? hmmmm

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:OP, you sound like a pretty terrible daughter-in-law in the making. Indulge in a little self-introspection. Seriously. In your heart, do you WANT to be a nice person?

I am a nice person. Thanks! I just don't want something crappily done that I could have and have already done myself.

Sorry, but allowing yourself to be annoyed enough about this non-issue to fire off an enumerated list of grievances does not back up your "nice person" claim. Actions speak louder...

And what action did I take? Nothing. I emailed her back that they were beautiful. Why does it make you feel good to call somebody who you do not know a bad person? Maybe you need some introspection? hmmmm

The action you took was to expose your real self here because it's anonymous. So your genuine, real feelings are ones of resentment and annoyance in response to a pretty thoughtful gesture. That says something about you, my dear. Just sayin.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:OP, you sound like a pretty terrible daughter-in-law in the making. Indulge in a little self-introspection. Seriously. In your heart, do you WANT to be a nice person?

I am a nice person. Thanks! I just don't want something crappily done that I could have and have already done myself.

Sorry, but allowing yourself to be annoyed enough about this non-issue to fire off an enumerated list of grievances does not back up your "nice person" claim. Actions speak louder...

And what action did I take? Nothing. I emailed her back that they were beautiful. Why does it make you feel good to call somebody who you do not know a bad person? Maybe you need some introspection? hmmmm

The action you took was to expose your real self here because it's anonymous. So your genuine, real feelings are ones of resentment and annoyance in response to a pretty thoughtful gesture. That says something about you, my dear. Just sayin.

Yes, this is my real self. Annoyed at my MIL. I'm such an awful person!!!!

[Anonymous]

To everyone who thinks I'm such a MIL-hating bitch. Chew on this one...I allowed my MIL to be present for the birth of my second child just because....she wanted to be there.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:To everyone who thinks I'm such a MIL-hating bitch. Chew on this one...I allowed my MIL to be present for the birth of my second child just because....she wanted to be there.

Wait, let me find that DIL medal I've been holding onto. Seriously, OP. Don't you have bigger issues this time of year? Move on dot org.