My Daughter is Being bullied in KINDERGARTEN!

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:OPi still don't understand - I've volunteered at my K child's very large school every day this week doing the same sort of thing you mention (walk kids to the bus, open yogurt at lunch) and I've seen my son for about 30 seconds total. How is it that you're spending somuch time observing your child? How is it that the teacher knew her well enough to comment on a personality change - esp since no Kindergarteners are really in a normal state during their first few days of school? Your story still seems very weird to me.

Totally agree. When I've volunteered for the class for anything like this (lunch helper) I am so busy I'm not focused on conversations of actions beyond my task. How would her husband have also seen something? How would the teacher know the kid's personality after a few days? I think this is way our of proportion, her own kid is having an adjustment and sensitive, and the mom is looming to jump In At any little issue to save the day.

Another one who thinks the whole story is weird. It just doesn't sound like what would happen in any school or any kindergarten class. The whole story sounds a bit contrived. Any time I volunteered in my kids kindergarten class, or when I was in the lunch room helping, there really was not enough time and there was so much action happening that it is just not possible to sit and observe every interaction with my own child.

I also find it hard to believe that the teacher is just letting the kids all clump together and exclude one child during the first three days of school. They have those kids very guided on where to sit and what to do. They just aren't going to leave them to their own devices like that the first three days of school and they aren't going to let all the girls congregate like that and obviously and deliberately leave out one child.

Unless you are there volunteering during those first three days of school (which would be totally weird, right?) how would you know what is happening? Are you a kindergarten teacher?

[Anonymous]

My DD is starting elementary school. What advice do folks have about preparation to help a kindergartener navigate socially during the first weeks of school?

Tell her to smile and say "hi".

[Anonymous]

My DD is starting elementary school. What advice do folks have about preparation to help a kindergartener navigate socially during the first weeks of school?

next: listen to her problems. Do not magnify them. If you think action is needed, don't upset her with it.

[Anonymous]

I think OP changed facts maybe the kids had problems in K and now they are first. Her issue seems legitimate to me.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I think OP changed facts maybe the kids had problems in K and now they are first. Her issue seems legitimate to me.

THAT would make sense.

The situation as she describes it make no sense at all.

[Anonymous]

The teacher noticed a personality change in a child she's known all of 3 days? That's pretty impressive or highly unlikely.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I think OP changed facts maybe the kids had problems in K and now they are first. Her issue seems legitimate to me.

THAT would make sense.

The situation as she describes it make no sense at all.

You don't spend much time in elementary schools or around children, do you?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:WOW. OP here. This board did not disappoint from what I have seen in the past. Thanks for the one constructive comment. The rest of you, your children must be gems. SO MUCH HATE. I won't be back here so you any further comments are to the cyber universe. Hope I don't know any of you in real life.

OP, kindergarteners cannot be bullies. The end.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:WOW. OP here. This board did not disappoint from what I have seen in the past. Thanks for the one constructive comment. The rest of you, your children must be gems. SO MUCH HATE. I won't be back here so you any further comments are to the cyber universe. Hope I don't know any of you in real life.

OP, kindergarteners cannot be bullies. The end.

Interesting because my DD was bullied in Pre-K. Maybe not bullying like you are thinking but still made to feel bad and excluded by one girl who enlisted others to "ignore" my daughter. WHatever you call it - it sucked.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:WOW. OP here. This board did not disappoint from what I have seen in the past. Thanks for the one constructive comment. The rest of you, your children must be gems. SO MUCH HATE. I won't be back here so you any further comments are to the cyber universe. Hope I don't know any of you in real life.

OP, kindergarteners cannot be bullies. The end.

Interesting because my DD was bullied in Pre-K. Maybe not bullying like you are thinking but still made to feel bad and excluded by one girl who enlisted others to "ignore" my daughter. WHatever you call it - it sucked.

It's not bullying because it doesn't come from malicious planning. Frankly, 4 and 5 yos are simply not mature enough to know how to bully. The behavior may be mean, it may be exclusionary. But the child may not have the social skills to know it's wrong.

Bullying really cannot happen until later in a child's life, when they really do know right from wrong.

At 4 and 5, they're still learning these things.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:WOW. OP here. This board did not disappoint from what I have seen in the past. Thanks for the one constructive comment. The rest of you, your children must be gems. SO MUCH HATE. I won't be back here so you any further comments are to the cyber universe. Hope I don't know any of you in real life.

OP, kindergarteners cannot be bullies. The end.

Signed, the President of the Flat Earth Society. Plenty of "mean girl" behavior amongst 5 and 6 year olds.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:WOW. OP here. This board did not disappoint from what I have seen in the past. Thanks for the one constructive comment. The rest of you, your children must be gems. SO MUCH HATE. I won't be back here so you any further comments are to the cyber universe. Hope I don't know any of you in real life.

OP, kindergarteners cannot be bullies. The end.

Interesting because my DD was bullied in Pre-K. Maybe not bullying like you are thinking but still made to feel bad and excluded by one girl who enlisted others to "ignore" my daughter. WHatever you call it - it sucked.

It's not bullying because it doesn't come from malicious planning. Frankly, 4 and 5 yos are simply not mature enough to know how to bully. The behavior may be mean, it may be exclusionary. But the child may not have the social skills to know it's wrong.

Bullying really cannot happen until later in a child's life, when they really do know right from wrong.

At 4 and 5, they're still learning these things.

oh trust they knew it was wrong.

[Anonymous]

OP, kindergarteners cannot be bullies. The end.

Not True. signed, retired K teacher.

[Anonymous]

Yes, kindergartners can be bullies. It happened to my child - repeated teasing, exclusion, even physical bullying - by one kid who often led others in teasing and excluding. Some may think this is just kids being kids. Perhaps, but that does not make it acceptable. Adults need to step in and show both the bully and the bullied that it is not acceptable.

[Anonymous]

I am very sorry to hear that ; listen to your girl an maybe after school try so see if the other kid is there and try lo play with him; maybe hez/she is looking for attencion and that is his/her way to do it and talk to the teacher or PP. also start playdates with the other kids so your child feel better when is around the bully kid.
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