My Daughter is Being bullied in KINDERGARTEN!

[Anonymous]

It is the first three days of school and my daughter is being bullied in Kindergarten. I am in complete shock that this happens in Kindergarten when children are so young and sweet but it is indeed happening. I volunteer at the school and so does my husband. We have witnessed first hand this little girl isolating my daughter and talking mean to her, pushing her out of line, telling her that she "hates her and to go away" and telling all of the other little girls not to play with my daughter. If the other girls stay for one second to talk to her, this little girl physically pulls the other little girls away. My daughter came home from school yesterday and she recounted every single mean detail us through tears.

I have noticed my daughter's personality has changed quickly and so did the teacher who brought it up to me. We talked to the parents and I contacted the teacher but I am not sure what good this is going to do. It is only three days into school and I don't want anymore damage done because three days of this is enough. My formerly happy confident daughter is a sobbing terrified mess the very first week of her educational career. How long do you wait for things to try to work out? Before you consider pulling your daughter out of the same class as the child? Maybe this school isn't even a fit for her and she needs a school that is smaller, where there are more adults keeping an eye on bullying? How do I tell her to handle it while she is at school so she can regain some confidence and control over the situation?

I honestly want advice from other parents whose children were bullied at a young age and what they did to handle the situation. Please kind and constructive comments only.

Thanks!

[Anonymous]

All of this in the first three days of school, during which time both you and your husband have volunteered at the school and seen this with your own eyes, and the teacher has brought it up with you, and you've talked to the parents?

[Anonymous]

It's been three days and you've already had a conference witb the teacher and called other parents? You sound like a nightmare.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:It is the first three days of school and my daughter is being bullied in Kindergarten. I am in complete shock that this happens in Kindergarten when children are so young and sweet but it is indeed happening. I volunteer at the school and so does my husband. We have witnessed first hand this little girl isolating my daughter and talking mean to her, pushing her out of line, telling her that she "hates her and to go away" and telling all of the other little girls not to play with my daughter. If the other girls stay for one second to talk to her, this little girl physically pulls the other little girls away. My daughter came home from school yesterday and she recounted every single mean detail us through tears.

I have noticed my daughter's personality has changed quickly and so did the teacher who brought it up to me. We talked to the parents and I contacted the teacher but I am not sure what good this is going to do. It is only three days into school and I don't want anymore damage done because three days of this is enough. My formerly happy confident daughter is a sobbing terrified mess the very first week of her educational career. How long do you wait for things to try to work out? Before you consider pulling your daughter out of the same class as the child? Maybe this school isn't even a fit for her and she needs a school that is smaller, where there are more adults keeping an eye on bullying? How do I tell her to handle it while she is at school so she can regain some confidence and control over the situation?

I honestly want advice from other parents whose children were bullied at a young age and what they did to handle the situation. Please kind and constructive comments only.

Thanks!

You talked to the parents and the teacher. Now you wait and see. It's likely that the teacher will seat your daughter in a separate group from the bully. And hopefully the parents will take it seriously. Talk to the teacher again if it doesn't improve about 2 days after you talked about it.

[Anonymous]

Anytime a post says that the OP only wants "kind and constructive comments" you know OP is nuts.

[Anonymous]

I think you give it a couple of weeks, OP.

[Anonymous]

Sorry, OP. it sounds like you have done what you could do so far - presumably you likely had the talk w/ the parents & teacher yesterday so now you need to give it until the end of the week to see if this works.

[Anonymous]

WOW. OP here. This board did not disappoint from what I have seen in the past. Thanks for the one constructive comment. The rest of you, your children must be gems. SO MUCH HATE. I won't be back here so you any further comments are to the cyber universe. Hope I don't know any of you in real life.

[Anonymous]

1. Raise it to the teacher and develop and action plan.
2. If you do not get the response you think is appropriate from the teacher, raise it to the school counselor and next the director of student services.
3. Do not take an answer like - we will keep an eye on it.
4. Do not intervene yourself when you are volunteering- leave it to the school. You can document observations.
5. Do not talk to the parents- they are not there during the school day and the teacher / school should set the expectations for behavior.

[Anonymous]

So I am confused..

I have noticed my daughter's personality has changed quickly and so did the teacher who brought it up to me. We talked to the parents and I contacted the teacher .

Did the teacher bring it up to you or did you contact her? Did you witness it yourself while volunteering the first week of school (?) or did you hear about it from your teary child? Do you know this child? How did you get the contact information the first week of school?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:WOW. OP here. This board did not disappoint from what I have seen in the past. Thanks for the one constructive comment. The rest of you, your children must be gems. SO MUCH HATE. I won't be back here so you any further comments are to the cyber universe. Hope I don't know any of you in real life.

Hahahhaahhaha k bye.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:WOW. OP here. This board did not disappoint from what I have seen in the past. Thanks for the one constructive comment. The rest of you, your children must be gems. SO MUCH HATE. I won't be back here so you any further comments are to the cyber universe. Hope I don't know any of you in real life.

I hope you can't resist and come back because I'm in your corner. I would have a hard time putting up with that. If I saw this with my own eyes while volunteering, i would say something directly to the little girl doing the bullying. You don't want this to be a an established pattern.

Then talk to your dd at home about how some people are not very nice, life's too short to be too upset by it, she's probably been mean to a lot of other kids before you, her parents aren't teaching her to be nice but we value that so don't be mean back, etc.

Good luck. Sounds painful.

[Anonymous]

Ask your daughter to be moved to another classroom and file complaints, be a squeaky wheel. You are your daughter's advocate and she needs you. Good luck, OP.

[Anonymous]

I agree that you should give it some time. You've spoken to the teacher. Ideally the teacher will separate the two and things will take care of themselves.

Monitor the situation, but try not to freak out about it. Your daughter will pick up on your anxiety.

[Anonymous]

I would insist that the teacher give a lesson on bullying and teach the other kids how not to participate.

Not sure why the PPs are being so mean to you - GL.