single mother difficulty meeting single men

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I think the PP has a point about small children. I am invisible to men when I have a baby or toddler with me. They're not my children, but there is a huge difference in how much attention I get from men with them, compared to without them. Honestly, I've wondered if it's some sort of biological thing. The difference is striking.

There are two theories on it.

Neolithic man seems to have viewed a woman's offspring as proof of her fertility and therefore very sexy.

Other primate males have been known to kill the offspring of their male rivals.

Most men don't try to pick up a woman if she's spoken for. I'm not sure if that's cultural or biological. Maybe a baby signals that she probably has a partner?

Possibly for a random woman with a baby on the street. But if a woman is on an online dating site or reveals at a meetup that she has a kid, she isn't "spoken for". So that's not why "men aren't interested in single moms'. BTW, I don't actually believe that men aren't interested in single moms. A woman (mother or otherwise) who is smart, beautiful, and funny will always be interesting to men (single or otherwise).

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:^^ OK all you single mothers have me convinced!

Every single guy and single father views your demographic as the most desirable group to hitch up with. No one else stands a chance because every man is looking for a family from the outset of marriage and what could be more desirable than a woman who has had children from another man or better still, from multiple men?

The ultimate catch would be a single mother who does not work and who has children from multiple men because single men and single fathers have it in their DNA to be a provider for children they had no role in bringing to this world.

Your hatred of women is astounding. Someone hurt you bad and now you want to punish everyone with two XX chromosomes. Partner? Mom?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:^^ OK all you single mothers have me convinced!

Every single guy and single father views your demographic as the most desirable group to hitch up with. No one else stands a chance because every man is looking for a family from the outset of marriage and what could be more desirable than a woman who has had children from another man or better still, from multiple men?

The ultimate catch would be a single mother who does not work and who has children from multiple men because single men and single fathers have it in their DNA to be a provider for children they had no role in bringing to this world.

Your hatred of women is astounding. Someone hurt you bad and now you want to punish everyone with two XX chromosomes. Partner? Mom?

His cheating ex wife. Cue the part where he talks about how wives don't do crazy sh*t in bed for their husbands but love to do it for jerks and jocks.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I think the PP has a point about small children. I am invisible to men when I have a baby or toddler with me. They're not my children, but there is a huge difference in how much attention I get from men with them, compared to without them. Honestly, I've wondered if it's some sort of biological thing. The difference is striking.

There are two theories on it.

Neolithic man seems to have viewed a woman's offspring as proof of her fertility and therefore very sexy.

Other primate males have been known to kill the offspring of their male rivals.

Most men don't try to pick up a woman if she's spoken for. I'm not sure if that's cultural or biological. Maybe a baby signals that she probably has a partner?

Possibly for a random woman with a baby on the street. But if a woman is on an online dating site or reveals at a meetup that she has a kid, she isn't "spoken for". So that's not why "men aren't interested in single moms'. BTW, I don't actually believe that men aren't interested in single moms. A woman (mother or otherwise) who is smart, beautiful, and funny will always be interesting to men (single or otherwise).

I never said men aren't interested. I said when I have small children with me, I am pretty much invisible to men. Of course it's random men around. I'm not asking guys out when I have little kids with me and getting a long-winded explanation about the nature of primates.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:^^ OK all you single mothers have me convinced!

Every single guy and single father views your demographic as the most desirable group to hitch up with. No one else stands a chance because every man is looking for a family from the outset of marriage and what could be more desirable than a woman who has had children from another man or better still, from multiple men?

The ultimate catch would be a single mother who does not work and who has children from multiple men because single men and single fathers have it in their DNA to be a provider for children they had no role in bringing to this world.

Your hatred of women is astounding. Someone hurt you bad and now you want to punish everyone with two XX chromosomes. Partner? Mom?

His cheating ex wife. Cue the part where he talks about how wives don't do crazy sh*t in bed for their husbands but love to do it for jerks and jocks.

Sounds like his misogyny is rooted in mommy issues to me.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Jeff - can you take a look to see if some of the insulting posts are from the same idiot? this is now beyond annoying.

Two of them are from me. So what? I have a strong belief that children need a mother who is married to the father of their children. I do not care whether you like my opinion/belief. I don't like your cavalier attitude about children out of wedlock, but I'm not having a fit because you are expressing your belief. Flaming liberal, aren't you? As long as everybody agrees with you their comments are welcome.

If a woman is already single, what's the point in insulting her? I'd love to hear your reasoning there.

I doubt you're giving men who leave their wives and children as much attitude about single parenthood. You're sexism makes it impossible to take the rest of it seriously. No one cares if you think OP should have stayed with the bio dad. Go start a thread about the importance of marriage if you want to get your message out.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:^^ OK all you single mothers have me convinced!

Every single guy and single father views your demographic as the most desirable group to hitch up with. No one else stands a chance because every man is looking for a family from the outset of marriage and what could be more desirable than a woman who has had children from another man or better still, from multiple men?

The ultimate catch would be a single mother who does not work and who has children from multiple men because single men and single fathers have it in their DNA to be a provider for children they had no role in bringing to this world.

Your hatred of women is astounding. Someone hurt you bad and now you want to punish everyone with two XX chromosomes. Partner? Mom?

His cheating ex wife. Cue the part where he talks about how wives don't do crazy sh*t in bed for their husbands but love to do it for jerks and jocks.

Sounds like his misogyny is rooted in mommy issues to me.

Maybe he has those too. Maybe that's why he married the woman that he did. I just wish he'd wear a large scarlet A placard so we could know to avoid him in real life.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:^^ OK all you single mothers have me convinced!

Every single guy and single father views your demographic as the most desirable group to hitch up with. No one else stands a chance because every man is looking for a family from the outset of marriage and what could be more desirable than a woman who has had children from another man or better still, from multiple men?

The ultimate catch would be a single mother who does not work and who has children from multiple men because single men and single fathers have it in their DNA to be a provider for children they had no role in bringing to this world.

Contrary opinions are not welcome here. This forum is about boosting female entitlement and access to men's ATMs.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Jeff - can you take a look to see if some of the insulting posts are from the same idiot? this is now beyond annoying.

MOOOOOOOMMMMMMM!!!!!! JOHNNY'S BEING MEAN! TELL HIM TO STOP!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Just keep the bio father out of the picture if you want a guy with no kids already. No guy likes to see a man that had sex with the woman he is dating much less one that has some kind of legal hold over her schedule. Unless the suitor has his own kids and similar obligations

It would be damaging to the child to keep the father out of the picture so that mom can date.
If a man is too insecure to simply see the man that his woman used to have sex with, he should make sure to only date virgins.
You assume that a custody agreement gives the father a legal hold over a mother's schedule. That is not universally the case. I have as much time with my daughter as I do because I want to be with her that much and I believe she is better spending more time in my care than her dad's. When I want to spend more time with my guy, we don't have trouble finding someone finding a relative or friend who wants to babysit my daughter.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:^^ OK all you single mothers have me convinced!

Every single guy and single father views your demographic as the most desirable group to hitch up with. No one else stands a chance because every man is looking for a family from the outset of marriage and what could be more desirable than a woman who has had children from another man or better still, from multiple men?

The ultimate catch would be a single mother who does not work and who has children from multiple men because single men and single fathers have it in their DNA to be a provider for children they had no role in bringing to this world.

Contrary opinions are not welcome here. This forum is about boosting female entitlement and access to men's ATMs.

LOL we don't need your ATMs. Haven't you heard, evil feminazis are now breadwinners in 40% of homes. So this is your cue to trot out your usual "it doesn't matter how much money you make, only youth and beauty create value in a female" line.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I think the PP has a point about small children. I am invisible to men when I have a baby or toddler with me. They're not my children, but there is a huge difference in how much attention I get from men with them, compared to without them. Honestly, I've wondered if it's some sort of biological thing. The difference is striking.

This is so weird. I've been hit on with my toddler in tow . It creeps me out.

The guy must have been ugly.

[Anonymous]

Linda, you're back!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Jeff - can you take a look to see if some of the insulting posts are from the same idiot? this is now beyond annoying.

This is the surest indication that there are some things that women don't like to hear.

DCUM is inundated with different opinions some valid and some are not on a whole bunch of controversial subjects. But comment on single mothers not being desirable to most men when it comes to a serious relationship or that overweight/obese people should do something to lose weight for reasons of health, career or social acceptance and it is considered out of bounds.

Why the sensitivity? If women really believe that being a single mother makes little or no difference you'd just ignore the naysayers.

[Anonymous]

It's your sexism that's offensive. You're intentionally provocative.

Get over yourself already.