OK, let's ask! Why aren't you smart enough to use birth control in your 40s?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I am a lesbian. No need.

What if you suddenly meet "the right one," and the right one is a male?

BC, right?

not saying lesbians will switch . . . just playing devil's advocate

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Tubal ligation at 42 pregnant at 48.

Wow!

oh

I'm sorry - I guess . .

I'm 48. I married late - at 37, got pregnant on my honeymoon and delivered #1 at 38.

At 41, I got pregnant again (planned, one-shot deal), and delivered at 42.

I'm 48 and dread the thought of being pregnant ever again.

But if you're happy and OK with it, then much luck!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:We use natural family planning, so no need for artificial birth control.

You're just a dumb ass.

Catholic?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:
Because birth control is unpleasant and I'd rather take my extremely low chances of having another kid versus any kind of contraceptive.

Why aren't you smart enough to understand that we all have our reasons, OP?

Sillybilly.

It's not that OP isn't smart enough to understand the reasons, it's that there has been thread after thread these past few months of women in their 40s posting that they weren't using birth control and might be pregnant, don't want to be pregnant, aren't sure if they want to be pregnant, don't know what to do. Reading about women in their 40s who just neglected to use birth control and are now terminating a pregnancy because they didn't think they could get pregnant at 41 (42, 43, etc.) and already have enough kids is mind-boggling and irritating. I guess I expect better of women in this area.

To the PP who said it couldn't happen to her at 48 . . . yes, the chances are very slim but there was a long thread on pregnancies in the late 40s not that long ago. My own grandmother got pregnant naturally at 47 in what had to have been a one-shot deal.

And another one:
http://www.dcurbanmom.com/jforum/posts/list/397127.page

[Anonymous]

Hey, OP, can you take your smug attitude elsewhere? Thanks!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I don't get why you care so much? I'm one of the pp's who struggled to get pg for years and now have 2 kids in my 40's. We're married, educated, employed with a family. If by some miracle we had a third child, we'd handle it. We're not looking for another, I'm pretty tired now and I'd be really tired if I had another baby, but it wouldn't be a giant life-altering crisis.

It is different than not using birth control as a teenager. First of all, we're waaaaay less fertile than teenagers, secondly we're waaaaaay less sexually active than teenagers, and thirdly we're waaaay more prepared for a child than a teenager would be. Deal with your own sex life, stop judging mine.

I care so much because of all the threads from 40-something women who are shocked -- shocked! -- that they might be pregnant, despite not using birth control.

So what? What on earth difference does that make to you? Thank goodness you don't have any real problems, I don't think you could handle it.

[Anonymous]

bc birth control makes me crazy. and low/no libido.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:
Because birth control is unpleasant and I'd rather take my extremely low chances of having another kid versus any kind of contraceptive.

Why aren't you smart enough to understand that we all have our reasons, OP?

Sillybilly.

Not to mention that sex is waaaaay better without birth control pills or condoms. Everything works the way nature intended.

Maybe for you. Birth control pills and the IUD were zero problems for me, and I noticed no difference between that sex and totally birth control-free sex when we were trying to conceive.

It's probably all in your head.

All in your Head!? Are you kidding me? One the most COMMON side effects of bc is low libido.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:
Because birth control is unpleasant and I'd rather take my extremely low chances of having another kid versus any kind of contraceptive.

Why aren't you smart enough to understand that we all have our reasons, OP?

Sillybilly.

Not to mention that sex is waaaaay better without birth control pills or condoms. Everything works the way nature intended.

Maybe for you. Birth control pills and the IUD were zero problems for me, and I noticed no difference between that sex and totally birth control-free sex when we were trying to conceive.

It's probably all in your head.

All in your Head!? Are you kidding me? One the most COMMON side effects of bc is low libido.

So read a sexy book and get in the mood. Or don't whine when you get pregnant at 45.

[Anonymous]

JESUS PEOPLE. It's called an IUD.

FAAAAAAR safer than the pill for women over 35, FAAAAAAR safer than AMA pregnancy. NO LIBIDO OR HORMONAL ISSUES.

Gawd, you'd think people who have been on earth for 40+ years would know a goddamn thing about birth control and know bc =/= the pill.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I don't get why you care so much? I'm one of the pp's who struggled to get pg for years and now have 2 kids in my 40's. We're married, educated, employed with a family. If by some miracle we had a third child, we'd handle it. We're not looking for another, I'm pretty tired now and I'd be really tired if I had another baby, but it wouldn't be a giant life-altering crisis.

It is different than not using birth control as a teenager. First of all, we're waaaaay less fertile than teenagers, secondly we're waaaaaay less sexually active than teenagers, and thirdly we're waaaay more prepared for a child than a teenager would be. Deal with your own sex life, stop judging mine.

THIS.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Hey, OP, can you take your smug attitude elsewhere? Thanks!

OP here. And no, I won't. Because I hope that this conversation will make the 40-year-olds out there step up, realize they can get pregnant, and use birth control if they don't want to be pregnant. That will spare them either the abortion the don't want to have or the child they don't want.

The multitude of threads on this board alone shows is a big problem that women aren't handling.

[Anonymous]

I love my Mirena IUD!

No hassles, no side effects. Lasts for five years. Can be removed easily by a GYN if you change your mind and want to go for another child. (Not that we do. I'm 42 and we are done.)

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Hey, OP, can you take your smug attitude elsewhere? Thanks!

OP here. And no, I won't. Because I hope that this conversation will make the 40-year-olds out there step up, realize they can get pregnant, and use birth control if they don't want to be pregnant. That will spare them either the abortion the don't want to have or the child they don't want.

The multitude of threads on this board alone shows is a big problem that women aren't handling.

Sorry, OP, I think they were responding to my post ("Another one") and you got caught in the cross-fire. I'm the poster that originally commented on how many threads of 40+ might be/don't want to be pregnant women there have been lately. I completely agree with everything you wrote, especially the last sentence.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Hey, OP, can you take your smug attitude elsewhere? Thanks!

OP here. And no, I won't. Because I hope that this conversation will make the 40-year-olds out there step up, realize they can get pregnant, and use birth control if they don't want to be pregnant. That will spare them either the abortion the don't want to have or the child they don't want.

The multitude of threads on this board alone shows is a big problem that women aren't handling.

Sorry, OP, I think they were responding to my post ("Another one") and you got caught in the cross-fire. I'm the poster that originally commented on how many threads of 40+ might be/don't want to be pregnant women there have been lately. I completely agree with everything you wrote, especially the last sentence.

THanks. The responders I don't get are the ones who snap, "We're fine with getting pregnant in our 40s."

Then fine, if you want to/are open to having a baby, then you don't need birth control. Just down roll on the DCUM next month saying how "shocked" you are.

Women quite easily get pregnant in their early 40s especially. In fact a woman should count on a 40s baby if they aren't using birth control.