OK, let's ask! Why aren't you smart enough to use birth control in your 40s?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I don't get why you care so much? I'm one of the pp's who struggled to get pg for years and now have 2 kids in my 40's. We're married, educated, employed with a family. If by some miracle we had a third child, we'd handle it. We're not looking for another, I'm pretty tired now and I'd be really tired if I had another baby, but it wouldn't be a giant life-altering crisis.

It is different than not using birth control as a teenager. First of all, we're waaaaay less fertile than teenagers, secondly we're waaaaaay less sexually active than teenagers, and thirdly we're waaaay more prepared for a child than a teenager would be. Deal with your own sex life, stop judging mine.

I care so much because of all the threads from 40-something women who are shocked -- shocked! -- that they might be pregnant, despite not using birth control.

PP again. People who are ok with having another child and are willing to play the odds are not really the subjects of this thread.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:
Lots of lame reasons here.

Until you go through menopause, you can get pregnant!

Not true at all. I was diagnosed with infertility when I was 39 and, at 43, have never gotten pregnant, even though I don't use any type of BC.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I am a lesbian. No need.

+1. Me too.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OMG people, IUDs today are so safe that even women who have not had children yet are using them. The only risk of pelvic inflammatory disease is if you have an active STD when it's inserted. http://www.guttmacher.org/pubs/gpr/10/4/gpr100419.html

A lot has changed since we were young and the Dalkon Shield scandal happened. IUDs today do not cause PID.

+1 This.
People are just making excuses for being lazy. I agree this thread is a real eye opener. I'm amazed at how cavalier folks are about this.

I am another person who had to go through ICSI in order to get pregnant. Docs explained to us that without ICSI, our chances of pregnancy were waaay less than 1%.
We were blessed with healthy twins.

DH and I did not ever, not ONCE after the babies were born have sex until I had my (wonderful, awesome, love it) Mirena IUD in place. We didn't go vasectomy route "just in case"--we wanted the ability to keep our options open. What will likely happen is that I will continue to use IUD until we have 100% total confirmation of menopause.

I'm sure some of you think I am being paranoid, but it really took very little effort on our part, and now I don't have to spend any time thinking about it, and I have now effectively reduced my chance of unplanned pregnancy from less than 1%

It's one thing if you honestly want and are ready to take on more kids, and recognize that you are opening yourself up to that possibility each and every time they have unprotected sex. But the folks that just think "it won't happen to them?" Agree with PPs that you are ridiculous.

IUDs can actually be risky. My chances of hanging on to another one are not very good and it caused a lot of issues while I had it.

I was the PP who freely admitted to being lazy about bc. If I got pregnant, it wouldn't be the end of the world.

Please cite statistics. They are one of the lowest-risk BC methods.

Also, if you're really against IUDs for some irrational reason, you can still do essure or get a tubal ligation.

If you're okay with being pregnant, well, I guess your laziness is at least somewhat justified. But lots of 40-somethings aren't okay with it.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:
Lots of lame reasons here.

Until you go through menopause, you can get pregnant!

Not true at all. I was diagnosed with infertility when I was 39 and, at 43, have never gotten pregnant, even though I don't use any type of BC.

Why did you even click on this thread?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:
Lots of lame reasons here.

Until you go through menopause, you can get pregnant!

Not true at all. I was diagnosed with infertility when I was 39 and, at 43, have never gotten pregnant, even though I don't use any type of BC.

Why did you even click on this thread?

Are you stupid? Because I wanted to read it and saw people saying that if you're not menopausal, you can get pregnant. It's not true. Plus, the question is why aren't women smart enough to use BC in their 40s and I had a response.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:
Lots of lame reasons here.

Until you go through menopause, you can get pregnant!

Not true at all. I was diagnosed with infertility when I was 39 and, at 43, have never gotten pregnant, even though I don't use any type of BC.

Why did you even click on this thread?

Are you stupid? Because I wanted to read it and saw people saying that if you're not menopausal, you can get pregnant. It's not true. Plus, the question is why aren't women smart enough to use BC in their 40s and I had a response.

My dear, NO ONE was under the misapprehension an infertile woman would magically get pregnant just because it wasn't explicitly stated by the PP.

[Anonymous]

Tubal ligation at 42 pregnant at 48.

[Anonymous]

We use natural family planning, so no need for artificial birth control.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OMG people, IUDs today are so safe that even women who have not had children yet are using them. The only risk of pelvic inflammatory disease is if you have an active STD when it's inserted. http://www.guttmacher.org/pubs/gpr/10/4/gpr100419.html

A lot has changed since we were young and the Dalkon Shield scandal happened. IUDs today do not cause PID.

They might not cause PID but they can cause excessive cramping. I went from no problem with PM cramping to needing to take an opiate things were so bad, and stay home from work. Out it came and I was back to normal. So not the perfect solution for everyone regardless.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:
Lots of lame reasons here.

Until you go through menopause, you can get pregnant!

Not true at all. I was diagnosed with infertility when I was 39 and, at 43, have never gotten pregnant, even though I don't use any type of BC.

My husband and I were diagnosed with unexplained infertility when I was 31 and he was 33, one year after we got married and one year after we had been trying. 10 years later, and repeated infertility treatment failures later, and two adopted kids later, I am not really thinking I would suddenly be fertile. And, if it happened, we would welcome it, as a previous poster said.

[Anonymous]

Proof positive you can never say never (at leas until confirmed menopause):

http://www.today.com/parents/inconceivable-mom-after-infertility-ivf-mistake-surrogacy-im-pregnant-naturally-1D79841746

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:We use natural family planning, so no need for artificial birth control.

This is a bad idea. As you get closer to menopause your cycles will get more irregular and the effectiveness of nfp will drastically decrease. Plus it means you can't have sex when you are horniest. Hopefully your religion provides enough solace to make up for it!

[Anonymous]

tubal ligation + mirena (for heavy periods, but obviously excellent birth control). no 'oops' babies for us.

[Anonymous]

Birth control pills are fine if you are over 40 -- if you don't smoke. In fact they can take you all the way up to age 50.


And I had my Mirena put in at 45. THere was no serious stroke risk.