OK, let's ask! Why aren't you smart enough to use birth control in your 40s?

[Anonymous]

^Just don't

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:We use natural family planning, so no need for artificial birth control.

This is a bad idea. As you get closer to menopause your cycles will get more irregular and the effectiveness of nfp will drastically decrease. Plus it means you can't have sex when you are horniest. Hopefully your religion provides enough solace to make up for it!

This just happen edit o my cousin! Surprise baby #4 is a few months old.

[Anonymous]

Hormonal bc is not an option for me. That doesn't leave a lot of other options. We used natural family planning with condoms during fertile periods. Worked perfectly for 16 yrs (with 2 planned pregnancies) until one time it didn't.

I hate the smug chastisement about bc. Some people are careless, yes, but some women are a lot more fertile than others. I've had two unplanned pregnancies in my life (one before dh), and I am a dutiful and careful person in general. I also get pregnant very easily.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Hormonal bc is not an option for me. That doesn't leave a lot of other options. We used natural family planning with condoms during fertile periods. Worked perfectly for 16 yrs (with 2 planned pregnancies) until one time it didn't.

I hate the smug chastisement about bc. Some people are careless, yes, but some women are a lot more fertile than others. I've had two unplanned pregnancies in my life (one before dh), and I am a dutiful and careful person in general. I also get pregnant very easily.

Ok, this is not smug, nor chastisement, because lord knows I have made stupid mistakes wrt birth control. BUT - there is an excellent, nonhormonal option for birth control that is far superior to NFP: the IUD.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:JESUS PEOPLE. It's called an IUD.

FAAAAAAR safer than the pill for women over 35, FAAAAAAR safer than AMA pregnancy. NO LIBIDO OR HORMONAL ISSUES.

Gawd, you'd think people who have been on earth for 40+ years would know a goddamn thing about birth control and know bc =/= the pill.

word!

[Anonymous]

well, i did but got a very bad stomach bug. Turns out that the pill went through my body so fast it "didn't work". We didn't use back up b/c it didn't occur to me to use backup and bam. 40 with an infant. She's healthy. I like her and love her.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:When you are settled, in a stable marriage and financially sound, it is not exactly a tragedy if you accidentally get pregnant in your 40s.

Plus the odds are very low, vs when you are in your fertile teens.

Not such a huge gamble.

This. I would be OK with a surprise.

[Anonymous]

I don't want to manipulate my body with extra chemicals and hormones. That's why.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I don't get why you care so much? I'm one of the pp's who struggled to get pg for years and now have 2 kids in my 40's. We're married, educated, employed with a family. If by some miracle we had a third child, we'd handle it. We're not looking for another, I'm pretty tired now and I'd be really tired if I had another baby, but it wouldn't be a giant life-altering crisis.

It is different than not using birth control as a teenager. First of all, we're waaaaay less fertile than teenagers, secondly we're waaaaaay less sexually active than teenagers, and thirdly we're waaaay more prepared for a child than a teenager would be. Deal with your own sex life, stop judging mine.

THIS.

Amen.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I don't want to manipulate my body with extra chemicals and hormones. That's why.

That's how I feel but I have to give a little. I'm in school and I can't get pregnant.

[Anonymous]

Because my mom's oncologist commented that women really should take the pill.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Hormonal bc is not an option for me. That doesn't leave a lot of other options. We used natural family planning with condoms during fertile periods. Worked perfectly for 16 yrs (with 2 planned pregnancies) until one time it didn't.

I hate the smug chastisement about bc. Some people are careless, yes, but some women are a lot more fertile than others. I've had two unplanned pregnancies in my life (one before dh), and I am a dutiful and careful person in general. I also get pregnant very easily.

Ok, this is not smug, nor chastisement, because lord knows I have made stupid mistakes wrt birth control. BUT - there is an excellent, nonhormonal option for birth control that is far superior to NFP: the IUD.

OK, but Mirena has hormones, so that's out for me. Paraguard doesn't have hormones, but my OB advised against it because it can cause heavy bleeding, and I already am prone to anemia. IUDs are also riskier for women who have had more than one C-section (greater risk of uterine perforation) and are often not covered by insurance. So it's a great option for many women, but not a universal solution and didn't seem like a good choice for me.

[Anonymous]

PP, I agree

[Anonymous]

Seriously? IUD's are not always covered by insurance? Men can have insurance pay for their erection pills, but we can't get all forms of birth control covered?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Hormonal bc is not an option for me. That doesn't leave a lot of other options. We used natural family planning with condoms during fertile periods. Worked perfectly for 16 yrs (with 2 planned pregnancies) until one time it didn't.

I hate the smug chastisement about bc. Some people are careless, yes, but some women are a lot more fertile than others. I've had two unplanned pregnancies in my life (one before dh), and I am a dutiful and careful person in general. I also get pregnant very easily.

Ok, this is not smug, nor chastisement, because lord knows I have made stupid mistakes wrt birth control. BUT - there is an excellent, nonhormonal option for birth control that is far superior to NFP: the IUD.

OK, but Mirena has hormones, so that's out for me. Paraguard doesn't have hormones, but my OB advised against it because it can cause heavy bleeding, and I already am prone to anemia. IUDs are also riskier for women who have had more than one C-section (greater risk of uterine perforation) and are often not covered by insurance. So it's a great option for many women, but not a universal solution and didn't seem like a good choice for me.

Essure

Tubal Ligation

Vasectomy

Spermicide

Diaphragm

Sponge

Cervical Cap

If you are seriously done having children, there is NO EXCUSE for an "oh no!" baby in your 40s.

P.S. Your OB sounds incompetent -- I actually HAVE anemia (not just prone to it) and have had no issues with Paraguard. It's not a big risk at all, definitely not a reason not to try it.