OK, let's ask! Why aren't you smart enough to use birth control in your 40s?
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Anonymous
| Because after 9 IVFs with no pregnancies (4 OE, 5 DE) and one treatment during the last DE cycle for immune issues it doesn't seem likely that I will get pregnant on my own at 46. I still get a period so if by some miracle I did get pregnant with a healthy, viable pregnancy we would be happy. |
Anonymous
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Because I'm too scared to "try" to get pregnant at my age.
But if it were to happen accidentally, I would think it was meant to be and I'd be pleased as punch. (Albeit a little terrified!) |
Anonymous
Everything is a risk vs. reward. Only 1/1000 chance of my uterus being perforated. Hmmm.... from webmd.... Risks of using an intrauterine device (IUD) include: Menstrual problems. The copper IUD may increase menstrual bleeding or cramps. Women may also experience spotting between periods. The hormonal IUD may reduce menstrual cramps and bleeding.1 Perforation. In 1 out of 1,000 women, the IUD will get stuck in or puncture (perforate) the uterus.1 Although perforation is rare, it almost always occurs during insertion. The IUD should be removed if the uterus has been perforated. Expulsion. About 2 to 10 out of 100 IUDs are pushed out (expelled) from the uterus into the vagina during the first year. This usually happens in the first few months of use. Expulsion is more likely when the IUD is inserted right after childbirth or in a woman who has not carried a pregnancy.1 When an IUD has been expelled, you are no longer protected against pregnancy. Disadvantages of IUDs include the high cost of insertion, no protection against STIs, and the need to be removed by a doctor. Disadvantages of the hormonal IUD The hormonal IUD may cause noncancerous (benign) growths called ovarian cysts, which usually go away on their own. The hormonal IUD can cause hormonal side effects similar to those caused by oral contraceptives, such as breast tenderness, mood swings, headaches, and acne. This is rare. When side effects do happen, they usually go away after the first few months. Pregnancy with an IUD If you become pregnant with an IUD in place, your doctor will recommend that the IUD be removed. This is because the IUD can cause miscarriage or preterm birth (the IUD will not cause birth defects). |
Anonymous
Mirena side effects: http://www.medsafe.govt.nz/profs/datasheet/m/Mirenaius.pdf I said they can be risky. I dealt with emergency bleeding (4 tampons/hr), severe cramping, migraines and expulsion, plus I bled for the whole 10 weeks I had it. I'm not ready to permanently get rid of my fertility. |
Anonymous
| You're damn right I'm using birth control in my 40s. I had PCOS and my husband had 1% morphology. We adopted instead of doing IVF (previous IUI tries had failed) and wouldn't you know, I got pregnant a few months after we adopted, after having years of unprotected sex. It may have been an anomaly, but in any case, our family is done and therefore we'll use birth control, even if it feels like a waste of money. |
Anonymous
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"Until you go through menopause, you can get pregnant!"
Not accurate. Peri-menopause is generally a 8-10 year period. At some point, a woman's FSH (follicle stimulating hormone) is going to get so high that statistically there is a 0% chance of her getting pregnant. But that doesn't mean she's in menopause - she could, like me, be getting regular monthly periods and these could continue for years. I've had diminished ovarian reserve for 6 years, still get regular periods, and given my family history expect to keep getting them for another 5 years or so. But I have no expectation of getting pregnant. (Although, like others who struggled with infertility, certainly would be happy if I did). Now, it is true that some women have a very short period of time between having these high FSH levels and being in menopause - those tend to be the ones who get the "surprise oops" at age 45 or 46, and then hit menopause as soon as they stop breastfeeding. But other women, especially those with DOR, go for very long periods of time between being infertile and menopause. |
Anonymous
Wow! |
Anonymous
You just described my worst nightmare. |
Anonymous
Mine too. I got a tubal at 43, after my surprise baby, and sweated out the next decade. A lot of women listen to all the sensational stuff from media doctors about how fertility drops to almost nil in the forties. Surprise baby happened to me, in spite of using a condom, and at a time when according to my cycle, I shouldn't have been anywhere near ovulation. Don't rely on natural family planning in your forties, ladies. The ovaries throw some Hail Mary eggs at random times. |
Anonymous
Loved, loved, loved my Mirena! It hurt at first and I had some bleeding the first few months, then NO periods at all and lots of carefree sex. It was like I wasn't using any birth control at all. |
Anonymous
 I mean congrats!
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Anonymous
Perhaps congrats are not in order. |
Anonymous
My husband did it with two of his kids... oops. |
Anonymous
Haha, I love this. |
Anonymous
I was hoping for that kind of luck too when I got it. |