My grandmother's ring

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I think it's so sad that your mom wanted to charge you for your grandmother's jewelry while giving your sister the ring. Honestly, you really need to reconsider supporting your mother. And maybe buy whatever jewelry your mom is selling then let her know that because you had to buy it, you won't be able to help support her.

Also, if both you and your sister are lawyers, why are you so much richer than she?

My sister has quit TWO jobs. Yes, two in this crap market because she was "stressed out" in one since she was billing about 1,900-2,000 a year and the other she quit to move in with her boyfriend in another city. I'm also older than her. But mainly quitting two jobs a few years after graduating law school without another job lined up isn't exactly great for the finances.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Time to stonewall both of them, especially your vile and Dickensian mother. You can send Christmas cards if they depict you frolicing in St Barths. You may reply to apologetic emails, that is all. What your Mom did belies some deep simmering resentments- maybe she is angry you never bought her a Cadillac, or whatever arbitrary crazy notion she has in her head about your "wealth" and she is using this to hurt you.

She has probably discussed this with your sister and she is avoiding the conflict because she knows a discussion will only hurt you more and or put her in a worse light. How can she realistically give it to you and thereby betray your Mom?

I agree- you don't want the ring now, its just a symbol of nastiness.

Ignore the PP's that call you entitled...they are too dense to get that you aren't in it for the money. Leave that to Mommy Dearest...

Thanks for this. It is hilarious! And cheered me up. Maybe I'll make up for this by purchasing less of a wedding gift for my sister - I've spoiled her for her whole life, so maybe its time to cut back. (Including come to think of it by buying her a designer bag for Christmas because she complained the last one I gave her was "worn."

[Anonymous]

I am going through a similar thing. My grandmother offered me her engagement ring but I didn't yet take it while she was alive. My grandma died early Monday morning and, within hours my mother was on the phone with my brothe's longtime live-in girlfriend offering it to HER!!! Now,my mother didn't know of my grandmother's offer to me but I told her on Tuesday and she still refused. She copped an attitude saying it should've been hers anyway and she could do what she wants with it. She should respect my gram's wish(I was closest to her) or at least just hold on to it for the both of us. She doesn't want it (also strange) so the giving it to me NOT MY BROTHER'S GIRLFRIEND, who by the way didn't even pay her respects at the wake or funeral to my grandmother; she was a no show (and not out of fear of funerals). My grandmother hadgiven me her wedding band in the past and that is my mother's excuse for overriding my grandmother's wishes. I don't care; it was what she wanted and I am her descendant for crying out loud!

So I hear you my friend!