My 13 year old looking at porn

[Anonymous]

When my son did this at 12, we had a frank discussion about it. He was googling images with search topics like "big bras" and " preteen girls". My message to him was that is wad normal to be curious. I told him that normal, healthy ADULTS have sex lives. I also told him that I didn't want him to stumble across something that could negatively effect his chance to have a healthy sex life in the future. I also explained, to his level of course, about child porn and let him knoe that any pre teen girls that were nude on the internet were victims of a crime.

He is know 15 and has no issues with porn. We check his internet history regularly, as does the school. He does not have internet access on his phone. We also engage in frank discussions about sex and sexuality.

[Anonymous]

I'm pp. Sorry for the typos.

[Anonymous]

In my opinion which i might or might not be wrong is that its normal. Like children always grow intrested in different things so im sure even children cant be controled of what he/she likes therefore i think its okay but it is of course you choice of what is and is not best for your child

[Anonymous]

And also maybe let him be.

[Anonymous]

[quote=Anonymous]I don't see anything wrong with a 13 year old getting curious and clicking on a site. I wouldn't even discuss it with him. [/quote]

Are you a parent or what? This is the stupidest comment I have ever seen on DCUM -- and that says loads! Of course the mom -- and the dad -- have to address this issue, if for no other reason to assure that the phone hasn't been hacked. Then there is the inevitable discussion about sexuality and responsibility, so if you actually believe this, get someone else -- almost anyone else -- to help parent your kid. You'd drop the ball.

[Anonymous]

[quote=Anonymous]When my son did this at 12, we had a frank discussion about it. He was googling images with search topics like "big bras" and " preteen girls". My message to him was that is wad normal to be curious. I told him that normal, healthy ADULTS have sex lives. I also told him that I didn't want him to stumble across something that could negatively effect his chance to have a healthy sex life in the future. I also explained, to his level of course, about child porn and let him knoe that any pre teen girls that were nude on the internet were victims of a crime.

He is know 15 and has no issues with porn. We check his internet history regularly, as does the school. He does not have internet access on his phone. We also engage in frank discussions about sex and sexuality.[/quote]

Now this is the way parents handle this issue -- not by ignoring it or avoiding the discussion.

[Anonymous]

For the pps saying it's normal - just because something is normal doesn't mean it's okay and legal. I wouldn't punish the kid or anything but a talk would be good.

And for same pps, would you be perfectly fine if this was a 13 year old daughter looking at porn? I feel like there is some sexism in this thread that 'boys will be boys so it's fine and all.'

[Anonymous]

I was looking at porn long before 13 and I was a virgin until 19. Most of my friends were going through their parents or older siblings' stash of Playboy or porn stash by middle school. Totally normal.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:At least it's not gay porn

So true. It could be worse, OP.

Are you being serious? Is it because it's pornography with gay men? Or is gay pornography more graphic because it's two men?

This. No one wants to find out their kid is gay. Ugh.

Actually, it wouldn't bother me to find out that my kid is gay. It would bother me to find out that my kid is a bigot.

You lie. You are completely full of shit.

Man, some people are incapable of adult perspective-taking.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I would be sad and sick if it was gay porn and try to find out who molested him

Ah, I understand now: you are a fucking imbecile.

[Anonymous]

There is a ton of stuff on the internet that I would like to keep my kids away from for as long as I possibly can. Just do a quick search, if you haven't already, and you will be shocked at what is out there. Yes, it's unavoidable that they will see some of that junk.

I think that the only thing that you can really do is keep them busy, engaged and limit their internet time.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I was looking at porn long before 13 and I was a virgin until 19. Most of my friends were going through their parents or older siblings' stash of Playboy or porn stash by middle school. Totally normal.

That was so so so different. The internet has porn that most of us would NEVER have stumbled upon as kids. I too stumbled upon Playboys and Hustlers and Penthouse, and I was shocked by what I saw. But it's so mild compared to what is on the internet today. Today, kids can "stumble upon" porn that involves violence, rape, child molestation and all sorts of terrible things that were never in Playboy or even Hustler.

[Anonymous]

[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I was looking at porn long before 13 and I was a virgin until 19. Most of my friends were going through their parents or older siblings' stash of Playboy or porn stash by middle school. Totally normal.[/quote]

That was so so so different. The internet has porn that most of us would NEVER have stumbled upon as kids. I too stumbled upon Playboys and Hustlers and Penthouse, and I was shocked by what I saw. But it's so mild compared to what is on the internet today. Today, kids can "stumble upon" porn that involves violence, rape, child molestation and all sorts of terrible things that were never in Playboy or even Hustler. [/quote]

+1, which is why the "let him be" PP is all wrong. Today, porn can mean almost anything, so a frank conversation about sexuality and responsibility is simply not optional, but is absolutely needed as soon as possible.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I was looking at porn long before 13 and I was a virgin until 19. Most of my friends were going through their parents or older siblings' stash of Playboy or porn stash by middle school. Totally normal.

That was so so so different. The internet has porn that most of us would NEVER have stumbled upon as kids. I too stumbled upon Playboys and Hustlers and Penthouse, and I was shocked by what I saw. But it's so mild compared to what is on the internet today. Today, kids can "stumble upon" porn that involves violence, rape, child molestation and all sorts of terrible things that were never in Playboy or even Hustler.

Yup.

[Anonymous]

I hope that anyone who "stumbles upon" porn involving a crime (especially involving children, rape, etc) would report it to the police immediately.