Men are only as Faithful as their Options

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Anonymous wrote:13:12, so what are you now doing that you didn't do before the kids.

Had kids in my late 20's and early 30's. Something clicked when I hit my 40's and I wanted to explore more of my sexuality. My DH has always been a great lover and very inventive so we weren't 100% vanilla even then, but he had always been the one introducing new stuff over the years. Things I started to desire and ask for: anal, rim jobs, 6/9 position. Introduced new toys: cuffs (my favorite), blindfolds, rabbit. Switched up places and time of day when I initiated sex: ex. more morning shower sex, sex in the middle of the day even while the kids are in the house (challenging but thrilling), sex in the kitchen, family room couch, etc. when the kids are out. Asked him more of what he wanted and liked. I get a high out of doing what he likes and satisfying him. It's a great feeling.

We were doing all those things when I found out my husband was cheating.

yikes!

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:OP here, I'm not saying all men cheat. I'm sure there are throngs of men who haven't and will never cheat. My post is more about the reason why non-cheaters haven't cheated or will never cheat. If they were offered sex on a platter by women who they find attractive, with the assurance that no one would find out/all hell won't break lose, would they go for it?

Take celebrities for example, many of the good looking men have women clamoring left and right for their attention and most of them end up sucumbing because they can't resist. Now imagine that your average joe DH has attractive women left and right making googly faces at him, do you think he will eventually cave?

But this doesn't make sense. If the average men had all these options, he wouldn't be married. Your premise is really flawed.

and why not? Tiger Woods got married, so did Brad Pitt, and a host of other men who do have those options. What has marriage got to do with anything?

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Anonymous wrote:The nanny/ Au Pair banging DB and another thread about women not hiring hot nannys has me thinking about the statement above. Is it really true that men don't cheat because they don't have someone to cheat with or don't have women throw themselves at them? I trust my husband and to the best of my knowledge, he's never cheated on me, but if Megan Fox offered him a quick BJ and he was absolutely sure that it would remain a secret, I don't know if he'd turn it down. Am I upset at this thought? honestly no. But what does that say about my marriage?

I have no idea whether this is true or not. But do you have any principled basis for sayign it's true about men, and not women? Robert Pattinson offers you a quickie, you're saying no?

LOL. I think I would pass on Robert Pattinson since he is posted all over my teenager's wall. Would seem creepy like I'm going after my daughter's age group. Now if it was Ryan Gossling, umm, don't know if I could resist that one.

Exactly. This is just as true for wonem as men (to the extent it's true at all). BTW, Gossling is less than 6 years older than Pattinson. You're makign a distinction without a difference.

OK, forget Gossling. How about Clint Eastwood?

Seriously? Clint Eastwood. I would feel like I was doing my dad. Eww.

If I went older than Ryan Gossling, then George Clooney would be a maybe. But Gossling has that body that would be hard to resist. Sure he's young (33 I think). But I'm only 41. Could do 33 but not much younger.

[Anonymous]

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Also look at Matt Damon. Rich, successful, famous, attractive. Has every opportunity in the world, yet married a single mom waitress because he fell in love and wanted 3 kids.

I don't get this post or the married-50-years-couple shout-out in another post. Why are you so confident neither marriage involved cheating?

No, you've missed the point. I never said Matt doesn't cheat. But something compelled him to marry a single mom and settle down. He had opportunities to bang a different woman every week or more and he chose this. Might he be cheating some, sure, but if he really wanted unlimited options he would not have settled down.

You can be married and have unlimitied options y' know? the two are not mutually exclusive. You don't have to *want* unlimited options to *have* unlimited options. Many people get married for all the wrong reasons.

[Anonymous]

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Also look at Matt Damon. Rich, successful, famous, attractive. Has every opportunity in the world, yet married a single mom waitress because he fell in love and wanted 3 kids.

I don't get this post or the married-50-years-couple shout-out in another post. Why are you so confident neither marriage involved cheating?

No, you've missed the point. I never said Matt doesn't cheat. But something compelled him to marry a single mom and settle down. He had opportunities to bang a different woman every week or more and he chose this. Might he be cheating some, sure, but if he really wanted unlimited options he would not have settled down.

You can be married and have unlimitied options y' know? the two are not mutually exclusive. You don't have to *want* unlimited options to *have* unlimited options. Many people get married for all the wrong reasons.

Yeh, like to procreate. Not into the marriage thing itself but just want to have kids.

[Anonymous]

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Also look at Matt Damon. Rich, successful, famous, attractive. Has every opportunity in the world, yet married a single mom waitress because he fell in love and wanted 3 kids.

I don't get this post or the married-50-years-couple shout-out in another post. Why are you so confident neither marriage involved cheating?

No, you've missed the point. I never said Matt doesn't cheat. But something compelled him to marry a single mom and settle down. He had opportunities to bang a different woman every week or more and he chose this. Might he be cheating some, sure, but if he really wanted unlimited options he would not have settled down.

Could it be that he fell in love with her? Look at Junior Seau, who killed himself a couple of months ago. He had fame, money, and women throwing themselves at him. Is that all there is in life? Maybe part of his unhappiness was being divorced from the mother of his children.[/quote]

um Church lady, I highly doubt that

[Anonymous]

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Also look at Matt Damon. Rich, successful, famous, attractive. Has every opportunity in the world, yet married a single mom waitress because he fell in love and wanted 3 kids.

I don't get this post or the married-50-years-couple shout-out in another post. Why are you so confident neither marriage involved cheating?

No, you've missed the point. I never said Matt doesn't cheat. But something compelled him to marry a single mom and settle down. He had opportunities to bang a different woman every week or more and he chose this. Might he be cheating some, sure, but if he really wanted unlimited options he would not have settled down.

You can be married and have unlimitied options y' know? the two are not mutually exclusive. You don't have to *want* unlimited options to *have* unlimited options. Many people get married for all the wrong reasons.

Yeh, like to procreate. Not into the marriage thing itself but just want to have kids.

Or just for something to do. A guy thinking, "I'm 35, good job, own a home, little debt, etc etc, what else?, might has well get married". As a matter of fact, women do this more than men, treat marriage as another life goal to check off a list.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I agree with the basic premise of this thread. Cheating is not an option for me because as an underachieving slacker, what woman would be interested?

Don't sell yourself short, women love underachieving slackers.

[Anonymous]

Some men...or people may not even be looking to cheat but flattery and ego stroke is a son of a bitch. An attractive woman takes an interest in them and their ego shoots off the roof. They end up straying because the attention feels so damn good.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Some men...or people may not even be looking to cheat but flattery and ego stroke is a son of a bitch. An attractive woman takes an interest in them and their ego shoots off the roof. They end up straying because the attention feels so damn good.

I think this scenario would apply if the receiver of the attention was a man or a woman. I strayed because of the flattery and ego stroke from an attractive man. It was so addictive, like a drug.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Some men...or people may not even be looking to cheat but flattery and ego stroke is a son of a bitch. An attractive woman takes an interest in them and their ego shoots off the roof. They end up straying because the attention feels so damn good.

I think this scenario would apply if the receiver of the attention was a man or a woman. I strayed because of the flattery and ego stroke from an attractive man. It was so addictive, like a drug.

Hence why avoiding situations and friendships where there could be temptations. Works for men and women.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I agree with the basic premise of this thread. Cheating is not an option for me because as an underachieving slacker, what woman would be interested?

Don't sell yourself short, women love underachieving slackers.

Very true. The man then becomes a "project".

[Anonymous]

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Also look at Matt Damon. Rich, successful, famous, attractive. Has every opportunity in the world, yet married a single mom waitress because he fell in love and wanted 3 kids.

I don't get this post or the married-50-years-couple shout-out in another post. Why are you so confident neither marriage involved cheating?

No, you've missed the point. I never said Matt doesn't cheat. But something compelled him to marry a single mom and settle down. He had opportunities to bang a different woman every week or more and he chose this. Might he be cheating some, sure, but if he really wanted unlimited options he would not have settled down.

Could it be that he fell in love with her? Look at Junior Seau, who killed himself a couple of months ago. He had fame, money, and women throwing themselves at him. Is that all there is in life? Maybe part of his unhappiness was being divorced from the mother of his children.[/quote]

um Church lady, I highly doubt that

What does church have to do with it? Believe it or not, some of these guys actually want a good family life.

[Anonymous]

I'm a fat asexual. It just seems like too much work for me.

[Anonymous]

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Also look at Matt Damon. Rich, successful, famous, attractive. Has every opportunity in the world, yet married a single mom waitress because he fell in love and wanted 3 kids.

I don't get this post or the married-50-years-couple shout-out in another post. Why are you so confident neither marriage involved cheating?

No, you've missed the point. I never said Matt doesn't cheat. But something compelled him to marry a single mom and settle down. He had opportunities to bang a different woman every week or more and he chose this. Might he be cheating some, sure, but if he really wanted unlimited options he would not have settled down.

You can be married and have unlimitied options y' know? the two are not mutually exclusive. You don't have to *want* unlimited options to *have* unlimited options. Many people get married for all the wrong reasons.

Sure, but it may blow up in their face. Tiger Woods got beaten up by his wife they are divorced and he lost a trillion bucks. Just sayin.