Men are only as Faithful as their Options

[Anonymous]

This isn't strictly speaking true, but it captures an important truth: people are more likely to cheat as their level of temptation increases. I would never cheat on my DW in any practical setting, but can't say I wouldn't cave in the extremely unlikely Megan Fox scenario. I suspect my DW would cheat if approached by the equivalent male celebrity, as well. People aren't made of stone.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:There are cheater and non- cheater.

Non-cheater don't cheat no matter the circumstance.

Cheaters will cheat (no matter how wonderful their spouse) but they need opportunity and timing.

They may be at a conference - timing - but no opportunity.
They may be at a conference and get hit on - opportunity - but their spouse came with them - bad timing.

So yuo need to be a cheater (which is internal to each person), have good timing and an opportunity.

Totally agree with the above post. I think some men (including my DH) are not cheaters. Just aren't. He would be clueless if a woman threw herself at him. He has always been good looking, even now 25 years later, so I'm sure somewhere along the line a woman has tried flirting with him. He just wouldn't have the time, the energy, the desire, or know how to flirt back so eventually the other woman would be dead in the water and lose interest. That's just not his MO.

I have come across married men who seem to be actively fishing for someone to cheat. They are the type that flirt with every woman they come across. They tend to have lots of women "friends" whom they spend a lot of time with either at lunch or talk with during the work day. Conversations often get too personal and probing. Their MO is by casting a wide enough net, eventually they will find a woman to say yes. But they need the opportunity and timing to follow through. If the cheater has this, it's a no brainer, he will have sex with her.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I love my wife and kids. Of course I do. But if the opportunity arose to bang some hot chick with no repercussions, I'd bang her in a heart beat. Since no one else would know, it wouldn't harm anything. I can live with myself totally. It doesn't mean I love the family less.

I actuallly believe, based on personal experience, that the "chick" doesn't even have to be all that hot. Men just can't help themselves. They are programmed in their DNA to stray. If they can stray, they will.

Based on personal experience, I totally agree with what you said.

Men typically cheat down.

Most likely, if it was a free cheat. As I've paid for all of mine, I've gone both up and down. In the end, a release is a release. Whatever gets the job done.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:This isn't strictly speaking true, but it captures an important truth: people are more likely to cheat as their level of temptation increases. I would never cheat on my DW in any practical setting, but can't say I wouldn't cave in the extremely unlikely Megan Fox scenario. I suspect my DW would cheat if approached by the equivalent male celebrity, as well. People aren't made of stone.

DW here and if Clooney or Michael Fassbender approached me with that charm of theirs, best believe I will go for it in a heartbeat. It's not their celebrity status that tempts me, it's the fact that they are hot as balls human specimen and I would be way too flattered to say no.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I love my wife and kids. Of course I do. But if the opportunity arose to bang some hot chick with no repercussions, I'd bang her in a heart beat. Since no one else would know, it wouldn't harm anything. I can live with myself totally. It doesn't mean I love the family less.

I actuallly believe, based on personal experience, that the "chick" doesn't even have to be all that hot. Men just can't help themselves. They are programmed in their DNA to stray. If they can stray, they will.

Based on personal experience, I totally agree with what you said.

Men typically cheat down.

Yes and no. I'm always amazed how Mr. Hot Dad succumbs to the lure of someone several tiers down, as in the only thing going for her is that she is young and has a vagina (I think). But you're also forgetting the fugly nerds who come to D.C., make it big on the Hill or the law firms or land some fancy titled govt position, and start hitting on all of those gals who would not have given them the time of day 20 years ago (in part because they were only 3 years old).

[Anonymous]

Agree people "affair down."

Also look at Matt Damon. Rich, successful, famous, attractive. Has every opportunity in the world, yet married a single mom waitress because he fell in love and wanted 3 kids.

[Anonymous]

I disagree. I had a years long affair with someone senior to me in my company.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I love my wife and kids. Of course I do. But if the opportunity arose to bang some hot chick with no repercussions, I'd bang her in a heart beat. Since no one else would know, it wouldn't harm anything. I can live with myself totally. It doesn't mean I love the family less.

But that's not really the question. Would you leave your wife and kids for this fantasy woman? Doesn't sound like it.

If you had the chance to bang her every week which would increase the likelihood of your wife finding out (less sexual energy and motivation for her, etc.) would you do that? If your wife started complaining that her sexual needs weren't being met would you then stop? Sounds like you would.

So I'm not sure I agree with OP. A one time thing, sure, but ultimately sounds like you chose your wife.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I love my wife and kids. Of course I do. But if the opportunity arose to bang some hot chick with no repercussions, I'd bang her in a heart beat. Since no one else would know, it wouldn't harm anything. I can live with myself totally. It doesn't mean I love the family less.

But that's not really the question. Would you leave your wife and kids for this fantasy woman? Doesn't sound like it.

If you had the chance to bang her every week which would increase the likelihood of your wife finding out (less sexual energy and motivation for her, etc.) would you do that? If your wife started complaining that her sexual needs weren't being met would you then stop? Sounds like you would.

So I'm not sure I agree with OP. A one time thing, sure, but ultimately sounds like you chose your wife.

Wait. You answered all the parts I was suppose to answer!!
It would be No, Yes, Yes.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I think it also comes down to personalities. My husband is an introvert and not all that sexually adventurous - never had a one night stand even as a good-looking single man. So of the two of us, I honestly think I'd be the one more likely to stray in the given scenario.

As a woman, it is much easier for you to cheat.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:The nanny/ Au Pair banging DB and another thread about women not hiring hot nannys has me thinking about the statement above. Is it really true that men don't cheat because they don't have someone to cheat with or don't have women throw themselves at them? I trust my husband and to the best of my knowledge, he's never cheated on me, but if Megan Fox offered him a quick BJ and he was absolutely sure that it would remain a secret, I don't know if he'd turn it down. Am I upset at this thought? honestly no. But what does that say about my marriage?

Turn this around. Say Ryan Reynolds gave you a call right now, what would you do?

[Anonymous]

By "cheat down" it is compared to their wife not to themselves.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I disagree. I had a years long affair with someone senior to me in my company.

Was he/she hotter than you?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I disagree. I had a years long affair with someone senior to me in my company.

Was he/she hotter than you?

No

[Anonymous]

I am a DH who would never chest. The truth is, my wife is an animal in bed so I am very well satisfied. She is enough for me.