Men are only as Faithful as their Options

[Anonymous]

The men are more likely to cheat is utter bullshit. It is only because all neurological and psychological studies were based on men for many years. That is changing now. Women may not have different and not as strong sexual urges, but their urge to connect emotionally is there and they may be driven to cheat.

Also becoming easier for women to cheat now that they have more options: more $, income, are in the workforce.

[Anonymous]

I'm a woman who cheats regularly. The workplace has given me the cover I need. It's how I meet men or get time away from my family. It's how I have money of my own to pay for things.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I'm a woman who cheats regularly. The workplace has given me the cover I need. It's how I meet men or get time away from my family. It's how I have money of my own to pay for things.

Like what your lovers give you money after sex?

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Men desire to cheat. I'm not saying that all do. But if a man is alive, with a pulse, he has thought about it. The test will be when desire meets opportunity. It doesn't necessarily make them bad husbands or fathers. It's how the species survives. I understand the desire for women to cling fiercely to the notion that this is not some sort of DNA-based urge. I can say nothing to disabuse them of that notion. For those of us who understand reality, however, we become increasingly vigilant to protect against predatory females, we work hard to cut off opportunity, and we . . . give great head.

It really pisses me off when men say there is an urge for men and don't acknowledge women. Come on, your wife thinks about other men all the time and she's pretty much just as likely to cheat. Women tend to think of the kids more but otherwise, it's fair game.

Women do not have the same DNA-embedded desire to stray. Just the opposite, actually. That's why so many women on this board refuse to believe the entire premise of this thread. Men are programmed to cheat. It may not have happened to you . . . yet. If you make it through a lifetime of marriage without him cheating, you are one of the lucky ones.

This is absolutely not true. There are studies that show "romantic love" for both partners fades within a time frame of a few years because that is about how long it takes to get together, bond, mate, and for the woman to recover.

However, women do have hormones that compel them to be attached to the "provider" man longer, and try to hold the family together, but the fact is these systems are primative and designed for humans that had a much,much shorter life expectancy. These hormones fade as childrearing winds down and the little kid phase is over.

Most divorces are initiated by women in this country, and because most infidelity is not detected or is forgiven by the wife, the wives aren't always leaving cheaters. They are leaving because they want to leave.

Highly recommend reading "The Female Brain." Very fascinating.

First off, it is much easier for a woman to cheat than a man. Second, there are many reasons why women file for most divorces. Men are too chickensh$t to hurt a woman and wait for her to file, men are concerned that if they file, it will mean a worse settlement for them, and some men are just pussies who want a woman to take care of them and will stay until she dumps him.

Why is it easier for a woman to cheat than a man? Because you think all men are sex craved beasts and will stray if sex is offered?

BS - I think you over generalize and insult both men and women with that statement. It comes down to who has character and who doesn't, plain and simple. Women and men have the power to make choices. Some people are more inclined than others to make the wrong choices while some people are more inclined than others to make the right choices.

Any woman who doesn't weigh 200 lbs can walk into a Georgetown bar and leave with a different person every night of the week if she desires. The great majority of men cannot. Biology pure and simple.

This is also a myth. I don't remember the last time I got hit on and I'm not fat, obese or ugly.

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Anonymous wrote:Men desire to cheat. I'm not saying that all do. But if a man is alive, with a pulse, he has thought about it. The test will be when desire meets opportunity. It doesn't necessarily make them bad husbands or fathers. It's how the species survives. I understand the desire for women to cling fiercely to the notion that this is not some sort of DNA-based urge. I can say nothing to disabuse them of that notion. For those of us who understand reality, however, we become increasingly vigilant to protect against predatory females, we work hard to cut off opportunity, and we . . . give great head.

It really pisses me off when men say there is an urge for men and don't acknowledge women. Come on, your wife thinks about other men all the time and she's pretty much just as likely to cheat. Women tend to think of the kids more but otherwise, it's fair game.

Women do not have the same DNA-embedded desire to stray. Just the opposite, actually. That's why so many women on this board refuse to believe the entire premise of this thread. Men are programmed to cheat. It may not have happened to you . . . yet. If you make it through a lifetime of marriage without him cheating, you are one of the lucky ones.

This is absolutely not true. There are studies that show "romantic love" for both partners fades within a time frame of a few years because that is about how long it takes to get together, bond, mate, and for the woman to recover.

However, women do have hormones that compel them to be attached to the "provider" man longer, and try to hold the family together, but the fact is these systems are primative and designed for humans that had a much,much shorter life expectancy. These hormones fade as childrearing winds down and the little kid phase is over.

Most divorces are initiated by women in this country, and because most infidelity is not detected or is forgiven by the wife, the wives aren't always leaving cheaters. They are leaving because they want to leave.

Highly recommend reading "The Female Brain." Very fascinating.

First off, it is much easier for a woman to cheat than a man. Second, there are many reasons why women file for most divorces. Men are too chickensh$t to hurt a woman and wait for her to file, men are concerned that if they file, it will mean a worse settlement for them, and some men are just pussies who want a woman to take care of them and will stay until she dumps him.

Why is it easier for a woman to cheat than a man? Because you think all men are sex craved beasts and will stray if sex is offered?

BS - I think you over generalize and insult both men and women with that statement. It comes down to who has character and who doesn't, plain and simple. Women and men have the power to make choices. Some people are more inclined than others to make the wrong choices while some people are more inclined than others to make the right choices.

Any woman who doesn't weigh 200 lbs can walk into a Georgetown bar and leave with a different person every night of the week if she desires. The great majority of men cannot. Biology pure and simple.

This is also a myth. I don't remember the last time I got hit on and I'm not fat, obese or ugly.

You may not be hit on because you are subconsciously putting out those "I don't want to cheat vibes." But if you even displayed a slight sign that you might be ripe for the picking, I think you'd find a swarm of bees humming your way. It's the great thing about being a woman - it's so easy to hold sway over a man - they are powerless in the face of the V.

[Anonymous]

PP, we aren't always led by our dicks. Myself included, I don't know one guy ego hasn't turned down sex.

[Anonymous]

9:14, here's an experiment for you. Pick any guy you know, I mean any. Depending on the guy, you'll have to adjust your approach. It may be start out as innocent flirting which escalates. It may be more direct - I've actually told someone straightaway that I was looking for a no strings attached f#@k session. He had his pants off the minute he found an empty office. My point is that I guarantee you that if you put your mind to it, that within a week, and much likely well before then, you could f#@k him if you wanted to. Men are pigs that way. But if you're a piglet like me, it's a wonderful world.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:9:14, here's an experiment for you. Pick any guy you know, I mean any. Depending on the guy, you'll have to adjust your approach. It may be start out as innocent flirting which escalates. It may be more direct - I've actually told someone straightaway that I was looking for a no strings attached f#@k session. He had his pants off the minute he found an empty office. My point is that I guarantee you that if you put your mind to it, that within a week, and much likely well before then, you could f#@k him if you wanted to. Men are pigs that way. But if you're a piglet like me, it's a wonderful world.

Damn, what I wouldn't do to be a woman.....

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:9:14, here's an experiment for you. Pick any guy you know, I mean any. Depending on the guy, you'll have to adjust your approach. It may be start out as innocent flirting which escalates. It may be more direct - I've actually told someone straightaway that I was looking for a no strings attached f#@k session. He had his pants off the minute he found an empty office. My point is that I guarantee you that if you put your mind to it, that within a week, and much likely well before then, you could f#@k him if you wanted to. Men are pigs that way. But if you're a piglet like me, it's a wonderful world.

Haven't we gone through this already? A lot of married men would turn this down.

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Anonymous wrote:9:14, here's an experiment for you. Pick any guy you know, I mean any. Depending on the guy, you'll have to adjust your approach. It may be start out as innocent flirting which escalates. It may be more direct - I've actually told someone straightaway that I was looking for a no strings attached f#@k session. He had his pants off the minute he found an empty office. My point is that I guarantee you that if you put your mind to it, that within a week, and much likely well before then, you could f#@k him if you wanted to. Men are pigs that way. But if you're a piglet like me, it's a wonderful world.

Haven't we gone through this already? A lot of married men would turn this down.

You can say it all you want. It doesn't make it true. But try the experiment discussed in pp and come back here and share your findings.

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Anonymous wrote:9:14, here's an experiment for you. Pick any guy you know, I mean any. Depending on the guy, you'll have to adjust your approach. It may be start out as innocent flirting which escalates. It may be more direct - I've actually told someone straightaway that I was looking for a no strings attached f#@k session. He had his pants off the minute he found an empty office. My point is that I guarantee you that if you put your mind to it, that within a week, and much likely well before then, you could f#@k him if you wanted to. Men are pigs that way. But if you're a piglet like me, it's a wonderful world.

Haven't we gone through this already? A lot of married men would turn this down.

I think (hope?) this would be true. But the fact that some (many?) would not is depressing. I'm going to drag my husband to church this Sunday.

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Anonymous wrote:9:14, here's an experiment for you. Pick any guy you know, I mean any. Depending on the guy, you'll have to adjust your approach. It may be start out as innocent flirting which escalates. It may be more direct - I've actually told someone straightaway that I was looking for a no strings attached f#@k session. He had his pants off the minute he found an empty office. My point is that I guarantee you that if you put your mind to it, that within a week, and much likely well before then, you could f#@k him if you wanted to. Men are pigs that way. But if you're a piglet like me, it's a wonderful world.

Haven't we gone through this already? A lot of married men would turn this down.

I think (hope?) this would be true. But the fact that some (many?) would not is depressing. I'm going to drag my husband to church this Sunday.

Why don't you have an honest talk with him? Ask him his feelings on the subject and your thoughts.

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Anonymous wrote:9:14, here's an experiment for you. Pick any guy you know, I mean any. Depending on the guy, you'll have to adjust your approach. It may be start out as innocent flirting which escalates. It may be more direct - I've actually told someone straightaway that I was looking for a no strings attached f#@k session. He had his pants off the minute he found an empty office. My point is that I guarantee you that if you put your mind to it, that within a week, and much likely well before then, you could f#@k him if you wanted to. Men are pigs that way. But if you're a piglet like me, it's a wonderful world.

Haven't we gone through this already? A lot of married men would turn this down.

I think (hope?) this would be true. But the fact that some (many?) would not is depressing. I'm going to drag my husband to church this Sunday.

Don't let a few comments make you worry. For most of us, we want to be appreciated. Mix in having you be a "bad girl" once in a while and indulge in a fantasy and we are happy to stay loyal to you.

[Anonymous]

Married 50+ years. We both screwed around on the side. Never had anything to do with, or had an affect our relationship. There were times and situations that arose over the last 50+ years when getting laid at that moment was really a lot of fun! No great martial crisis was ever precipitated, we didn't make a big deal over it. I just recall it felt good at the moment

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Anonymous wrote:Married 50+ years. We both screwed around on the side. Never had anything to do with, or had an affect our relationship. There were times and situations that arose over the last 50+ years when getting laid at that moment was really a lot of fun! No great martial crisis was ever precipitated, we didn't make a big deal over it. I just recall it felt good at the moment

Yeh, by your post I would assume you were part of the hippie dippy generation. Free love and all that. A different time and a different place than today.