Do lawyers make bad husbands?

[Anonymous]

Lawyers are generally self important jerks.
However my husband was an IT guy and was a terrible liar and cheat. So,
Generalizations aren't always helpful.

[Anonymous]

A lawyer who is constantly arguing is probably a shitty lawyer (and a shitty husband.)

[Anonymous]

No. But then again, my lawyer husband is married to a lawyer wife, so maybe we're just two bad spouses thrown together

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:For as much money as they make in big law, I am not envious at all of their spouses for what they have to put up with.

I'll take my STEM guy who is faithful, honest, and introverted any day.

I'd rather be married to a liar than an introvert.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My sister is a litigator and did much the same. She is (we come from) a tenaciously argumentative person, which is good, because her IT husband is a know-it-all-jack-hole, and she can go to the mat with him (and win). However, her being tenaciously argumentative (and logical) is how she is (and the rest of our family is) by nature - it made her suited for law, being a lawyer did not make her into that kind of person. The point here is: some people are sociopathic or narcissistic assholes by nature; that may make them well suited to be a politician or a lawyer, but being a lawyer does not turn them into this kind of person, and you find those people in all walks of life.

She too checked out of full-time litigation in order to be able to have a better work/life balance when her kids weren't yet in school. Once they were in school, she went back full time.

I think this is the only generalization you can make about being married to a lawyer: they are often married to their jobs; their work/life balance sucks.

I am a STEM guy, and I have a decent work/life balance; DW is a physician and does not (and I am the primary parent).

People who have good work/life balance don't often make a decent amount of money.

[Anonymous]

I've been with my husband since before law school, and the one thing I'll say is that he's become shockingly impatient. It's like all these years of billing his time in 6 minute increments has made him feel like every other aspect of his life needs to be just as efficient.

[Anonymous]

I wonder how an engineer and lawyer would do in marriage. Hmmmm.

[Anonymous]

Not sure, but I'd never want to divorce one. Those sneaky, sneaky buggers!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:My sister is a litigator and did much the same. She is (we come from) a tenaciously argumentative person, which is good, because her IT husband is a know-it-all-jack-hole, and she can go to the mat with him (and win). However, her being tenaciously argumentative (and logical) is how she is (and the rest of our family is) by nature - it made her suited for law, being a lawyer did not make her into that kind of person. The point here is: some people are sociopathic or narcissistic assholes by nature; that may make them well suited to be a politician or a lawyer, but being a lawyer does not turn them into this kind of person, and you find those people in all walks of life.

She too checked out of full-time litigation in order to be able to have a better work/life balance when her kids weren't yet in school. Once they were in school, she went back full time.

I think this is the only generalization you can make about being married to a lawyer: they are often married to their jobs; their work/life balance sucks.

I am a STEM guy, and I have a decent work/life balance; DW is a physician and does not (and I am the primary parent).

People who have good work/life balance don't often make a decent amount of money.

I have a good work life balance and make over 230k. It can be achieved. Then again I'm not a lawyer. lol.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:My sister is a litigator and did much the same. She is (we come from) a tenaciously argumentative person, which is good, because her IT husband is a know-it-all-jack-hole, and she can go to the mat with him (and win). However, her being tenaciously argumentative (and logical) is how she is (and the rest of our family is) by nature - it made her suited for law, being a lawyer did not make her into that kind of person. The point here is: some people are sociopathic or narcissistic assholes by nature; that may make them well suited to be a politician or a lawyer, but being a lawyer does not turn them into this kind of person, and you find those people in all walks of life.

She too checked out of full-time litigation in order to be able to have a better work/life balance when her kids weren't yet in school. Once they were in school, she went back full time.

I think this is the only generalization you can make about being married to a lawyer: they are often married to their jobs; their work/life balance sucks.

I am a STEM guy, and I have a decent work/life balance; DW is a physician and does not (and I am the primary parent).

People who have good work/life balance don't often make a decent amount of money.

I have a good work life balance and make over 230k. It can be achieved. Then again I'm not a lawyer. lol.

The thing about being a lawyer that makes work-life balance difficult is the requirement to be at your client's beck and call, whether it's on Christmas Eve or while you're sitting on the beach. And depending on the type of law, most deals are time sensitive and time is money.

Signed,
Married to a corporate lawyer

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I wonder how an engineer and lawyer would do in marriage. Hmmmm.

I'm an engineer, husband's a lawyer. It's hard to understand how we married in the first place. We have fun together. But on day to day stuff, holy moly, it's like night and day.

[Anonymous]

Just finished reading a lawsuit filed against my agency. Wow. I feel genuinely sorry for the poor lady who is spending hundreds and hundreds in attorney's fees. It could have been the cost of a postage stamp to get what she wants. And her lawyer knows this! Just wow.

[Anonymous]

I worked in a law firm through college. Every single married male attorney in the firm except two men (well known prestigious firm) were trying to get in my pants. I slutted it up and slept with two of them.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I wonder how an engineer and lawyer would do in marriage. Hmmmm.

I'm an engineer, husband's a lawyer. It's hard to understand how we married in the first place. We have fun together. But on day to day stuff, holy moly, it's like night and day.

Thanks for the insight!!!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I worked in a law firm through college. Every single married male attorney in the firm except two men (well known prestigious firm) were trying to get in my pants. I slutted it up and slept with two of them.

No judgement here. Get that D girl.