Do lawyers make bad husbands?
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Anonymous
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Every woman I know who's married to a lawyer is miserable. They say their husbands are liars and manipulative.
Is this typical? |
Anonymous
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It's common. Lots of alcohol problems, too. But that doesn't mean all male lawyers are bad. Or female for that matter. But the profession does attract a certain kind of person.
~ Female lawyer |
Anonymous
I can't quote percentages. But I've known as many happy attorney marriages as unhappy, as many virtuous men as not. When practiced well, the law is one of the healing professions, with doctors and priests. Commensurate with the ideal is the degree of temptation to pride, and arrogance, and duplicity, and power. If a man is weak in character, then the law will give him plenty of opportunities to fail as a person. I will admit that I've said, on occasion, "Don't talk like a lawyer to me!". But my husband is scrupulously honest, patient with his (sometimes reprehensible) clients, and kind. But that is because he is a good man whose profession is the law. Even he admits he can understand why so many attorneys turn to alcohol, though. |
Anonymous
No. My lawyer husband is not a liar or manipulative. He is a type B through and through, and I will admit he's only marginally successful at a medium powered job. Maybe the real question is whether women who are not lawyers themselves can be happily married to a type A successful attorney. |
Anonymous
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I think certain *practice areas* of law attract a personality type. And that "type" of guy is not a good, all-around guy. In fact they tend to be the consummate prick.
Conversely, the sweet, good character, even-tempered male lawyers I know are NOT in the practice areas I'm thinking of above ^^^. |
Anonymous
LOL 
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Anonymous
| My husband is a type A attorney working in a high-powered government job, and he's an honest, loving, supporting, and hilarious spouse. He's also an amazing dad. We have our ups and downs like any couple, but overall we're very happy and have a highly functional marriage. I agree with the PPs--a good man is a good man, regardless of his profession. I will say, though, that law is a stressful profession, and doesn't always bring out the best in people. |
Anonymous
| I'm a type A lawyer and my husband is a lawyer but not type a personality. He is the sweetest most honest and helpful man alive. Happiness in marriage has nothing to do profession. |
Anonymous
Sorry to sound so DCUMish, but maybe it's time you expand your friendships? I'm a lawyer married to a lawyer and find most to be honest and (too) hard-working. As others have said, a liar is a liar in any profession. |
Anonymous
+1. I am the type-A lawyer -- my husband is much more laid back about lawyering and a great husband/father as well. |
Anonymous
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Hey type A lawyer ladies. Have you considered that you are possibly the prick lawyers here?
Of course it depends on what you mean when you call yourself "type A." if that just means driven to do your best at all times, hate compromise, and get up at 4:45 to train for marathon, and also organize your handbag collection ... that's one thing. That's "driven." However the kind of guy I'm thinking of (I'm a PP) is perhaps also driven, but more to the point, he's a cold-eyed shark. Who goes for blood because it's a fun sport. Who'd step over an ailing pregnant woman if it meant the difference between winning and losing. I suspect that you females calling yourself "type A" aren't really that personality type. I've met, like, 4 in my lifetime and that includes practicing law. |
Anonymous
Happiness in a marriage can be impacted by professions or side interests: stripper, mob enforcer, pornographer, drug dealer [vocation or avocation], pitbull breeder, gun enthusiast. |
Anonymous
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No, women lawyers make horrible spouses and mothers. It's not their fault, the private profession essentially makes them choose their home or their career.
If a man is in NYC, DC, or Boston and in a Big Law firm, then odds are he is tempted by women, drugs, etc. That doesn't make every lawyer bad, however. |
Anonymous
| My litigating, biglaw partner of a husband is a class A prick. He's a horrible husband and treats our marriage like a courtroom. Fortunately, I'm getting out soon! |
Anonymous
| I'm a type B "lady lawyer" and I would NEVER date another lawyer. Gross, ew, yuck. There are plenty of lawyers out there who make a shitload of money, but you pay the price with your family time. Plus lawyer personalities are generally competitive and argumentative. No thank you. |