Do lawyers make bad husbands?

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If he works more than 40 hours a week, he gets comp time. Often he works fewer than 40 hours, but gives free community seminars in the evenings or on weekends to make up the time. Reduced commuting costs negate some of his pay cut. He also gets a lot of vacation time, sick leave and flex time, which he says is a pretty good deal for a lawyer.

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Anonymous wrote:It's common. Lots of alcohol problems, too. But that doesn't mean all male lawyers are bad. Or female for that matter. But the profession does attract a certain kind of person.

~ Female lawyer

Depends what you want in a husband. Male lawyers are not often Lord Byron types, but they are reliable, hard working usually. I do second the alcohol issues though.

~Another female lawyer married to a male lawyer

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Anonymous wrote:Not all lawyers are the same, but I will say that there are some people who fit the "prick" definition who are attracted to and rewarded by the legal profession. Here are some of the common traits you can find in these sorts of lawyers (male or female, although probably more common in males):

narcissistic personality

low degree of empathy

argumentativeness and trouble ever being "wrong" in an argument

type "A", aggressive, angry personality

substance abuser

Absent the substance abuse that describes every female lawyer I ever worked with or encountered.

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Anonymous wrote:No, women lawyers make horrible spouses and mothers. It's not their fault, the private profession essentially makes them choose their home or their career.

If a man is in NYC, DC, or Boston and in a Big Law firm, then odds are he is tempted by women, drugs, etc. That doesn't make every lawyer bad, however.

Good thing many female lawyers aren't in private practice then, huh? Ignoramus.

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Anonymous wrote:My litigating, biglaw partner of a husband is a class A prick. He's a horrible husband and treats our marriage like a courtroom. Fortunately, I'm getting out soon!

Litigators are like surgeons - the worst of their respective professions.

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Anonymous wrote:No, women lawyers make horrible spouses and mothers. It's not their fault, the private profession essentially makes them choose their home or their career.

If a man is in NYC, DC, or Boston and in a Big Law firm, then odds are he is tempted by women, drugs, etc. That doesn't make every lawyer bad, however.

Are you kidding me??? MY DH is an attorney at a very large firm and I can tell you he is not tempted by women or drugs. Everyone at his firm is a huge dork. Smart and hardworking, but dorks nonetheless. This post literally made me laugh at loud at my desk at my large law firm. You people watch way too much TV.

Ha! I have to agree 100%! Married to a big law partner and they are the dorkiest group of people I know.

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Anonymous wrote:Dude, I'm in a relationship, we have a child together. He is a blue collar guy. Don't worry about me.

classy

Thanks for clarifying.

This is why I love lawyers.

Having kids out of wedlock may be common but it's not classy.

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Anonymous wrote:If a man is in NYC, DC, or Boston and in a Big Law firm, then odds are he is tempted by women, drugs, etc. That doesn't make every lawyer bad, however.

Maybe if he's on the set of "The Good Wife" or in a John Grisham movie, but not so much in real life. I've actually worked at BigLaw in NYC and DC for most of my adult life. Trust me, very few of the women (or men) are particularly tempting, and the most abused drug is caffeine. Yes, I've met some train wreck people, but not too many. Most are too busy working to get into trouble.

I disagree, based on DC BigLaw. No matter how busy, there always needs to be an outlet for stress.

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Anonymous wrote:Dude, I'm in a relationship, we have a child together. He is a blue collar guy. Don't worry about me.

Oh yeah, I can see how being married to a lawyer would be so much worse than your current setup.

ROFL

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Anonymous wrote:My husband and are both lawyers. He has his own criminal law practice and I work for a very small family law firm. We don't make tons of money, by a long shot. However, absent a big trial, we are both home by 5:30 and don't work weekends for the most part. He is an awesome kick-ass guy and i think I am a pretty good spouse also! There is such a huge variety of jobs that attorneys do, that it would be so hard to pigeon hole a personality type to just the occupation of "lawyer."

+2

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Anonymous wrote:Dude, I'm in a relationship, we have a child together. He is a blue collar guy. Don't worry about me.

Oh yeah, I can see how being married to a lawyer would be so much worse than your current setup.

Because the sum of a person is whether they are a lawyer or blue collar, and it is self-evident that someone "blue collar" is worthless? I'm sure you consider yourself very "educated," but you have no real wisdom about life.

Blue collar, shacking up? Recipe for successful life, happiness and more than anything, relationship stability right there.

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Anonymous wrote:I think certain *practice areas* of law attract a personality type. And that "type" of guy is not a good, all-around guy. In fact they tend to be the consummate prick.

Conversely, the sweet, good character, even-tempered male lawyers I know are NOT in the practice areas I'm thinking of above ^^^.

This, for men and women both. I'm a regulatory attorney, and it is a much more laid-back enterprise than others. We don't really screw people over for a living, and I seldom argue about anything with anyone. DH does technical law, so similarly less "combative." Having worked at a big firm, though, some groups are filled with slimy men (and very few women, period).

[Anonymous]

I married a lawyer and I am a Pharmacist. My husband is not a liar nor manipulative. He is very romantic, loving, funny, trusting, and an amazing dad. He works at an extremely successful law firm but that hasn't changed him one bit.

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My husband is one of the most amazing human beings I've ever known. He is kind, generous, honest, loving... He's a fed prosecutor so maybe that makes a difference?