Do lawyers make bad husbands?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I married a lawyer and I am a Pharmacist. My husband is not a liar nor manipulative. He is very romantic, loving, funny, trusting, and an amazing dad. He works at an extremely successful law firm but that hasn't changed him one bit.

He's cheating on you

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Not all lawyers are the same, but I will say that there are some people who fit the "prick" definition who are attracted to and rewarded by the legal profession. Here are some of the common traits you can find in these sorts of lawyers (male or female, although probably more common in males):

narcissistic personality

low degree of empathy

argumentativeness and trouble ever being "wrong" in an argument

type "A", aggressive, angry personality

substance abuser

You just described my ex-boyfriend. Horrible man and huge liar.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I married a lawyer and I am a Pharmacist. My husband is not a liar nor manipulative. He is very romantic, loving, funny, trusting, and an amazing dad. He works at an extremely successful law firm but that hasn't changed him one bit.

He's cheating on you

Is that so? I think I know my husband and home life more than you. My husband isn't a cheater and we have a happy marriage. Sex twice a day is still going strong, too.

[Anonymous]

DH and I are both lawyers and we have a good marriage, but maybe it's because (according to this thread) we are equally bad spouses and it all evens out cosmically.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:DH and I are both lawyers and we have a good marriage, but maybe it's because (according to this thread) we are equally bad spouses and it all evens out cosmically.

Ha! Same here.

[Anonymous]

I am married to a lawyer, and while he does hate being wrong, he doesn't have any of those other terrible personality traits everyone keeps mentioning. He's a patient, honest man and a wonderful husband and father.

That said, I think people forget that there are also many, many types of lawyers. People tend to generalize lawyer into one very narrow definition. My husband spent many years as a lawyer for a nonprofit making under 40k/ year. He has moved on from that, but we are still not rich by any means. he could go work for a big private firm and work 500 hours a week for hundreds of thousands of dollars, but then I think we would both be miserable.

[Anonymous]

I'm married to a litigator out for blood and I love the fact that when it comes to watching out for his wife and kids and home, he can and will go for the jugular. On the inside, he has the best family mentality and is a great father. I'm more drawn to men with an aggressive energy but I can see how other women could find it overwhelming. We are still crazy hot for each other after 10 years.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I'm married to a litigator out for blood and I love the fact that when it comes to watching out for his wife and kids and home, he can and will go for the jugular. On the inside, he has the best family mentality and is a great father. I'm more drawn to men with an aggressive energy but I can see how other women could find it overwhelming. We are still crazy hot for each other after 10 years.

I'm not overwhelmed by your husband, I just find it annoying. I litigate. You can fight hard without being an asshole.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:It's common. Lots of alcohol problems, too. But that doesn't mean all male lawyers are bad. Or female for that matter. But the profession does attract a certain kind of person.

~ Female lawyer

It's actually female lawyers that have higher cheating and divorce rates than other female professionals. So it's female lawyers making bad wives more than male lawyers making bad husbands.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I'm a type A lawyer and my husband is a lawyer but not type a personality. He is the sweetest most honest and helpful man alive. Happiness in marriage has nothing to do profession.

Disagree. Although my DH is an engineer, and he is quite manipulative. He was emotionally abused by his birth family and it REALLY took its toll on him. It would kill any of them to be nice to him, or say anything nice about him (and certainly, me!).

[Anonymous]

I'm a fairly recent law school graduate in my early 30's (male). No, I don't argue all the time, no I'm not combative. I am competitive and ambitious and I hope to be very successful (though I'm not there yet). Wouldn't mind a female lawyer with the same combo.

Many women I knew in law school were, for lack of a better word, cunty. But many weren't. And many young female lawyers are highly attractive...and that feistiness helps in certain areas...

It's cool to see some successful lawyer/lawyer couples here. Even we can function like normal people!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I'm a fairly recent law school graduate in my early 30's (male). No, I don't argue all the time, no I'm not combative. I am competitive and ambitious and I hope to be very successful (though I'm not there yet). Wouldn't mind a female lawyer with the same combo.

Many women I knew in law school were, for lack of a better word, cunty. But many weren't. And many young female lawyers are highly attractive...and that feistiness helps in certain areas...

It's cool to see some successful lawyer/lawyer couples here. Even we can function like normal people!

Wow, dude. There is ALWAYS a better word than "cunty." WTF???

[Anonymous]

Cunty meaning a mix of self-absorbed, catty and manipulative. Everyone who's been to law school knows there are plenty of women like this. There were also plenty that aren't like that, though.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:"No, women lawyers make horrible spouses and mothers. It's not their fault, the private profession essentially makes them choose their home or their career. "

What ethnicity are you? The "private profession"? Are you Indian? I'm a mother who's also a lawyer and not in private practice, and I'm a fabulous mother and wife.

No, not Indian.

I'm sure you are fabulous when they actually get to see you.

What does being indian have to do with it?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I'm a fairly recent law school graduate in my early 30's (male). No, I don't argue all the time, no I'm not combative. I am competitive and ambitious and I hope to be very successful (though I'm not there yet). Wouldn't mind a female lawyer with the same combo.

Many women I knew in law school were, for lack of a better word, cunty. But many weren't. And many young female lawyers are highly attractive...and that feistiness helps in certain areas...

It's cool to see some successful lawyer/lawyer couples here. Even we can function like normal people!

Only trash uses that term.