Do lawyers make bad husbands?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My litigating, biglaw partner of a husband is a class A prick. He's a horrible husband and treats our marriage like a courtroom. Fortunately, I'm getting out soon!

Can you screw him over when you do?

Are you working?

My friend is married to a prick, too. He is so high-powered and well known that she's basically stuck in the marriage. controlling, arrogant ass he is!

[Anonymous]

"No, women lawyers make horrible spouses and mothers. It's not their fault, the private profession essentially makes them choose their home or their career. "

What ethnicity are you? The "private profession"? Are you Indian? I'm a mother who's also a lawyer and not in private practice, and I'm a fabulous mother and wife.

[Anonymous]

It depends on the practice area of law. Litigators are often aggressive but I've met many many countless type B lawyers who can't kill an ant. Patent Lawyers for example are classic science nerds turned lawyers, you'd be hard pressed to find manipulators and liars there.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I'm a type B "lady lawyer" and I would NEVER date another lawyer. Gross, ew, yuck. There are plenty of lawyers out there who make a shitload of money, but you pay the price with your family time. Plus lawyer personalities are generally competitive and argumentative. No thank you.

What kind of guy are you attracted to? A school teacher or artist? I'm proud to say I'm a lawyer married to a fabulous guy who also happens to be a lawyer.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I'm a type B "lady lawyer" and I would NEVER date another lawyer. Gross, ew, yuck. There are plenty of lawyers out there who make a shitload of money, but you pay the price with your family time. Plus lawyer personalities are generally competitive and argumentative. No thank you.

Another type B "lady lawyer" here and I once swore I'd never date another lawyer. But I found love with another type B lawyer, who can be a prick with opposing counsel, but is a great partner and father. Despite stressful jobs, we put our marriage and kids first. We used to have more problems being competitive/argumentative, but with two kids now we realize what's important in life. More important to be happy than always be right.

[Anonymous]

My (also not super successful) lawyer husband is a total sweetheart, incredible dad, and all around awesome person. He's not aggressive at work, though.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I'm a type B "lady lawyer" and I would NEVER date another lawyer. Gross, ew, yuck. There are plenty of lawyers out there who make a shitload of money, but you pay the price with your family time. Plus lawyer personalities are generally competitive and argumentative. No thank you.

Another type B "lady lawyer" here and I once swore I'd never date another lawyer. But I found love with another type B lawyer, who can be a prick with opposing counsel, but is a great partner and father. Despite stressful jobs, we put our marriage and kids first. We used to have more problems being competitive/argumentative, but with two kids now we realize what's important in life. More important to be happy than always be right.

PP here. That is awesome. It's nice to hear you've got your priorities straight. I guess I won't close myself off completely... but... highly unlikely at this point.

[Anonymous]

PP, you mean you're not even married, but you won't consider dating a lawyer? Good luck with that

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:"No, women lawyers make horrible spouses and mothers. It's not their fault, the private profession essentially makes them choose their home or their career. "

What ethnicity are you? The "private profession"? Are you Indian? I'm a mother who's also a lawyer and not in private practice, and I'm a fabulous mother and wife.

No, not Indian.

I'm sure you are fabulous when they actually get to see you.

[Anonymous]

Dude, I'm in a relationship, we have a child together. He is a blue collar guy. Don't worry about me.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Dude, I'm in a relationship, we have a child together. He is a blue collar guy. Don't worry about me.

classy

Thanks for clarifying.

[Anonymous]

Not all lawyers are the same, but I will say that there are some people who fit the "prick" definition who are attracted to and rewarded by the legal profession. Here are some of the common traits you can find in these sorts of lawyers (male or female, although probably more common in males):

narcissistic personality

low degree of empathy

argumentativeness and trouble ever being "wrong" in an argument

type "A", aggressive, angry personality

substance abuser

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Dude, I'm in a relationship, we have a child together. He is a blue collar guy. Don't worry about me.

classy

Thanks for clarifying.

This is why I love lawyers.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:If a man is in NYC, DC, or Boston and in a Big Law firm, then odds are he is tempted by women, drugs, etc. That doesn't make every lawyer bad, however.

Maybe if he's on the set of "The Good Wife" or in a John Grisham movie, but not so much in real life. I've actually worked at BigLaw in NYC and DC for most of my adult life. Trust me, very few of the women (or men) are particularly tempting, and the most abused drug is caffeine. Yes, I've met some train wreck people, but not too many. Most are too busy working to get into trouble.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:"No, women lawyers make horrible spouses and mothers. It's not their fault, the private profession essentially makes them choose their home or their career. "

What ethnicity are you? The "private profession"? Are you Indian? I'm a mother who's also a lawyer and not in private practice, and I'm a fabulous mother and wife.

No, not Indian.

I'm sure you are fabulous when they actually get to see you.

Did you miss the part about me NOT being in private practice?