Your son was breaking all the cookies on the counter

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:It will not happen to me
I do not go to starbucks and do not eat cookies

I know a kindergarten teacher who knew a kid whose parents were getting divoced and this boy could not handle the thought of his parents living in different places so he would break creaons all day

Either way, do not be too quick to judge because your kid will end up doing something strange sometime in their lives

It isn't about what your kid does, it is about how you as a parents react / respond to what your kid does.

Thank you for being a poster who gets it! I really don't understand why some posters here don't understand the concept of consideration for others and respect for the property of others, even cookies. It's not that a child won't ever misbehave but that parents need to nurture, guide, correct, and set an example.

I don't understand why some posters here don't understand the concept of consideration for others and respect for people, even ones who are "destroying" cookies. It's not that you can't point out what the child is doing, but people set an example of kindness for their own children and the people around them.

In other words, in case you still don't "get it", DON'T BE A PASSIVE AGGRESSIVE JERK.

I'm the PP who said nurture, guide, etc. I didn't mean the passive aggressive response of the OP was the right thing to do either, but I still think posters are wrong when they act as if the child's behavior did not need correction from his mother.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Ha. One time my ex and I were at Dulles on the anniversary of 9/11. We were in a HUGE line trying to get through security. This guy comes casually sauntering up to the middle of the line... and cuts in front of me. O NO YOU DITINT! I gave that guy what for let me tell you. While my ex looked for a rock to hide under. Now THAT'S a pussy.

Girl, you just made me spit out my coffee with wild laughter!!!!! I thought I was the only one who used that word!

Like I said earlier, on page 1...I would have done something similar. If I was lunchin' in the mommy department that day I hope someone would say something when my kid is doing something inappropriate.

[Anonymous]

Wow, does anyone know what we're talking about anymore? All you people up in arms about the permissive mom and the poor, shattered cookies, look sharp: we agree, it sucks that some mom let her kid demolish someone else's cookies. Mom ideally should have intervened.

But the fact remains, OP is odious. Do any of you REALLY think the OP was anything less than obnoxious? She could have just said something quietly to just the mom. Instead, she made a huge deal out of it, "calling" to the mom even though she was right behind her? And then not letting it go? She's said herself that her husband, who had the benefit of being there, was embarrassed by OPs behavior. And she also told us she "looks for conflict." Yeah, you think?

So to recap, loose cookies mom was in the wrong.
But "looking for conflict" and trying to embarrass a mom in a starbucks whose parenting you didn't approve of is also wrong.
And the OP is the bigger offender here.
Plus, the sanctimonious attitude is just so skeevy.

In real life, I'm going to guess that OP has very few friends. Or, she is a troll and this whole post is fakedy fake.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:This is bullshit. Cookies at starbucks are kept behind the glass. They get them for you.

This is tiresome. There are cookies in clear plastic in front of the register -- madelines, black and white, choc. covered graham crackers.

but how can a small child reach them?
the store should do more to make their business child friendly

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:This is bullshit. Cookies at starbucks are kept behind the glass. They get them for you.

This is tiresome. There are cookies in clear plastic in front of the register -- madelines, black and white, choc. covered graham crackers.

but how can a small child reach them?
the store should do more to make their business child friendly

LOL with all the business banning children from the places you want a COFFEE shop to be kid friendly? You're kidding, right?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP was extremely rude.
Child was inadequately parented on that particular day.
I refuse to judge the mother (even though my children have never behaved like this in public).
"Excuse me (to the mother with a smile), maybe we need to put the cookies out of the way?"

In this story, I find OP to be the most unpleasant.

I find you to be a moron!

Ha ha! What a substantive argument, OP et al.!

I will gladly be a moron if it means being helpful and non-judgemental.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP was extremely rude.
Child was inadequately parented on that particular day.
I refuse to judge the mother (even though my children have never behaved like this in public).
"Excuse me (to the mother with a smile), maybe we need to put the cookies out of the way?"

In this story, I find OP to be the most unpleasant.

I find you to be a moron!

Ha ha! What a substantive argument, OP et al.!

I will gladly be a moron if it means being helpful and non-judgemental.

OP here. That was not me.

Anyway, I didn't want to be pleasant. I wanted the mother to know her child was damaging property. And I got it.

Was it you, PP?

[Anonymous]

No - my children have never behaved like this. But they might in the future, and I would be shocked if some one loudly remarked like you did.

People before things. If you can help make the situation better for the people and not just the cookies, please do. If you can't or won't, what Good are you doing by pointing it out?

[Anonymous]

Ladies & Gents:

My oldest works at Starbucks. He just informed me that not only do they not care if the kids come in and crush cookies but they crush the cookies themselves so they can put new stock out.

It is totally unfavorable behavior, I say "unfavorable" because we really have no way of knowing if the child was being "bad" or if his father just died and mom was "zoned" out, if he was "special needs", if mom didn't notice or what the story was.

All the left over foods go home with the workers at night, including most of the packaged cookies. Starbucks is still turning a HUGE profit on your $4.99 grande cups of COFFEE. A pack of crushed cookies isn't going to kill their profit. And again, NOT ACCEPTABLE, but really OP, not your battle to be fighting.

Your kid is 13 months, just wait 6 months before you judge the wild boy crushing cookies. You'll get yours when your little angel tosses her food at you from across the table at your favorite restaurant and you can't calm her, it's not always about how you parent, it's about temperament and personality as well. You'll find this out in due time.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:It will not happen to me
I do not go to starbucks and do not eat cookies

I know a kindergarten teacher who knew a kid whose parents were getting divoced and this boy could not handle the thought of his parents living in different places so he would break creaons all day

Either way, do not be too quick to judge because your kid will end up doing something strange sometime in their lives

OP here.

and if for any reason I become blind to my child's missbehavior I do hope a sane soul would call me out on that.

This is not acceptable. They start damaging cookies, than shoplifting and we known where this will end.

OP, you don't really have such an inflated sense of self-importance that you think your actions saved this child from a life of crime, do you?

If this is real, I feel sorry for your husband.

OP here and I think you're a bit limited intellectually so let me try to be a bit more specific.

It's not about this child or the cookies. It's the mother's attitude!

Parents like this raise children to be disrespectful of other's property (and their own) so they grow thinking it's OK to destroy things that belong to others.

They think they can get away with it and this is wrong! Until when will this woman pay for the damage and say "whatever" swiping it under the rug?

But it was okay for your parents to raise you to be passive aggressive and judgmental? Really? What if this woman was just in an accident and could not focus? Lost a spouse? Found out she had cancer? What if she wasn't focused for a reason and the boy doesn't usually act that way but mom was stressed and upset? Why are YOU appointing yourself the person to judge her?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Ladies & Gents:

My oldest works at Starbucks. He just informed me that not only do they not care if the kids come in and crush cookies but they crush the cookies themselves so they can put new stock out.

It is totally unfavorable behavior, I say "unfavorable" because we really have no way of knowing if the child was being "bad" or if his father just died and mom was "zoned" out, if he was "special needs", if mom didn't notice or what the story was.

All the left over foods go home with the workers at night, including most of the packaged cookies. Starbucks is still turning a HUGE profit on your $4.99 grande cups of COFFEE. A pack of crushed cookies isn't going to kill their profit. And again, NOT ACCEPTABLE, but really OP, not your battle to be fighting.

Your kid is 13 months, just wait 6 months before you judge the wild boy crushing cookies. You'll get yours when your little angel tosses her food at you from across the table at your favorite restaurant and you can't calm her, it's not always about how you parent, it's about temperament and personality as well. You'll find this out in due time.

Lady,

It's NOT ABOUT THE COOKIES!

It's about parents not paying attention to their children! How many times we'll have to say this?

I'm the OP and I was honest when I loudly said that I hope someone points out to me that my child is a brat when she acts like that and I don't notice. I'm not saying I'm immune to this. Can you even read? I hope "your oldest" has a better reading comprehension than your so he can get a better job later on.

[Anonymous]

*yours

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Ladies & Gents:

My oldest works at Starbucks. He just informed me that not only do they not care if the kids come in and crush cookies but they crush the cookies themselves so they can put new stock out.

It is totally unfavorable behavior, I say "unfavorable" because we really have no way of knowing if the child was being "bad" or if his father just died and mom was "zoned" out, if he was "special needs", if mom didn't notice or what the story was.

All the left over foods go home with the workers at night, including most of the packaged cookies. Starbucks is still turning a HUGE profit on your $4.99 grande cups of COFFEE. A pack of crushed cookies isn't going to kill their profit. And again, NOT ACCEPTABLE, but really OP, not your battle to be fighting.

Your kid is 13 months, just wait 6 months before you judge the wild boy crushing cookies. You'll get yours when your little angel tosses her food at you from across the table at your favorite restaurant and you can't calm her, it's not always about how you parent, it's about temperament and personality as well. You'll find this out in due time.

Lady,

It's NOT ABOUT THE COOKIES!

It's about parents not paying attention to their children! How many times we'll have to say this?

I'm the OP and I was honest when I loudly said that I hope someone points out to me that my child is a brat when she acts like that and I don't notice. I'm not saying I'm immune to this. Can you even read? I hope "your oldest" has a better reading comprehension than your so he can get a better job later on.

no, it is not about that either. It is simply about you being a bitch. you don't treat other people that way. the way you handled the situation and your responses on this thread make it clear what a complete nightmare you are. I feel sorry for your husband.

[Anonymous]

Which Starbucks was this at? Sounds like its crawling with assholes.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Ladies & Gents:

My oldest works at Starbucks. He just informed me that not only do they not care if the kids come in and crush cookies but they crush the cookies themselves so they can put new stock out.

It is totally unfavorable behavior, I say "unfavorable" because we really have no way of knowing if the child was being "bad" or if his father just died and mom was "zoned" out, if he was "special needs", if mom didn't notice or what the story was.

All the left over foods go home with the workers at night, including most of the packaged cookies. Starbucks is still turning a HUGE profit on your $4.99 grande cups of COFFEE. A pack of crushed cookies isn't going to kill their profit. And again, NOT ACCEPTABLE, but really OP, not your battle to be fighting.

Your kid is 13 months, just wait 6 months before you judge the wild boy crushing cookies. You'll get yours when your little angel tosses her food at you from across the table at your favorite restaurant and you can't calm her, it's not always about how you parent, it's about temperament and personality as well. You'll find this out in due time.

Lady,

It's NOT ABOUT THE COOKIES!

It's about parents not paying attention to their children! How many times we'll have to say this?

I'm the OP and I was honest when I loudly said that I hope someone points out to me that my child is a brat when she acts like that and I don't notice. I'm not saying I'm immune to this. Can you even read? I hope "your oldest" has a better reading comprehension than your so he can get a better job later on.

OP, I think *YOUR* reading comprehension is abhorrent. Did you read anything I wrote? How do you know there weren't extenuating circumstances that were preventing the mom from dealing with her child? Did you stop reading what I wrote after the 1st sentence as you didn't address my question at all. Yes, the child was not behaving as you would have liked him to be, BUT how do you know the mother did not just lose a spouse, a pet, a parent, get a cancer diagnosis, total a car, have a miscarriage... how do you know she wasn't ignoring the child due to a major life event that you weren't privy to?

Please answer me. Thank you.

"It is totally unfavorable behavior, I say "unfavorable" because we really have no way of knowing if the child was being "bad" or if his father just died and mom was "zoned" out, if he was "special needs", if mom didn't notice or what the story was. "