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Your son was breaking all the cookies on the counter
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at Starbucks yesterday and you pretended you didn't see it. I was behind you in line and called you out "ma'am, your son is destroying the cookies" and you just grabbed the one he had in his hands and paid for it with a "whatever" attitude.
My DH wanted to crawl under the counter in shame (poor guy) while my oblivious 13 mo old sat quietly and happy strapped onto her stroller. I looked at DH and said a bit louder than normal "and I hope people call me out when she acts like that and I don't notice" refering to my child and DH thanked heaven for not having anybody behind us in line 
So now you tell me, what would you have done if you were in my place? What if it was your kid squeezing all the cookies on the counter one by one and putting them back in the basket? |
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First, it is unlikely that would happen because I am super paranoid about DS doing something like this. Such that I am always swatting his hands away and saying "no touch." I am always the mom who is carting the screaming toddler away from the situation because he wants to do something like, oh, squeeze all the cookies broken.
If it did happen (or if we started going down this road), I would: 1) buy the ones that he has squeezed and broken and 2) place myself between him and the cookies. |
Anonymous
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If I was planning to buy a cookie, I would have said "excuse me" politely and quickly grabbed one before it got broken.
Other then that, I wouldn't have done anything. But if it were my kid, I would have stopped him/her. You embarrassed your DH, and I don't see why you care so much about cookies. I don't confront people in those situations -- you never know when one of them will freak out, also you embarrassed that mom. She might have been having a really bad day and just didn't notice. |
Anonymous
| Good for for you, OP. It is too bad that cashier didn't pick up other cookies and charge her for those. |
Anonymous
If you're having a bad day stay at home and let them destroy your property! |
Anonymous
| Perhaps the child was special needs and being "better than normal". |
Anonymous
You think this was about the stupid cookies?? She's making a point about a parent whose child is clearly doing something inappropriate IN FRONT OF THEM and does nothing to handle it. OP was right, husband needs to get some balls and parent should be embarrassed but clearly hasn't a clue. I would have done something similar. |
Anonymous
OP, there are a lot of parents on DCUM don't believe that they are "bad parents," they just have kids who don't behave. 
I would be annoyed, I would have mentioned it to the mother, but after that, the scenario is out of your hands. I feel sorry for the children whose parents don't teach them manners. When they are older, the kids will be labeled as uncouth, and it will all come down to parents like the mom you observed who couldn't care to reprimand her child. |
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I don't think there was anything wrong with drawing the mother's attention to her son's actions, but saying "your son is destroying the cookies" makes you sound like a Judgy McJudgerson. Why not something like, "Oh, looks like your little guy has his hands in the cookies!"
And then your passive aggressive, "louder than normal" comment to your DH was just plain rude. It takes so little effort to be kind, OP. You chose not to be. I can understand why your DH was embarrassed. I would have been embarrassed, too. |
Anonymous
No, they'd never admit that. They have Very Active Children or Very Spirited Kids. For them, it is what it is, and the rest of us can just fuck ourselves because we don't understand. And now, the mother of a child with invisible special needs and a dubious diagnosis is going to chime in on this thread, justifying the ruined merchandise because her life is harder than ours, in 3 ... 2 .... 1..... |
Anonymous
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OP, you are most definitely a better mother than the lady in Starbucks. The fact that your child sat quietly in the stroller is proof. Thank goodness there are people like you fighting for the rights of cookie lovers everywhere. You go with your bad self! Three snaps up!
Now please, tell all your friends and family members this story too, so they can also praise your superior parenting skills. It's only right. |
Anonymous
| Personally I like broken cookies. Saves me from having to chew more frequently. Kidding! |
Anonymous
And when he gets older and keys your car it will be ok too. Special needs isn't an excuse for damaging property. |
Anonymous
very funny!! ++++ |
Anonymous
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OP, you remind me of a woman I ran into at the post office a few years ago. I had a 4 year old, 2 year old and infant at home and ran in to mail some packages. I was exhausted and apparently I was sighing. You know, deep breath in and then let it our with a sigh. I wasn't aware of it. The woman in front of me on line turned around and said something like " you are being very loud" in a very nasty tone. My breathing bothered her so much she had to comment on it. I said nothing and got nice and quiet for her. I have always thought of that woman as a total wretch. Do you realize you come off this way? Even your husband was embarrassed.
Cookie destroyer is a bad child. CCookie destroyer mom was a less than stellar mom. What are you? |