Your son was breaking all the cookies on the counter

[Anonymous]

Okay kookbird, re-read what you wrote, then read what you posted below:

Nope. I don't care about bad manners. I care about bad parenting because that kid will break into my car and cause damage to MY property and MY family.

If the mother doesn't care about her son I couldn't care less. What bothers me is to know that such behavior goes ignored until this kid grows taller than his mom and starts acting out outside the house and governmental authorities have to take care of him. Using your tax dollars for it.

I was watching "Beyond Scared Straight" a few weeks ago and got really disturbed by a 13yo shoplifter that was on the show. His mother was hugging him and saying how good of a kid he was... I just sighed and felt like crying. The reporter asked what crimes he has committed and he laughed with sarcasm saying that shoplifting was the only crime he was caught on.

There was a 17yo who didn't remember what was his first crime. Now you tell me how this 5yo is any different from such kids? Just because his mom had a LV bag? Mmmhhmmm

Anonymous wrote:Hm... you have a serious problem if you didn't realize that the big bad guys stealing things on the street start out somewhere else early on. They usually start as juveniles shoplifting or delivering drugs, or sneaking in homes and opening the door from the inside so the big guys can get in. I never said the little brat at SB is equal to a criminal already on the street. Read again with less anger and you'll see (I hope).

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:At first I was going to side with OP, but then after reading all 12 pages, I noticed that OP called everyone that disagreed with her a moron, or intellectually limited, or fucking stupid etc. OP is a bitch, who emasculates her poor husband so much, that when he hears her shrill, condescending tone, he dives under counters!!! Her daughter probably just plays like she is asleep, it is her only defense. OP is a bully, who rules her world with an iron fist, and YOU HAD BETTER, do things the way she wants, or she will have to let you know why you are an idiot. Take your licks, and then remember to thank her profusely, because the only thing OP hates more than cookie crushing kids, is BAD MANNERS.

Nope. I don't care about bad manners. I care about bad parenting because that kid will break into my car and cause damage to MY property and MY family.

If the mother doesn't care about her son I couldn't care less. What bothers me is to know that such behavior goes ignored until this kid grows taller than his mom and starts acting out outside the house and governmental authorities have to take care of him. Using your tax dollars for it.


There was a 17yo who didn't remember what was his first crime. Now you tell me how this 5yo is any different from such kids? Just because his mom had a LV bag? Mmmhhmmm

[Anonymous]

You very clearly said the little brat in starbucks will turn into a criminal.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Jeffrey Dahmer started out crushing cookies.

Bwahahahaha.

The most hilarious part of this whole thread is how the OP draws a straight line from a preschooler squishing cookies to adults breaking in to her car. Priceless.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Jeffrey Dahmer started out crushing cookies.

Bwahahahaha.

The most hilarious part of this whole thread is how the OP draws a straight line from a preschooler squishing cookies to adults breaking in to her car. Priceless.

It could be your car, you know?

And the line is not from the cookie crusher. It's from the bad mom to the criminal son who was never disciplined and turned out the big bad guy who'll hurt your family and have no empathy because when he was a kid crushing cookies his mom thought I was not a big deal.

[Anonymous]

Come on, we all KNOW thiefs and rapists start out as cookie breakers, right?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:
It could be your car, you know?

And the line is not from the cookie crusher. It's from the bad mom to the criminal son who was never disciplined and turned out the big bad guy who'll hurt your family and have no empathy because when he was a kid crushing cookies his mom thought I was not a big deal.

My parents disciplined us. My sister still shoplifted.

On the other hand, my nephew was rarely disciplined. However, he's one of the most considerate teenagers I know.

There's no correlation between whether a child is disciplined and if, as an adult, he/she breaks the law.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Come on, we all KNOW thiefs and rapists start out as cookie breakers, right?

I saw this on CSI. It's true. The profile is:

1) Cookie breaker
2) Torturing animals
3) Serial Killer

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:The chances of this being extenuating circumstances are about 1 in a million. You only have to read this thread to realize there are dozens of parents who have no issue with their child crumbling cookies. Don't you know Starbucks has more cookies in the back. No reason to believe that mom at Starbucks just didn't share the same view as many of the moms / dads on here.

I found out on Friday my two year old might have Cystic Fibrosis. We are going in for further testing. There's a one in 3,000 chance he has it. Think about that. There's thousands of other diseases out there. So you know, there's a VERY HIGH CHANCE the mom may have had something a little more pressing on her mind.

[Anonymous]

I cannot believe i just read through this whole thread. OP, I am also known to be a pretty confrontational person, but there is no way I would've said something to that mom in starbucks. The state of their cookies, and whether kids are fondling them, is for the starbucks employees to worry about, not you.

[Anonymous]

I would have called her out on it, but not made the second comment outloud. WTH were the employees doing that they didn't see it????

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Ladies & Gents:

My oldest works at Starbucks. He just informed me that not only do they not care if the kids come in and crush cookies but they crush the cookies themselves so they can put new stock out.

It is totally unfavorable behavior, I say "unfavorable" because we really have no way of knowing if the child was being "bad" or if his father just died and mom was "zoned" out, if he was "special needs", if mom didn't notice or what the story was.

All the left over foods go home with the workers at night, including most of the packaged cookies. Starbucks is still turning a HUGE profit on your $4.99 grande cups of COFFEE. A pack of crushed cookies isn't going to kill their profit. And again, NOT ACCEPTABLE, but really OP, not your battle to be fighting.

Your kid is 13 months, just wait 6 months before you judge the wild boy crushing cookies. You'll get yours when your little angel tosses her food at you from across the table at your favorite restaurant and you can't calm her, it's not always about how you parent, it's about temperament and personality as well. You'll find this out in due time.

You must be new to DCUM, we call them special snowflakes.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I also wonder why the op started this thread. Why not let what happenned be in the past and move on. What is the point of this thread?
Does she want us to say she is way more of a parent than someone else?

OP
can you answer this question?

OP here and by no means I think I'm better than anybody else. I never said that and I don't know why you guys keep saying this.

I was curious about what others would have done. That's the only reason why I started the thread.

I asked DH what he would have done if I was not there and he said "chances are I would not even had seen it happening. You're the multitasker of our household and winked at me". When he's alone with DC he's very cautious so he rarely pays attention to things going on around him.

I went out to a mommy get together the other day with a bunch of pregnant ladies and moms with small kids. My 13 mo old was walking around trying to go down the stairs and when I said NO and brought DC back to the group DC started screaming. EVERYBODY in that room was staring at us. I smiled and said "DON'T YOU DARE TO THINK ANYTHING. YOU'LL BE IN MY PLACE BEFORE YOU KNOW IT" and everybody laughed out loud and I walked outside to calm DC down.

I'm not immune to misbehaving children. It does happen but I believe such behaviors should be addressed immediately. That's how young children learn.

I hope my answer will meet your expectations.

Really? That sounds completely made up. No man actually talks like this. Unless this is the story that you have going on inside you head....but it's fun so I'll keep playing.

What happens next! Tell me more crazy cookie lady!!!!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I'm so fed up with the sanctamony from parents with one child who is still a toddler and will sit in the stroller without protest (and is usually a girl). Raising kids is messy, embarrassing work. You can't control them all the time and sometimes their hands go wandering when you are distracted. I would have thanked the OP then disciplined my child but I would feel no compunction to do more. Kids don't run on remote controls.

Thread winner.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Hm... you have a serious problem if you didn't realize that the big bad guys stealing things on the street start out somewhere else early on. They usually start as juveniles shoplifting or delivering drugs, or sneaking in homes and opening the door from the inside so the big guys can get in. I never said the little brat at SB is equal to a criminal already on the street. Read again with less anger and you'll see (I hope).

I work with juveniles and I just want to say, I really hope that no one thinks that a small child crushing cookies will lead to drug usage or burglary. If so, maybe you want to take a parenting class or something.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Okay kookbird, re-read what you wrote, then read what you posted below:

Nope. I don't care about bad manners. I care about bad parenting because that kid will break into my car and cause damage to MY property and MY family.

If the mother doesn't care about her son I couldn't care less. What bothers me is to know that such behavior goes ignored until this kid grows taller than his mom and starts acting out outside the house and governmental authorities have to take care of him. Using your tax dollars for it.

[b]I was watching "Beyond Scared Straight" a few weeks ago and got really disturbed by a 13yo shoplifter that was on the show. His mother was hugging him and saying how good of a kid he was... I just sighed and felt like crying. The reporter asked what crimes he has committed and he laughed with sarcasm saying that shoplifting was the only crime he was caught on.
There was a 17yo who didn't remember what was his first crime. Now you tell me how this 5yo is any different from such kids? Just because his mom had a LV bag? Mmmhhmmm[/b]

Anonymous wrote:Hm... you have a serious problem if you didn't realize that the big bad guys stealing things on the street start out somewhere else early on. They usually start as juveniles shoplifting or delivering drugs, or sneaking in homes and opening the door from the inside so the big guys can get in. I never said the little brat at SB is equal to a criminal already on the street. Read again with less anger and you'll see (I hope).

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:At first I was going to side with OP, but then after reading all 12 pages, I noticed that OP called everyone that disagreed with her a moron, or intellectually limited, or fucking stupid etc. OP is a bitch, who emasculates her poor husband so much, that when he hears her shrill, condescending tone, he dives under counters!!! Her daughter probably just plays like she is asleep, it is her only defense. OP is a bully, who rules her world with an iron fist, and YOU HAD BETTER, do things the way she wants, or she will have to let you know why you are an idiot. Take your licks, and then remember to thank her profusely, because the only thing OP hates more than cookie crushing kids, is BAD MANNERS.

Nope. I don't care about bad manners. I care about bad parenting because that kid will break into my car and cause damage to MY property and MY family.

If the mother doesn't care about her son I couldn't care less. What bothers me is to know that such behavior goes ignored until this kid grows taller than his mom and starts acting out outside the house and governmental authorities have to take care of him. Using your tax dollars for it.


There was a 17yo who didn't remember what was his first crime. Now you tell me how this 5yo is any different from such kids? Just because his mom had a LV bag? Mmmhhmmm

You realize the entire criminal justice community came out against the show scared straight as reality TV and that it does not reflect anything about the progression of juvenile crime to adult crime? Or - are you one of those people who believes everything they see on TV?