Your son was breaking all the cookies on the counter

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:If I was planning to buy a cookie, I would have said "excuse me" politely and quickly grabbed one before it got broken.

Other then that, I wouldn't have done anything.

But if it were my kid, I would have stopped him/her.

You embarrassed your DH, and I don't see why you care so much about cookies.

I don't confront people in those situations -- you never know when one of them will freak out, also you embarrassed that mom. She might have been having a really bad day and just didn't notice.

It's not about the cookies. It's about thoughtfulness and consideration for the owner of a store (whether a chain or not) and for other customers who might have wanted to buy one or several unbroken, "unsmushed" cookies.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Hey OP, get back to us when your child is older than 13 months.

All children act up, yours will too. This I can assure you.

All children may act up, but not all parents allow their children to break the cookies in a store, one by one. Some people find it too strenuous and time-consuming to actually parent.

[Anonymous]

at Starbucks yesterday and you pretended you didn't see it. I was behind you in line and called you out "ma'am, your son is destroying the cookies" and you just grabbed the one he had in his hands and paid for it with a "whatever" attitude.

My DH wanted to crawl under the counter in shame (poor guy) while my oblivious 13 mo old sat quietly and happy strapped onto her stroller.

I looked at DH and said a bit louder than normal "and I hope people call me out when she acts like that and I don't notice" refering to my child and DH thanked heaven for not having anybody behind us in line

Okay, OP, you asked, so here goes: I'm calling you out. You are deeply unpleasant individual who obviously has some anger issues. Get some help rather than take your unhappiness on some poor woman in line at Starbucks who didn't snap to attention quickly enough when you critiqued her child and her parenting.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OK, the OP doesn't say how old the "cookie destroyer" is, so I don't know why everyone is assuming "special needs." Unless this was an older child, it's perfectly normal for kids to get into stuff they aren't supposed to. Should the mom have stopped him? Of course. But OP's holier-than-thou attitude didn't help the situation.

Maybe if you were a little less sanctimonious, OP, your DH wouldn't have been embarrassed.

Well, the kid was out of a stroller and old enough to reach the cookies at SB, so I'm guessing at least 3. Yes, kids grab, but the mom as you pointed out should have said something instead of just grabbing a cookie and buying it.

Who knows, maybe OP's speaking up will cause the unapologetic mom to be more aware of her kid's bad behavior.

DH seemed to be embarrassed for the lazy mom, not his wife.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Hey OP, get back to us when your child is older than 13 months.

All children act up, yours will too. This I can assure you.

All children may act up, but not all parents allow their children to break the cookies in a store, one by one. Some people find it too strenuous and time-consuming to actually parent.

This is why there are bratty kids and well behaved kids....the first poster sees a kid destroying property as all kids act up. her kids can do anything because all kids act up so not much a mom can do...kids will be kids. This parenting attitude = bratty kids.

The second poster gets that her kid acts up but realizes as a parent she must limit, teach and discipline the child and that acting up or being a child isn't an excuse to do whatever you want. This parenting attitude = kids who can self-regulate their behavior.

Same behavior from the kid - two totally different reactions by parents = two totally different behavior from kids in the future.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OK, the OP doesn't say how old the "cookie destroyer" is, so I don't know why everyone is assuming "special needs." Unless this was an older child, it's perfectly normal for kids to get into stuff they aren't supposed to. Should the mom have stopped him? Of course. But OP's holier-than-thou attitude didn't help the situation.

Maybe if you were a little less sanctimonious, OP, your DH wouldn't have been embarrassed.

Well, the kid was out of a stroller and old enough to reach the cookies at SB, so I'm guessing at least 3. Yes, kids grab, but the mom as you pointed out should have said something instead of just grabbing a cookie and buying it.

Who knows, maybe OP's speaking up will cause the unapologetic mom to be more aware of her kid's bad behavior.

DH seemed to be embarrassed for the lazy mom, not his wife.

Nope, read the OP again.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:at Starbucks yesterday and you pretended you didn't see it. I was behind you in line and called you out "ma'am, your son is destroying the cookies" and you just grabbed the one he had in his hands and paid for it with a "whatever" attitude.

My DH wanted to crawl under the counter in shame (poor guy) while my oblivious 13 mo old sat quietly and happy strapped onto her stroller.

I looked at DH and said a bit louder than normal "and I hope people call me out when she acts like that and I don't notice" refering to my child and DH thanked heaven for not having anybody behind us in line

So now you tell me, what would you have done if you were in my place?

What if it was your kid squeezing all the cookies on the counter one by one and putting them back in the basket?

Why would anyone be embarrassed by a kid's behavior - IF the kid isn't even his/her own?

He seems like a pussy.

[Anonymous]

Is this a post-and-run by the OP? Did she expect everyone to stand up and applaud what she did?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:at Starbucks yesterday and you pretended you didn't see it. I was behind you in line and called you out "ma'am, your son is destroying the cookies" and you just grabbed the one he had in his hands and paid for it with a "whatever" attitude.

My DH wanted to crawl under the counter in shame (poor guy) while my oblivious 13 mo old sat quietly and happy strapped onto her stroller.

I looked at DH and said a bit louder than normal "and I hope people call me out when she acts like that and I don't notice" refering to my child and DH thanked heaven for not having anybody behind us in line

So now you tell me, what would you have done if you were in my place?

What if it was your kid squeezing all the cookies on the counter one by one and putting them back in the basket?

Why would anyone be embarrassed by a kid's behavior - IF the kid isn't even his/her own?

He seems like a pussy.

Are people really this obtuse?

The DH was embarrassed by HIS WIFE. Because she was being a jackass.

[Anonymous]

I think OP should have considered a career in law enforcement. She would have made a great meter reader!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Hey OP, get back to us when your child is older than 13 months.

All children act up, yours will too. This I can assure you.

All children may act up, but not all parents allow their children to break the cookies in a store, one by one. Some people find it too strenuous and time-consuming to actually parent.

Exactly! I have a child who I think sometimes breathes sulfur. I have to be on his ass every second of the day. He would easily break those cookies when given a chance. I have no qualms to put him in a time out in the corner of the store kicking and screaming. When you have a kid like this you learn that you don't care who sees the tantrum, bad behavior needs to be nipped in the bud immediately.

The mom in starbucks is pathetic. However I would have said nothing, as there is no help for the lowest common denominator.

[Anonymous]

I don't believe this story. Since when does Starbucks leaves cookies out to be crushed? Aren't they behind glass? OP sounds like a wretch anyway. Do you really need to post every little detail of your life?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:at Starbucks yesterday and you pretended you didn't see it. I was behind you in line and called you out "ma'am, your son is destroying the cookies" and you just grabbed the one he had in his hands and paid for it with a "whatever" attitude.

My DH wanted to crawl under the counter in shame (poor guy) while my oblivious 13 mo old sat quietly and happy strapped onto her stroller.

I looked at DH and said a bit louder than normal "and I hope people call me out when she acts like that and I don't notice" refering to my child and DH thanked heaven for not having anybody behind us in line

So now you tell me, what would you have done if you were in my place?

What if it was your kid squeezing all the cookies on the counter one by one and putting them back in the basket?

Why would anyone be embarrassed by a kid's behavior - IF the kid isn't even his/her own?

He seems like a pussy.

Hey not nice.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I don't believe this story. Since when does Starbucks leaves cookies out to be crushed? Aren't they behind glass? OP sounds like a wretch anyway. Do you really need to post every little detail of your life?

I'm assuming it was those little wrapped cookies, like Madelines or something like that. They have those on the counters.

[Anonymous]

OP here. No post and run. It's Saturday and we're having a great time, thanks.

To clarify, DH was embarrassed by my attitude. He's the kind that avoids conflict. I'm the kind who looks for it.