Cities you don’t want your kids to live in

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Red states, especially in the South are off the table. I don’t want DD to end up in prison after a bad pregnancy.

DD doesn’t like Chicago or NYC. So I’m letting her pick where she likes.

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Anonymous wrote:Red states, especially in the South are off the table. I don’t want DD to end up in prison after a bad pregnancy.

DD doesn’t like Chicago or NYC. So I’m letting her pick where she likes.

Interstate travel remains lawful. So does birth control. What an f’n joke. Take your yard signs out of your kid’s life, FFS.

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Anonymous wrote:No red states, including any cities within

Right on cue, the nutter arrives.

Maybe her daughter needs regular abortions lol

So does yours you just don’t know it.

Cause these days, girls just use the day after pill or an abortion pill. Same thing. They just don’t tell you, You’re so out of touch you don’t understand it.

Lol. Young people are barely having sex these days, so they aren’t the ones using the pill. The people using the people are married women who don’t want an oops baby.

+1. Young men would rather watch porn on their phone rather than do the hard work of convincing a woman to actually sleep with them, not get her pregnant, and not be accused of rape when they thought they had consent. It’s just too much.

+100 It’s really funny watching old boomers and even parents from the 90’s accusing others of being out of touch, when they are out of touch. This generation is more conservative, deal with it. I’m liberal by the way.

Watching more porn and having less sex does mean they are “more conservative”. What an odd conclusion.

Look up the increase in Gen Z church attendance

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Anonymous wrote:I strongly encourage kids to leave their comfort zone when going to college (within reason - I'm not sending my Jewish kid to Liberty or a Catholic kid to Yeshiva). It is part of the experience. I spent most of my life in and around NYC and know too many people who have never left the northeast corridor so have a very provincial view of the world.

And there are way too many people in the rest of America who are afraid of us northerners and the "big bad cities" and would be well served to spend some time in one of these places rather than going from their youth in small town Texas to Texas A&M for college.

Agreed. And FWIW, most people on this board seemed to be absolutely terrified of the South, not the North.

And as someone who was born and raised in the South, and now lives in a NE metro area, I am 100% certain that "y'all" are as geographically prejudiced as any small town Texan.

Informed, intelligent people are generally less prejudiced than isolated, ignorant people. And that runs both ways on Interstate 95

Amen. This is why professional firms like hiring well-educated southerners, regardless of where they get their degrees. They don’t have to teach them manners. Or, apparently, broader-mindedness. (Same is generally true midwesterners and westerners.). It is pretty obvious who has lived in many places around the U.S., and who has not. It erodes provincialism of every stripe.

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I would have qualms about New Orleans and Las Vegas. Not an issue of not liking the cities--I love NOLA, and used to love Vegas in my younger years--but because there are too many distractions and opportunities to derail college. A lot of that is my own baggage - I doubt I'd have graduated in 4 years, if at all, if I'd gone to school in those cities.

But even there, if my kid had a compelling reason to attend college in one of those cities, I'd listen to it. So no, nothing is completely off the board.

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Anonymous wrote:Is it reasonable to strike a college off your kid’s list based on it being in a city you don’t want them to live in? Like a place you don’t want to visit or return to or don’t like the weather?

It’s not your life.

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Anonymous wrote:DC is off the list for us as a California family. Couldn’t believe how bad it was last time we visited.

Welcome to DCUM… Why are you here?

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Anonymous wrote:I would have qualms about New Orleans and Las Vegas. Not an issue of not liking the cities--I love NOLA, and used to love Vegas in my younger years--but because there are too many distractions and opportunities to derail college. A lot of that is my own baggage - I doubt I'd have graduated in 4 years, if at all, if I'd gone to school in those cities.

But even there, if my kid had a compelling reason to attend college in one of those cities, I'd listen to it. So no, nothing is completely off the board.

Agree

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NYC is the only place I took off my daughter's list. She literally looks 14. The campuses are built right into the city.

Everything else was worth a discussion. She ended up out of state, but within a reasonable drive.

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Anonymous wrote:Is it reasonable to strike a college off your kid’s list based on it being in a city you don’t want them to live in? Like a place you don’t want to visit or return to or don’t like the weather?

It’s not your life.

+1. I went to college in a place my parents hated. It was multi-day drive, (they don't fly and live three hours from the nearest major airport anyway), it was a city and they hate cities, it's politically totally different from them, etc. I'm really grateful that they gave me the freedom to choose that for myself, even if its not what they wanted.

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I think striking off cities based on your own preferences is stupid. Besides move-in and graduation, you don’t have to visit the campus if you don’t want to.

I do think it’s valid to help your child think through things like travel logistics, cost of living, housing, weather and campus safety. And campus safety is different than the city overall. I went to school in Baltimore but campus was very safe. My parents had discouraged NYU because they didn’t like the lack of a true campus, but felt very comfortable with a good campus in Baltimore.

Also I think it’s valid to point out to your child that where they go to school could be the region they end up in long term (especially if it’s a state school with a big local population and/or they don’t have plans to go anywhere else for graduate school). So many people I graduated with ended up in DMV area because that’s where we interned, made connections, got jobs, or met spouses from the area. Luckily I liked the DMV area and was happy to stay. It wouldn’t be a red line for choosing a school but good to be aware of.

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Anonymous wrote:Red states, especially in the South are off the table. I don’t want DD to end up in prison after a bad pregnancy.

DD doesn’t like Chicago or NYC. So I’m letting her pick where she likes.

Interstate travel remains lawful. So does birth control. What an f’n joke. Take your yard signs out of your kid’s life, FFS.

Why do I need to go visit my kid at a college in a state where they would consider me a murderer? I think it's allowed for my kid to go to college in a state that would actually welcome the student's mom to visit instead of considering her a criminal.

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Anonymous wrote:NYC is the only place I took off my daughter's list. She literally looks 14. The campuses are built right into the city.

Everything else was worth a discussion. She ended up out of state, but within a reasonable drive.

Thousands and thousands and thousands of young women do just fine in New York City all day everyday. if you're that uncomfortable with nyc, then go elsewhere but your fears are unfounded.

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UPenn was deemed too dangerous when I wanted to apply there 15 years ago.