Cities you don’t want your kids to live in

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Anonymous wrote:LA, SF, and Miami were on my no-go list for kid's college process.

Why these specifically?

I have daughters and personally don't care for the culture/vibe of these cities. By culture I mean emphasis on superficial beauty, car-centric, expensive, competitive- but not in a healthy way, referring more to la/miami. For sf, i lived there before and just don't like the vibe. I know my kids well. There are many options for cities/schools that would be a better fit for my kids/family.

As far as SF goes, USF is the only choice (SF State is a commuter school). If a kid liked it, is it worth ruling out? USF is located in the Avenues, relaxed, comfortable near Golden Gate Park.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:LA, SF, and Miami were on my no-go list for kid's college process.

Why these specifically?

I have daughters and personally don't care for the culture/vibe of these cities. By culture I mean emphasis on superficial beauty, car-centric, expensive, competitive- but not in a healthy way, referring more to la/miami. For sf, i lived there before and just don't like the vibe. I know my kids well. There are many options for cities/schools that would be a better fit for my kids/family.

You don’t like the vibe of SF so your kid is not allowed to experience it for themselves. Pathetic

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Anonymous wrote:No red states, including any cities within

Right on cue, the nutter arrives.

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Anonymous wrote:Dartmouth, Williams, Cornell and the likes were crossed off my kid's list because she didn't want rural.

Your kid has never experienced rural and wants to stick to what they know.
Good to try something completely different

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Anonymous wrote:There are some incredibly dumb posts here. Wow.

I live in NYC. I love it here. But college here is a unique experience. It could be incredible. But you and your kid need to know what they are getting into.

And same for a truly remote school like Grinnell. Could be a cool experience but you need to know what you are getting into.

If you are rejecting a big bad Democrat city just because you are dumb enough to get your propaganda from Fox News and they have told you it is scary there, you aren’t smart enough to go to college.

Funny how you neglect to address the idiots who refuse to let their kids go to southern schools because they're dumb enough to get their propaganda from MSNOW et al. But not at all surprising.

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Anonymous wrote:There are some incredibly dumb posts here. Wow.

I live in NYC. I love it here. But college here is a unique experience. It could be incredible. But you and your kid need to know what they are getting into.

And same for a truly remote school like Grinnell. Could be a cool experience but you need to know what you are getting into.

If you are rejecting a big bad Democrat city just because you are dumb enough to get your propaganda from Fox News and they have told you it is scary there, you aren’t smart enough to go to college.

Funny how you neglect to address the idiots who refuse to let their kids go to southern schools because they're dumb enough to get their propaganda from MSNOW et al. But not at all surprising.

I don't like your tone. Though I don't 100% disagree with you. It is something I would consider but I would not at this point forbid my child from going there just because there are a bunch of Trump-worshipping nut jobs running some of those states.

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Struck Rhodes due to concerns about being in Memphis.

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Anonymous wrote:Dartmouth, Williams, Cornell and the likes were crossed off my kid's list because she didn't want rural.

But that is her preference, which is fine, as opposed to what OP is asking which is parental bans due to their preferences re weather, vibe etc.

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Dartmouth, Williams, Cornell and the likes were crossed off my kid's list because she didn't want rural.

Your kid has never experienced rural and wants to stick to what they know.
Good to try something completely different

Or maybe the kid understands herself and recognizes where she would thrive. Trying something completely different is for movies, restaurants and bakeries. My DS would have wilted at a college in a rural location.

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Dartmouth, Williams, Cornell and the likes were crossed off my kid's list because she didn't want rural.

Your kid has never experienced rural and wants to stick to what they know.
Good to try something completely different

PP. Sorry but we are from a state capital in Middle America so we know what rural is.

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As a Michigan alumnus, I told my kid I won't pay for college if he applies to Ohio State, Notre Dame, and Michigan State. She didn't. Silly, I know.

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^^ He, not she.

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Anonymous wrote:LA, SF, and Miami were on my no-go list for kid's college process.

Miami too fun? LA and SF too dangerous/expensive?

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Anywhere I have to drive more than an hr to get to. I am ok with flying but not this endless driving. Of course I wouldn’t strike it out but I am glad he wants schools that are reasonably close to airports

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Anonymous wrote:Is it reasonable to strike a college off your kid’s list based on it being in a city you don’t want them to live in? Like a place you don’t want to visit or return to or don’t like the weather?

Unreasonable in many ways: (1) it's their life, (2) it's only four years of their life, (3) they are learning, you are not shopping, and (4) anybody who is not able to adapt well to and learn from any environment is not likely to be successful.

A huge problem in our society is the unwillingness for well-educated kids to leave or live outside the bubble. It's gotten far worse over the last 30 years as successive generations of the upper-middle-class have become obsessed with microneighborhoods, posh zip codes, and restaurants, along with virtue-signaling by refusing to support places and people who do not support their political views of the moment.