Cities you don’t want your kids to live in

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Anonymous wrote:There are some incredibly dumb posts here. Wow.

I live in NYC. I love it here. But college here is a unique experience. It could be incredible. But you and your kid need to know what they are getting into.

And same for a truly remote school like Grinnell. Could be a cool experience but you need to know what you are getting into.

If you are rejecting a big bad Democrat city just because you are dumb enough to get your propaganda from Fox News and they have told you it is scary there, you aren’t smart enough to go to college.

LOL. DCUM is filled with dumb people getting their propaganda from MSNBC News or whatever they call themselves, NPR, NYT and scaring their kids away from Iowa or Texas or Florida or most places south of the Mason Dixon line. Way more than the other way around.

No one is “scared” of the shthole MAGA states. We’re repulsed by many of the people living there.

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Anonymous wrote:No red states, including any cities within

Right on cue, the nutter arrives.

Maybe her daughter needs regular abortions lol

So does yours you just don’t know it.

Cause these days, girls just use the day after pill or an abortion pill. Same thing. They just don’t tell you, You’re so out of touch you don’t understand it.

Lol. Young people are barely having sex these days, so they aren’t the ones using the pill. The people using the people are married women who don’t want an oops baby.

+1. Young men would rather watch porn on their phone rather than do the hard work of convincing a woman to actually sleep with them, not get her pregnant, and not be accused of rape when they thought they had consent. It’s just too much.

+100 It’s really funny watching old boomers and even parents from the 90’s accusing others of being out of touch, when they are out of touch. This generation is more conservative, deal with it. I’m liberal by the way.

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Anonymous wrote:No red states, including any cities within

Right on cue, the nutter arrives.

Maybe her daughter needs regular abortions lol

So does yours you just don’t know it.

Cause these days, girls just use the day after pill or an abortion pill. Same thing. They just don’t tell you, You’re so out of touch you don’t understand it.

Lol. Young people are barely having sex these days, so they aren’t the ones using the pill. The people using the people are married women who don’t want an oops baby.

+1. Young men would rather watch porn on their phone rather than do the hard work of convincing a woman to actually sleep with them, not get her pregnant, and not be accused of rape when they thought they had consent. It’s just too much.

+100 It’s really funny watching old boomers and even parents from the 90’s accusing others of being out of touch, when they are out of touch. This generation is more conservative, deal with it. I’m liberal by the way.

Watching more porn and having less sex does mean they are “more conservative”. What an odd conclusion.

[Anonymous]

I’m going to put aside the politics for a minute but while I wouldn’t give a hard no, I am discouraging apps to certain cities based on:
1) my child is not anticipating how hard it will be to find off campus housing and the impact that all has on college social life when students need to disperse or live in crap apartments
2) my child is inderestimating the stress of the commute — eg multiple planes plus a bus ride after is just not practical especially when you are doing it after exams and exhausted or trying to bring back lots of stuff after break
3) my child isn’t really thinking about what it’s like to live someplace that rains constantly or where you can’t ride your bike because the brakes freeze, etc.

These are just realistic practical things that teens don’t always think through unless you really point it out to them.

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Anonymous wrote:No red states, including any cities within

Right on cue, the nutter arrives.

Maybe her daughter needs regular abortions lol

So does yours you just don’t know it.

Cause these days, girls just use the day after pill or an abortion pill. Same thing. They just don’t tell you, You’re so out of touch you don’t understand it.

Lol. Young people are barely having sex these days, so they aren’t the ones using the pill. The people using the people are married women who don’t want an oops baby.

+1. Young men would rather watch porn on their phone rather than do the hard work of convincing a woman to actually sleep with them, not get her pregnant, and not be accused of rape when they thought they had consent. It’s just too much.

+100 It’s really funny watching old boomers and even parents from the 90’s accusing others of being out of touch, when they are out of touch. This generation is more conservative, deal with it. I’m liberal by the way.

Watching more porn and having less sex does mean they are “more conservative”. What an odd conclusion.

+1000, this makes 0 sense

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Anonymous wrote:No red states, including any cities within

Right on cue, the nutter arrives.

Maybe her daughter needs regular abortions lol

So does yours you just don’t know it.

Cause these days, girls just use the day after pill or an abortion pill. Same thing. They just don’t tell you, You’re so out of touch you don’t understand it.

Lol. Young people are barely having sex these days, so they aren’t the ones using the pill. The people using the people are married women who don’t want an oops baby.

+1. Young men would rather watch porn on their phone rather than do the hard work of convincing a woman to actually sleep with them, not get her pregnant, and not be accused of rape when they thought they had consent. It’s just too much.

Lmao 20 year old guy here. If you’re having sex and scared of getting accused of rape, you’re probably a rapist.

Where do you idiots get this stuff?

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Anonymous wrote:DC is off the list for us as a California family. Couldn’t believe how bad it was last time we visited.

Totally, San Bernardino and Eureka are so much nicer than DC

Wanna name the colleges people would be touring in San Bernardino and eureka for us? I can name at least 5 in DC

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I’m going to put aside the politics for a minute but while I wouldn’t give a hard no, I am discouraging apps to certain cities based on:
1) my child is not anticipating how hard it will be to find off campus housing and the impact that all has on college social life when students need to disperse or live in crap apartments
2) my child is inderestimating the stress of the commute — eg multiple planes plus a bus ride after is just not practical especially when you are doing it after exams and exhausted or trying to bring back lots of stuff after break
3) my child isn’t really thinking about what it’s like to live someplace that rains constantly or where you can’t ride your bike because the brakes freeze, etc.

These are just realistic practical things that teens don’t always think through unless you really point it out to them.

It’s not that stressful as a DC-California college student. School pays for uber to LAX (almost all do in the area), it takes maybe 20 minutes max to check in my bags and get through TSA, get some food and wait, then I hop in the cold tube we call an airplane, have like 6 hours to relax, and land, and then get bags and go home.

If anxiety for you is just sitting around a lot, I guess that sucks. It’s actually a great way to end the semester, because you’re not doing anything really other than entertaining yourself along the way.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Is it reasonable to strike a college off your kid’s list based on it being in a city you don’t want them to live in? Like a place you don’t want to visit or return to or don’t like the weather?

Yes. We knocked off a few based on location in part.

Union College and Muhlenburg.

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Anonymous wrote:Is it reasonable to strike a college off your kid’s list based on it being in a city you don’t want them to live in? Like a place you don’t want to visit or return to or don’t like the weather?

My daughter did not want to be in red states and I completely support that

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I don't want them to live anywhere they can't get an abortion.

You can’t/wouldn’t pay for them to go somewhere they could? That, plus the fact you think DD might need one, seem like the issues that should drive college choice or choices concerning whether college is the best first for the kid at this stage of their life.

Of course I would if I could, but in an emergency medical situation, that might not be enough to save her life. So no she's not going somewhere that won't provide emergency pregnancy care if she needs it.

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Nothing off limits. My kids were raised here, high school in DC.

Neither is a fan of the South. The only southern state they put in an application was “in-state VA”, but found even those too rural/southern feeling. Both chose to go to the northeast.

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Anonymous wrote:I’m going to put aside the politics for a minute but while I wouldn’t give a hard no, I am discouraging apps to certain cities based on:
1) my child is not anticipating how hard it will be to find off campus housing and the impact that all has on college social life when students need to disperse or live in crap apartments
2) my child is inderestimating the stress of the commute — eg multiple planes plus a bus ride after is just not practical especially when you are doing it after exams and exhausted or trying to bring back lots of stuff after break
3) my child isn’t really thinking about what it’s like to live someplace that rains constantly or where you can’t ride your bike because the brakes freeze, etc.

These are just realistic practical things that teens don’t always think through unless you really point it out to them.

It’s not that stressful as a DC-California college student. School pays for uber to LAX (almost all do in the area), it takes maybe 20 minutes max to check in my bags and get through TSA, get some food and wait, then I hop in the cold tube we call an airplane, have like 6 hours to relax, and land, and then get bags and go home.

If anxiety for you is just sitting around a lot, I guess that sucks. It’s actually a great way to end the semester, because you’re not doing anything really other than entertaining yourself along the way.

I assume you are addressing PPs point #2, but what you wrote actually supports it. While CA-DC is far so takes time, the commute is simple. There are a lot of schools, especially in more rural areas, where it is much more complicated to get the logistics to work between points and there is a long trip from the school to the airport (where uber may not be an option, or super expensive) and the flight requires connecting flights. Absolutely doable, but absolutely a factor to consider.

To be fair, since this is a thread about Cities in particular, the first part from school to airport is less likely to be a huge issue, but for some smaller cities it may be infrequent / badly scheduled / extremely expensive connecting flights.

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Anonymous wrote:I’m going to put aside the politics for a minute but while I wouldn’t give a hard no, I am discouraging apps to certain cities based on:
1) my child is not anticipating how hard it will be to find off campus housing and the impact that all has on college social life when students need to disperse or live in crap apartments
2) my child is inderestimating the stress of the commute — eg multiple planes plus a bus ride after is just not practical especially when you are doing it after exams and exhausted or trying to bring back lots of stuff after break
3) my child isn’t really thinking about what it’s like to live someplace that rains constantly or where you can’t ride your bike because the brakes freeze, etc.

These are just realistic practical things that teens don’t always think through unless you really point it out to them.

This. Kids tend tend to underestimate how good living on campus actually is, unless you have some sort of special need that has to be accommodated. It's probably the only time in their lives they may get to experience a walkable community if they love in the most places in the US.

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Anonymous wrote:I’m going to put aside the politics for a minute but while I wouldn’t give a hard no, I am discouraging apps to certain cities based on:
1) my child is not anticipating how hard it will be to find off campus housing and the impact that all has on college social life when students need to disperse or live in crap apartments
2) my child is inderestimating the stress of the commute — eg multiple planes plus a bus ride after is just not practical especially when you are doing it after exams and exhausted or trying to bring back lots of stuff after break
3) my child isn’t really thinking about what it’s like to live someplace that rains constantly or where you can’t ride your bike because the brakes freeze, etc.

These are just realistic practical things that teens don’t always think through unless you really point it out to them.

It’s not that stressful as a DC-California college student. School pays for uber to LAX (almost all do in the area), it takes maybe 20 minutes max to check in my bags and get through TSA, get some food and wait, then I hop in the cold tube we call an airplane, have like 6 hours to relax, and land, and then get bags and go home.

If anxiety for you is just sitting around a lot, I guess that sucks. It’s actually a great way to end the semester, because you’re not doing anything really other than entertaining yourself along the way.

I assume you are addressing PPs point #2, but what you wrote actually supports it. While CA-DC is far so takes time, the commute is simple. There are a lot of schools, especially in more rural areas, where it is much more complicated to get the logistics to work between points and there is a long trip from the school to the airport (where uber may not be an option, or super expensive) and the flight requires connecting flights. Absolutely doable, but absolutely a factor to consider.

To be fair, since this is a thread about Cities in particular, the first part from school to airport is less likely to be a huge issue, but for some smaller cities it may be infrequent / badly scheduled / extremely expensive connecting flights.

I’m not sure I get your point. This is about cities. City to city travel is not stressful. If it is, I kinda question your kids ability to do much at all. It requires an ability to go places and sit.