Cities you don’t want your kids to live in

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Anonymous wrote:Red states, especially in the South are off the table. I don’t want DD to end up in prison after a bad pregnancy.

DD doesn’t like Chicago or NYC. So I’m letting her pick where she likes.

Interstate travel remains lawful. So does birth control. What an f’n joke. Take your yard signs out of your kid’s life, FFS.

Why do I need to go visit my kid at a college in a state where they would consider me a murderer? I think it's allowed for my kid to go to college in a state that would actually welcome the student's mom to visit instead of considering her a criminal.

Yes. What kind of message does it send to your kid to send them off to a state that considers parent a criminal?

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Anonymous wrote:NYC is the only place I took off my daughter's list. She literally looks 14. The campuses are built right into the city.

Everything else was worth a discussion. She ended up out of state, but within a reasonable drive.

Thousands and thousands and thousands of young women do just fine in New York City all day everyday. if you're that uncomfortable with nyc, then go elsewhere but your fears are unfounded.

Yup. My child went to HS very close to NYU. Walked by the campus constantly. Incredible experience. And this was starting at age 14, not 18. Fear of NYC is a dumb reason not to go there. It is a definitely a unique experience and not for everyone. But "I'm scared of the big bad city" is not a reason. Though sometimes I am grateful not to have such narrowminded people here - we will gladly take your occasional tourist dollars and leave it at that.

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We didn’t take anything off the list although I wouldn’t want my DD in an abortion ban state. Yes they can fly home if the worst happens but that is disruptive to their studies. Beyond the anti women state laws, the south has other issues. We’re in coastal California and the hot, muggy, sticky weather makes kids miserable. The culture shock is an issue too. A few kids tried Bama when they started offering the massive merit/free rides for high SATs. Over several years, the majority bounced back, did a semester or two at CC and then transferred into Cal, UCSD, Davis etc. They came back because they couldn’t stand the culture. The counselors and coaches at our school warn parents and kids about this it became such a pattern.

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Anonymous wrote:NYC is the only place I took off my daughter's list. She literally looks 14. The campuses are built right into the city.

Everything else was worth a discussion. She ended up out of state, but within a reasonable drive.

Thousands and thousands and thousands of young women do just fine in New York City all day everyday. if you're that uncomfortable with nyc, then go elsewhere but your fears are unfounded.

Yup. My child went to HS very close to NYU. Walked by the campus constantly. Incredible experience. And this was starting at age 14, not 18. Fear of NYC is a dumb reason not to go there. It is a definitely a unique experience and not for everyone. But "I'm scared of the big bad city" is not a reason. Though sometimes I am grateful not to have such narrowminded people here - we will gladly take your occasional tourist dollars and leave it at that.

To repeat: Manhattan is one of the safest Top 30 metros in the US, possibly the safest. My DS loves it. But I can see some parents wondering if their kids are mature enough to live there (even though most kids are).

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Anonymous wrote:Red states, especially in the South are off the table. I don’t want DD to end up in prison after a bad pregnancy.

DD doesn’t like Chicago or NYC. So I’m letting her pick where she likes.

Interstate travel remains lawful. So does birth control. What an f’n joke. Take your yard signs out of your kid’s life, FFS.

Why do I need to go visit my kid at a college in a state where they would consider me a murderer? I think it's allowed for my kid to go to college in a state that would actually welcome the student's mom to visit instead of considering her a criminal.

Nobody gives shit about you (despite your fantasies).

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Baltimore.

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Gary

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Anonymous wrote:No red states, including any cities within

Right on cue, the nutter arrives.

Maybe her daughter needs regular abortions lol

NP. It's not really a laughing matter, because women in some of those states are dying. There are multiple health complications that can arise in a system prioritizing a potentially viable pregnancy over the life of a woman, independent of that woman seeking an abortion. Even if you feel a college student with an outside support network is unlikely to be affected, you can't judge a parent for choosing to avoid that out of caution or out of principle.

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Anonymous wrote:No red states, including any cities within

Right on cue, the nutter arrives.

Maybe her daughter needs regular abortions lol

So does yours you just don’t know it.

Cause these days, girls just use the day after pill or an abortion pill. Same thing. They just don’t tell you, You’re so out of touch you don’t understand it.

Lol. Young people are barely having sex these days, so they aren’t the ones using the pill. The people using the people are married women who don’t want an oops baby.

+1. Young men would rather watch porn on their phone rather than do the hard work of convincing a woman to actually sleep with them, not get her pregnant, and not be accused of rape when they thought they had consent. It’s just too much.

Lmao 20 year old guy here. If you’re having sex and scared of getting accused of rape, you’re probably a rapist.

Where do you idiots get this stuff?

Just curious, why are you even on here?

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There’s plenty of people who did not want their kids at Bama or Ole Miss.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Red states, especially in the South are off the table. I don’t want DD to end up in prison after a bad pregnancy.

DD doesn’t like Chicago or NYC. So I’m letting her pick where she likes.

Interstate travel remains lawful. So does birth control. What an f’n joke. Take your yard signs out of your kid’s life, FFS.

Why do I need to go visit my kid at a college in a state where they would consider me a murderer? I think it's allowed for my kid to go to college in a state that would actually welcome the student's mom to visit instead of considering her a criminal.

Nobody gives shit about you (despite your fantasies).

These backwards red states don't give a s*** about me or my college student. That's why we're going to find a better state for college.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Red states, especially in the South are off the table. I don’t want DD to end up in prison after a bad pregnancy.

DD doesn’t like Chicago or NYC. So I’m letting her pick where she likes.

Interstate travel remains lawful. So does birth control. What an f’n joke. Take your yard signs out of your kid’s life, FFS.

they are trying to restrict red staters from traveling for abortions out of state

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Anonymous wrote:There are some incredibly dumb posts here. Wow.

I live in NYC. I love it here. But college here is a unique experience. It could be incredible. But you and your kid need to know what they are getting into.

And same for a truly remote school like Grinnell. Could be a cool experience but you need to know what you are getting into.

If you are rejecting a big bad Democrat city just because you are dumb enough to get your propaganda from Fox News and they have told you it is scary there, you aren’t smart enough to go to college.

How do you know for sure OP isn't a progressive who watches MSNOW?

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Anonymous wrote:I strongly encourage kids to leave their comfort zone when going to college (within reason - I'm not sending my Jewish kid to Liberty or a Catholic kid to Yeshiva). It is part of the experience. I spent most of my life in and around NYC and know too many people who have never left the northeast corridor so have a very provincial view of the world.

And there are way too many people in the rest of America who are afraid of us northerners and the "big bad cities" and would be well served to spend some time in one of these places rather than going from their youth in small town Texas to Texas A&M for college.

Agreed. And FWIW, most people on this board seemed to be absolutely terrified of the South, not the North.

And as someone who was born and raised in the South, and now lives in a NE metro area, I am 100% certain that "y'all" are as geographically prejudiced as any small town Texan.

Informed, intelligent people are generally less prejudiced than isolated, ignorant people. And that runs both ways on Interstate 95

Amen. This is why professional firms like hiring well-educated southerners, regardless of where they get their degrees. They don’t have to teach them manners. Or, apparently, broader-mindedness. (Same is generally true midwesterners and westerners.). It is pretty obvious who has lived in many places around the U.S., and who has not. It erodes provincialism of every stripe.

I grew up in the North, I went to college in the North, I went to grad school in the South, I have lived in the deep South, I married a Southerner, and I now live in one of the few Southern states that's not MAGA.

I agree Northerners can be provincial and have weird stereotypes about Southerners. I have seen that. But it is just a fact now that most Southern states are out there in very extreme ways. No way would I want my daughter there right now. She went North for college with my full support.

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Based upon whether YOU would like to visit there?

Of course not.

(Just asking the question says something really bad about your self-centeredness and lack of self-awareness. )