How to handle being pissed at a college

[Anonymous]

My kid’s Ivy takes current siblings as a factor. In fact, on Instagram a few interviewed on one of those roaming campus things I watched lately point blank said that’s why they got in. That this Ivy siblings. It’s an HYP. They aren t all the same on that.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My kid got off waitlist for school I suspect you’re speaking about a few years ago. They are making a name for themselves on campus. There was not a deficiency, just a lack of space. Ignore everyone saying otherwise.

Dartmouth?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:…where you have a current student and then there sibling with uw 4.0, 36 ACT and similar great ecs/recs/activities gets rejected. Having a hard time after seeing a kid with much lower stats get off WL and in. The holistic B’s is not an answer. Older sibling is also thriving and top of class- so it’s not that either.

It leaves such a sour taste in my mouth.

Realize that all of that is table stakes and there is some element of randomness that separates the winners from the losers.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:…where you have a current student and then there sibling with uw 4.0, 36 ACT and similar great ecs/recs/activities gets rejected. Having a hard time after seeing a kid with much lower stats get off WL and in. The holistic B’s is not an answer. Older sibling is also thriving and top of class- so it’s not that either.

It leaves such a sour taste in my mouth.

Are you the Brown mom?

If so, that's concerning. It's becoming an obsession.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:The fact they took another kid with lesser stats and no connection, I won’t lie, that would seriously piss me off.

Agree. I think OP's anger is justified. I think it benefits everyone, including the University, if they admit a (qualified) sibling. It seems strange that they wouldn't admit this student. Yield protection for high stats doesn't make sense if there is already an established relationship.

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Anonymous wrote:…where you have a current student and then there sibling with uw 4.0, 36 ACT and similar great ecs/recs/activities gets rejected. Having a hard time after seeing a kid with much lower stats get off WL and in. The holistic B’s is not an answer. Older sibling is also thriving and top of class- so it’s not that either.

It leaves such a sour taste in my mouth.

Bad essays.

Nah. In at multiple T-10/20s. Essays noted as very strong in a few acceptances. Kid is a really good writer.

It’s like pps said: a lot of the time there is zero reason.

OP: why not respond to the direct questions: is it Brown and was this your TJ kid who was rejected?

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:The fact they took another kid with lesser stats and no connection, I won’t lie, that would seriously piss me off.

Agree. I think OP's anger is justified. I think it benefits everyone, including the University, if they admit a (qualified) sibling. It seems strange that they wouldn't admit this student. Yield protection for high stats doesn't make sense if there is already an established relationship.

Would you say that if that qualified sibling took your DC's place?

Just curious.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:…where you have a current student and then there sibling with uw 4.0, 36 ACT and similar great ecs/recs/activities gets rejected. Having a hard time after seeing a kid with much lower stats get off WL and in. The holistic B’s is not an answer. Older sibling is also thriving and top of class- so it’s not that either.

It leaves such a sour taste in my mouth.

Bad essays.

Nah. In at multiple T-10/20s. Essays noted as very strong in a few acceptances. Kid is a really good writer.

It’s like pps said: a lot of the time there is zero reason.

OP: why not respond to the direct questions: is it Brown and was this your TJ kid who was rejected?

Neither Brown, nor TJ. But I’m good 😀. That vent is off my chest. Carry on.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:The fact they took another kid with lesser stats and no connection, I won’t lie, that would seriously piss me off.

Agree. I think OP's anger is justified. I think it benefits everyone, including the University, if they admit a (qualified) sibling. It seems strange that they wouldn't admit this student. Yield protection for high stats doesn't make sense if there is already an established relationship.

Yield protection? They just preferred other kids. High stats are a floor at the very top schools. Op's second kid has plenty of other, equally good options.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:The fact they took another kid with lesser stats and no connection, I won’t lie, that would seriously piss me off.

Agree. I think OP's anger is justified. I think it benefits everyone, including the University, if they admit a (qualified) sibling. It seems strange that they wouldn't admit this student. Yield protection for high stats doesn't make sense if there is already an established relationship.

Agree. I think it’s weird a school would rather try to dig up a bunch of RDs off the WL over someone who is clearly a 100% yield. Dumb on their part. How about love the kid that loves you back - everyone loves to float around that stupid saying the other way- ha!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Realize that this is just a little blip in life. Unfair things happen all the time, dwelling on them is such a useless waste of emotion. It's also not great for your kid to see you reacting this way. Be annoyed and then move on.

+1

Life is never "fair". The sooner you realize that and don't let it bother you, the sooner you (and your kids) can put their efforts into things that matter---such as picking the best college they can gain admission to (what's right for them) and excelling during those 4 years and making the most out of life.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:The fact they took another kid with lesser stats and no connection, I won’t lie, that would seriously piss me off.

Umm...since when is having a kid already attending the school a "connection"? It's not unless you also have your name on a building at said school

Also, time for you to learn (you'd think you would have the first time) that above a certain "stat" the stats don't matter anymore. So while you think your 1560 kid is better than the 1500 kid, most schools do not think that, they look at the entire picture. And yes, if acceptance rate is 5-7%, well they are rejecting 90-95% of applicants. Most of whom are well qualified and the school would be happy to have. Not that difficult to understand

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:The fact they took another kid with lesser stats and no connection, I won’t lie, that would seriously piss me off.

Agree. I think OP's anger is justified. I think it benefits everyone, including the University, if they admit a (qualified) sibling. It seems strange that they wouldn't admit this student. Yield protection for high stats doesn't make sense if there is already an established relationship.

Would you say that if that qualified sibling took your DC's place?

Just curious.

Yes I would say that. I would not resent this because I believe what I said. I think it benefits everyone for qualified siblings to be admitted.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:You stop donating. And every time someone from development contacts you, you tell them "no" and why it's "no."

Donate? I only donate where I went to school. My “donation” to where my kids attended was done in the form of tuition.

Exactly!

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:…where you have a current student and then there sibling with uw 4.0, 36 ACT and similar great ecs/recs/activities gets rejected. Having a hard time after seeing a kid with much lower stats get off WL and in. The holistic B’s is not an answer. Older sibling is also thriving and top of class- so it’s not that either.

It leaves such a sour taste in my mouth.

Why would you think the sibling deserved to get in just b/c the older sibling was there?

Because current siblings and ED used to be an almost certain admit if they were equally qualified (but not if sib had already graduated). They used to be treated like “twins” in admissions. Older sib has so many friends with a sib there.

Not if acceptance rates are single digits.....