How to handle being pissed at a college

[Anonymous]

…where you have a current student and then there sibling with uw 4.0, 36 ACT and similar great ecs/recs/activities gets rejected. Having a hard time after seeing a kid with much lower stats get off WL and in. The holistic B’s is not an answer. Older sibling is also thriving and top of class- so it’s not that either.

It leaves such a sour taste in my mouth.

[Anonymous]

* their sibling

[Anonymous]

Maybe the younger kid just didn't fit into the class makeup.

[Anonymous]

It's a random process. You win some, you lose some. It could be worse -- both got rejected. Move on.

[Anonymous]

Not gonna lie, that’s weird. Does your kid have any possible red flags? Like- any past disciplinary issue whatsoever?

[Anonymous]

Realize that this is just a little blip in life. Unfair things happen all the time, dwelling on them is such a useless waste of emotion. It's also not great for your kid to see you reacting this way. Be annoyed and then move on.

[Anonymous]

I assume that a perfect stats student has some other good option. Think of it as a blessing in disguise that they aren't at the same school so you can stop comparing them.

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Anonymous wrote:Not gonna lie, that’s weird. Does your kid have any possible red flags? Like- any past disciplinary issue whatsoever?

No and he’s WL at three HPYSM so it’s not like there was a deficiency.

[Anonymous]

You stop donating. And every time someone from development contacts you, you tell them "no" and why it's "no."

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I assume that a perfect stats student has some other good option. Think of it as a blessing in disguise that they aren't at the same school so you can stop comparing them.

He’s really bummed because he’s very close with sibling- like twins.

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Anonymous wrote:You stop donating. And every time someone from development contacts you, you tell them "no" and why it's "no."

Yeah. That’s the plan. lol

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Anonymous wrote:It's a random process. You win some, you lose some. It could be worse -- both got rejected. Move on.

Yes. I don't know how anyone can go through this process twice and see that a huge amount of it is random. (Obviously there are some kids who will never get in and a few who will Maybe they already had too many students from your area this year. Maybe the first student got in because they wanted a trumpet player/chemistry enthusiast/journlism student/poet or whatever and didn't have one. Maybe the admissions officer was in a good/bad mood that morning.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Realize that this is just a little blip in life. Unfair things happen all the time, dwelling on them is such a useless waste of emotion. It's also not great for your kid to see you reacting this way. Be annoyed and then move on.

I’m obviously not showing it in front of the kid- remaining as upbeat as I can about his current choice.

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Anonymous wrote:It's a random process. You win some, you lose some. It could be worse -- both got rejected. Move on.

Yes. I don't know how anyone can go through this process twice and see that a huge amount of it is random. (Obviously there are some kids who will never get in and a few who will Maybe they already had too many students from your area this year. Maybe the first student got in because they wanted a trumpet player/chemistry enthusiast/journlism student/poet or whatever and didn't have one. Maybe the admissions officer was in a good/bad mood that morning.

Siblings almost always get in with same stats if they ED- which was done.

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Anonymous wrote:You stop donating. And every time someone from development contacts you, you tell them "no" and why it's "no."

^ THIS

Is let them know why every.single.time they put out an ask.