Pouts and Denial- What is Wrong With My Wife?

[Anonymous]

My goodness you people really abhor the concept of any kind of accountability for a woman.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My goodness you people really abhor the concept of any kind of accountability for a woman.

I mean, she sounds codependent. But it’s sort of hard to side with the alcoholic in the basement.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My goodness you people really abhor the concept of any kind of accountability for a woman.

They're like motorists

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I get home from work. Wife is immediately an intentional a$$hole about a half dozen things. I ask what the problem is, I get told "nothing" four times, so I leave it be.

Aggressive, unpleasant, huffy-puffy pout continues. I ignore it. Not taking the bait or rewarding her antisocial behavior. She's now polluting the whole house. I decamp to the basement and post on the internet/watch TV.

At 7:30, I'm called a jerk for not reheating two portions of leftovers. She never asked for a portion.

This is new. We've been together for 17 years.

Humor me with your guesses

Do you contribute? Help? Are you present?

I agree a big part could be perimenopause.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My goodness you people really abhor the concept of any kind of accountability for a woman.

When men stop raping and assaulting without accountability, THEN we can start piling on the women. Otherwise, stfu.

[Anonymous]

Just get a divorce already. Stop complaining about your spouse.

Or just drop expectations. Unmet expectations are the problem for all fouled arrangements.

[Anonymous]

If any random behavior from your spouse causes you to need to spend the entire evening drinking alone in your basement, you might be an alcoholic.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I get home from work. Wife is immediately an intentional a$$hole about a half dozen things. I ask what the problem is, I get told "nothing" four times, so I leave it be.

Aggressive, unpleasant, huffy-puffy pout continues. I ignore it. Not taking the bait or rewarding her antisocial behavior. She's now polluting the whole house. I decamp to the basement and post on the internet/watch TV.

At 7:30, I'm called a jerk for not reheating two portions of leftovers. She never asked for a portion.

This is new. We've been together for 17 years.

Humor me with your guesses

My man. I think so many married men go through this and suffer silently. Men are just expected to shoulder irrational, hostile behavior in marriage. I am not doing this when the kids are out of the house.

No wonder the lesbian divorce rate is the highest of any group.

[Anonymous]

Fact is op is whining to strangers on mommy forum about his wife, so something is wrong with him. Probably both of them suck.

[Anonymous]

Op needs to dump her sorry a**.

[Anonymous]

I get home from work. Wife is immediately an intentional a$$hole about a half dozen things. I ask what the problem is, I get told "nothing" four times, so I leave it be.

Aggressive, unpleasant, huffy-puffy pout continues. I ignore it. Not taking the bait or rewarding her antisocial behavior. She's now polluting the whole house. I decamp to the basement and post on the internet/watch TV.

At 7:30, I'm called a jerk for not reheating two portions of leftovers. She never asked for a portion.

This is new. We've been together for 17 years.

Humor me with your guesses

My man. I think so many married men go through this and suffer silently. Men are just expected to shoulder irrational, hostile behavior in marriage. I am not doing this when the kids are out of the house.

No wonder the lesbian divorce rate is the highest of any group.

The OP's wife is a pill, to be sure. However, most married men find that they have married a shrew sooner or later. And usually sooner.

One of my favorite things about DCUM is the number of women who blame their DHs for making them shrews without ever examining their own behavior to see if they played any part in the problem.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I get home from work. Wife is immediately an intentional a$$hole about a half dozen things. I ask what the problem is, I get told "nothing" four times, so I leave it be.

Aggressive, unpleasant, huffy-puffy pout continues. I ignore it. Not taking the bait or rewarding her antisocial behavior. She's now polluting the whole house. I decamp to the basement and post on the internet/watch TV.

At 7:30, I'm called a jerk for not reheating two portions of leftovers. She never asked for a portion.

This is new. We've been together for 17 years.

Humor me with your guesses

My man. I think so many married men go through this and suffer silently. Men are just expected to shoulder irrational, hostile behavior in marriage. I am not doing this when the kids are out of the house.

No wonder the lesbian divorce rate is the highest of any group.

What ?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

I get home from work. Wife is immediately an intentional a$$hole about a half dozen things. I ask what the problem is, I get told "nothing" four times, so I leave it be.

Aggressive, unpleasant, huffy-puffy pout continues. I ignore it. Not taking the bait or rewarding her antisocial behavior. She's now polluting the whole house. I decamp to the basement and post on the internet/watch TV.

At 7:30, I'm called a jerk for not reheating two portions of leftovers. She never asked for a portion.

This is new. We've been together for 17 years.

Humor me with your guesses

My man. I think so many married men go through this and suffer silently. Men are just expected to shoulder irrational, hostile behavior in marriage. I am not doing this when the kids are out of the house.

No wonder the lesbian divorce rate is the highest of any group.

The OP's wife is a pill, to be sure. However, most married men find that they have married a shrew sooner or later. And usually sooner.

One of my favorite things about DCUM is the number of women who blame their DHs for making them shrews without ever examining their own behavior to see if they played any part in the problem.

do men ever examine their part in this? Men typically have avoidant behavior, and that includes their avoiding their own bad behaviors that contribute to the relationship breakdown.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

I get home from work. Wife is immediately an intentional a$$hole about a half dozen things. I ask what the problem is, I get told "nothing" four times, so I leave it be.

Aggressive, unpleasant, huffy-puffy pout continues. I ignore it. Not taking the bait or rewarding her antisocial behavior. She's now polluting the whole house. I decamp to the basement and post on the internet/watch TV.

At 7:30, I'm called a jerk for not reheating two portions of leftovers. She never asked for a portion.

This is new. We've been together for 17 years.

Humor me with your guesses

My man. I think so many married men go through this and suffer silently. Men are just expected to shoulder irrational, hostile behavior in marriage. I am not doing this when the kids are out of the house.

No wonder the lesbian divorce rate is the highest of any group.

The OP's wife is a pill, to be sure. However, most married men find that they have married a shrew sooner or later. And usually sooner.

One of my favorite things about DCUM is the number of women who blame their DHs for making them shrews without ever examining their own behavior to see if they played any part in the problem.

do men ever examine their part in this? Men typically have avoidant behavior, and that includes their avoiding their own bad behaviors that contribute to the relationship breakdown.

Of course they don't. For generations, they didn't need to. And that sort of entitlement has been passed down from man to man since the beginning of time. They weaponize incompetence. They do the bare minimum. They are selfish. And then wonder why their wives are pissed.

FTR, my DH is not like this. And I'm thankful every day for it.