Pouts and Denial- What is Wrong With My Wife?

[Anonymous]

Ehhh. This isn’t looking good for you OP

Check in w your wife. Have a convo w her on whats going on.

[Anonymous]

Do her a favor and move out.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I get home from work. Wife is immediately an intentional a$$hole about a half dozen things. I ask what the problem is, I get told "nothing" four times, so I leave it be.

Aggressive, unpleasant, huffy-puffy pout continues. I ignore it. Not taking the bait or rewarding her antisocial behavior. She's now polluting the whole house. I decamp to the basement and post on the internet/watch TV.

At 7:30, I'm called a jerk for not reheating two portions of leftovers. She never asked for a portion.

This is new. We've been together for 17 years.

Humor me with your guesses

Which one is it Op— Half a dozen things or nothing?

Your post makes zero sense.

Except the part where you’re the selfish, uncommunicative douche who takes a meal someone else cooked yesterday and only heat up and serve yourself it the next dinner.

OP here. The dinner was lambchops, mintchimichurri, roasted potatos, steamed green beans, and home made rolls. I made it. It was leftovers from Easter, which I cooked for our family of 5.... and her mom, dad, brother and wife.

I feel bad for your husband.

So you have a family of 5? You, wife, and 3 kids? Who is parenting the kids while you’re decamped to the basement after work heating leftovers for yourself?

Kids are probably in the basement hiding from unhinged mommy.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I get home from work. Wife is immediately an intentional a$$hole about a half dozen things. I ask what the problem is, I get told "nothing" four times, so I leave it be.

Aggressive, unpleasant, huffy-puffy pout continues. I ignore it. Not taking the bait or rewarding her antisocial behavior. She's now polluting the whole house. I decamp to the basement and post on the internet/watch TV.

At 7:30, I'm called a jerk for not reheating two portions of leftovers. She never asked for a portion.

This is new. We've been together for 17 years.

Humor me with your guesses

This is a rude way to phrase it. Since you're asking.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I get home from work. Wife is immediately an intentional a$$hole about a half dozen things. I ask what the problem is, I get told "nothing" four times, so I leave it be.

Aggressive, unpleasant, huffy-puffy pout continues. I ignore it. Not taking the bait or rewarding her antisocial behavior. She's now polluting the whole house. I decamp to the basement and post on the internet/watch TV.

At 7:30, I'm called a jerk for not reheating two portions of leftovers. She never asked for a portion.

This is new. We've been together for 17 years.

Humor me with your guesses

Which one is it Op— Half a dozen things or nothing?

Your post makes zero sense.

Except the part where you’re the selfish, uncommunicative douche who takes a meal someone else cooked yesterday and only heat up and serve yourself it the next dinner.

OP here. The dinner was lambchops, mintchimichurri, roasted potatos, steamed green beans, and home made rolls. I made it. It was leftovers from Easter, which I cooked for our family of 5.... and her mom, dad, brother and wife.

I feel bad for your husband.

So you have a family of 5? You, wife, and 3 kids? Who is parenting the kids while you’re decamped to the basement after work heating leftovers for yourself?

This.

[Anonymous]

The real question OP is why are you asking here when you know we have no idea what your wife is thinking (except perhaps that you seem to think you can have three kids but only be their parent on the weekend)

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:The real question OP is why are you asking here when you know we have no idea what your wife is thinking (except perhaps that you seem to think you can have three kids but only be their parent on the weekend)

You are suggesting we communicate with our spouses - no matter how difficult - rather than crowdsource/complain/vent/etc... ?

Welcome to DCUM. Good luck with this.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I get home from work. Wife is immediately an intentional a$$hole about a half dozen things. I ask what the problem is, I get told "nothing" four times, so I leave it be.

Aggressive, unpleasant, huffy-puffy pout continues. I ignore it. Not taking the bait or rewarding her antisocial behavior. She's now polluting the whole house. I decamp to the basement and post on the internet/watch TV.

At 7:30, I'm called a jerk for not reheating two portions of leftovers. She never asked for a portion.

This is new. We've been together for 17 years.

Humor me with your guesses

You first met her on your wedding day?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I get home from work. Wife is immediately an intentional a$$hole about a half dozen things. I ask what the problem is, I get told "nothing" four times, so I leave it be.

Aggressive, unpleasant, huffy-puffy pout continues. I ignore it. Not taking the bait or rewarding her antisocial behavior. She's now polluting the whole house. I decamp to the basement and post on the internet/watch TV.

At 7:30, I'm called a jerk for not reheating two portions of leftovers. She never asked for a portion.

This is new. We've been together for 17 years.

Humor me with your guesses

Which one is it Op— Half a dozen things or nothing?

Your post makes zero sense.

Except the part where you’re the selfish, uncommunicative douche who takes a meal someone else cooked yesterday and only heat up and serve yourself it the next dinner.

This^. OP and Mrs need kindness, self control, empathy, communication and therapy.

[Anonymous]

You need to say “hey, can we talk? I feel like you might be unhappy with me and I would like to see if there’s anything I can do. I care about you.”

Why you didn’t do this is beyond my comprehension.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I get home from work. Wife is immediately an intentional a$$hole about a half dozen things. I ask what the problem is, I get told "nothing" four times, so I leave it be.

Aggressive, unpleasant, huffy-puffy pout continues. I ignore it. Not taking the bait or rewarding her antisocial behavior. She's now polluting the whole house. I decamp to the basement and post on the internet/watch TV.

At 7:30, I'm called a jerk for not reheating two portions of leftovers. She never asked for a portion.

This is new. We've been together for 17 years.

Humor me with your guesses

Yeah. You’re a d***. Probably oblivious. Probably know nothing about your wife’s internal world or desires or personality or dreams. You think, as long as she’s not busting my balls, life is gooooood.

You sound either like a complete loser useless man or a troll.

"I ask what the problem is, I get told "nothing" four times, so I leave it be."

"Nothing" is the answer. She has "nothing" to offer about her internal world, desires, personality or dreams. Nothing.

Ask better questions with kindness at a time she isn't stressed. ADo couples counseling as after 17 years if you don't understand each other, you need a neutral third party to help you.

[Anonymous]

In OP's defense, he can avoid engaging in fights and making things worse, he can cook and he is nice to her family. He seems like an avoidant personality who avoids conflict seeks refuge. Your childhood can do that to you. However, this only leads to a divorce or an unhealthy family dynamic so communication and therapy are needed.

[Anonymous]

OP if nothing else, read books and listen to podcasts about relationships to improve your role. You can't fix a two person relationship by yourself but you can be more aware of the issues and change you need to make. That's a start.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:The real question OP is why are you asking here when you know we have no idea what your wife is thinking (except perhaps that you seem to think you can have three kids but only be their parent on the weekend)

You are suggesting we communicate with our spouses - no matter how difficult - rather than crowdsource/complain/vent/etc... ?

Welcome to DCUM. Good luck with this.

He isn't venting, he is asking us to justify him hiding in the basement while his wife cares for their 3 kids.

[Anonymous]

The "pouts and denial" title is all the info any of us need to get an idea of how you might you up in your relationship. You need to take a look at acting a little more mature.