Can’t get husband to help with Easter.

Anonymous
Wah wah wah, I don’t even celebrate this holiday, but I am the type of woman who likes to do busy-work and make-work, and then I like complaining that my husband doesn’t feel the need to participate in my hyper-consumerist antics.
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Anonymous wrote:Easter is a weird to get upset about if you haven’t darkened the door of a church in 17 years.


I’m religious too, but I get why this stuff is a big deal to OP. If you aren’t going to church, then the baskets and the egg hunt is the whole holiday.


It’s Easter, the most religious of Christian holidays. If you don’t celebrate that, then there isn’t much of a “holiday.” Who believes in the Easter Bunny?

You’re not really this clueless, are you?


That’s all you’ve got? Look beyond your small circle. This is 2026. Easter isn’t a big holiday for the non-religious.


Everyone I know does a big family dinner and lots still do some type of egg hunt. None of us are going to church or are very religious. My neighborhood does an egg hunt and I live in a 99% Hindu/Muslim neighborhood.


The Hindu/Muslim families celebrate Easter with a big family dinner? I get the kids participating in the community egg hunt but that is fascinating.
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Anonymous wrote:Easter is a weird to get upset about if you haven’t darkened the door of a church in 17 years.


I’m religious too, but I get why this stuff is a big deal to OP. If you aren’t going to church, then the baskets and the egg hunt is the whole holiday.


It’s Easter, the most religious of Christian holidays. If you don’t celebrate that, then there isn’t much of a “holiday.” Who believes in the Easter Bunny?

You’re not really this clueless, are you?


That’s all you’ve got? Look beyond your small circle. This is 2026. Easter isn’t a big holiday for the non-religious.


Everyone I know does a big family dinner and lots still do some type of egg hunt. None of us are going to church or are very religious. My neighborhood does an egg hunt and I live in a 99% Hindu/Muslim neighborhood.


The Hindu/Muslim families celebrate Easter with a big family dinner? I get the kids participating in the community egg hunt but that is fascinating.


It's as ridiculous as saying Christians are celebrating Passover, Diwali and Eid with huge family feasts. I mean everyone is my neighborhood is doing it so it must be a thing.
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Anonymous wrote:Sorry OP. With things like this it’s probably better if you just do the shopping and ask DH to help fill eggs the night before. It sounds like splitting responsibility for shopping is a bad idea.


Bull shite. Op should never have run out and bought more stuff. That's the first mistake. Let dh suffer the consequences and frankly the kids aren't going to die because of a less than stellar Easter. Op let Easter go down a notch then assess.


There are no “consequences” for DH, because DH AND THE WHOLE FAMILY AREN’T RELIGIOUS.

So if kids want yet more plastic crap and candy, but don’t get it? Oh well, and why should he care? Why should he do extra work for a holiday they don’t celebrate? It is literally just another Sunday for him and for them.

If OP wants the make-work, she can make it work.


Their religious views have nothing to do with this. Why can't you get this through your thick skull. Many of us would be very upset if our spouses weren't helpful with Christmas and yet, it isn't a religious holiday for most people any more. Religion has nothing to do with it. If my spouse would not help with Christmas decorations/gifts, I'd be po'd as would every other person I know.
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Anonymous wrote:Sorry OP. With things like this it’s probably better if you just do the shopping and ask DH to help fill eggs the night before. It sounds like splitting responsibility for shopping is a bad idea.


Bull shite. Op should never have run out and bought more stuff. That's the first mistake. Let dh suffer the consequences and frankly the kids aren't going to die because of a less than stellar Easter. Op let Easter go down a notch then assess.


There are no “consequences” for DH, because DH AND THE WHOLE FAMILY AREN’T RELIGIOUS.

So if kids want yet more plastic crap and candy, but don’t get it? Oh well, and why should he care? Why should he do extra work for a holiday they don’t celebrate? It is literally just another Sunday for him and for them.

If OP wants the make-work, she can make it work.


Their religious views have nothing to do with this. Why can't you get this through your thick skull. Many of us would be very upset if our spouses weren't helpful with Christmas and yet, it isn't a religious holiday for most people any more. Religion has nothing to do with it. If my spouse would not help with Christmas decorations/gifts, I'd be po'd as would every other person I know.


Guess what? If DH shares the desire to celebrate a religious holiday in a secular way? GREAT.

If he doesn’t feel that Easter has the same “secular meaning” as Christmas, and isn’t interested in the make-work, then OP can do as she pleases.

You make-work women are endlessly hilarious to me. If you want to do something and it is meaningful to you? Do it. If DH doesn’t share that priority, then either simplify your plans, or STFU.
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Meh. Some people don't care about holidays.

You say you have been asking him to get candy for two weeks. Sounds like you need to be more specific. "See these plastic eggs? I need you to get Easter-themed candy that will fit in them. They have little chocolate eggs, etc. Get several types. Today after work. Thank you."
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OP I agree that you should have done it yourself and you could have ordered it on Amazon two weeks earlier in less time than it took to nag him.
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I don’t see the issue. You aren’t religious and all this could have been ordered online. Who goes to stores anymore?
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Anonymous wrote:Meh. Some people don't care about holidays.

You say you have been asking him to get candy for two weeks. Sounds like you need to be more specific. "See these plastic eggs? I need you to get Easter-themed candy that will fit in them. They have little chocolate eggs, etc. Get several types. Today after work. Thank you."


But for what? He would probably just buy the cheapest one. I like this stuff and half the fun is going to the store and finding cute little candies and choosing them. If this is her thing then she really should have bought the candy along with the basket stuff.
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We are not religious. Every single year, I.take the kids to egg hunt and bunny photo. This year, my older old, 10, does not want to do it anymore, so I shop & fill the eggs by myself for kids to do our egg hunt by ourselves in our basement. I stuff with some tiny toys, chocolate, buy some giant pre packaged eggs, out some real cash, coupons to redeem for things like movie, dinner, bigger toys, bags of candy etc.. They are both happy and I still take my younger one to outdoor egg hunt until one day she outgrown it. We do some Easter egg hunt theme craft activities in the morning as well.
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Anonymous wrote:Meh. Some people don't care about holidays.

You say you have been asking him to get candy for two weeks. Sounds like you need to be more specific. "See these plastic eggs? I need you to get Easter-themed candy that will fit in them. They have little chocolate eggs, etc. Get several types. Today after work. Thank you."


But for what? He would probably just buy the cheapest one. I like this stuff and half the fun is going to the store and finding cute little candies and choosing them. If this is her thing then she really should have bought the candy along with the basket stuff.


The DH buying the "cheapest one" should be fine if OP is going to outsource this to him, even though she's the one bent on doing this activity even though they aren't practicing Christians (who often don't care much about bunnies and candy, but that's another thing). Wanting to celebrate in a secular way is fine, especially if you grew up doing it, which many of us did, so I get why she'd want to do baskets and whatnot. But clearly OP did not want to buy this candy herself, otherwise she would have.
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Take a page from him and don’t do anything.

Traditions and values and holidays are too much work. Much easier to do nothing. Just watch tv or play Roblox all weekend.

Religious people have that foundation, you don’t need that. Just chill out.
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Anonymous wrote:Take a page from him and don’t do anything.

Traditions and values and holidays are too much work. Much easier to do nothing. Just watch tv or play Roblox all weekend.

Religious people have that foundation, you don’t need that. Just chill out.


NP. Oh yes yes, what an astute point. “Doing things” with family is, fundamentally, all about consumerism and consumption. If there isn’t cheap plastic crap that will end up in a landfill, sugary candy and fatty foods, no amount of activity or togetherness counts.

There is no such thing as going on a family hike, playing board games, having play dates, or cooking together. It’s either shoveling candy and plastic at kids (“togetherness!”) or it’s screens and Roblox. There is nothing else.
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Anonymous wrote:Meh. Some people don't care about holidays.

You say you have been asking him to get candy for two weeks. Sounds like you need to be more specific. "See these plastic eggs? I need you to get Easter-themed candy that will fit in them. They have little chocolate eggs, etc. Get several types. Today after work. Thank you."


You could do it yourself in less time, no angst, and fewer words. You can’t make him care or put your ideas in motion.
Anonymous
I never involved my DH in celebrations planning and execution. This is not his forte. He is good in stuff that he likes to do. I am good in stuff that I like to do.
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