Can’t get husband to help with Easter.

[Anonymous]

We are not religious. We have never been to church in 17 years of marriage.

Been asking husband for two weeks to get candy to fill the eggs for egg hunt for kids. (I got the basket stuff weeks ago.) Waited until 7pm and brought home Pay Days and Hersheys with almonds. As if kids want those. Nothing Easter themed.

I ran back to store. He was mad I ran back. Said it is stupid to egg hunt because Easter isn’t about bunny’s.

I said if you want it to have more meaning then you can talk to the kids about that or take them to church anytime. I don’t care either way. - I’m happy to celebrate spring with an egg hunt for tradition sake.

He refuses to do anything. Even to do it his way.

It just sucks. Our kids are so excited. Been talking all week about it. He is just pouting. At a minimum it is a fun game for the kids. He can’t even enjoy that.

I also asked him to get a gift card for our older child who is a teen. Didn’t even do that. So I’ve got nothing for the teen.

[Anonymous]

Sorry OP. With things like this it’s probably better if you just do the shopping and ask DH to help fill eggs the night before. It sounds like splitting responsibility for shopping is a bad idea.

[Anonymous]

Paydays and Hersheys with Almonds?? Does he hate his children? He obviously did that out of annoyance with you. From now on you just have to do it all yourself. Is that irritating? Yes. But if you want the kids to have a certain kind of experience, your DH isn’t on the same page and it will be up to you and you alone. I’ve been there.

Genuine question: did he have Easter candy and baskets growing up?

[Anonymous]

PS—If you have nice bills for cash, you can give your teen cash.

[Anonymous]

Weaponized incompetence at its finest.

[Anonymous]

Wow, your husband sounds useless when it comes to stuff like this.

Is he like this in other areas of parenting??

I would just suck it up and buy the candy needed for the Easter 🐣 eggs and stew in resentment.
Unless he can do something else for today.
Like prepare a tasty Easter dinner for the family later on?

[Anonymous]

Easter is a weird to get upset about if you haven’t darkened the door of a church in 17 years.

[Anonymous]

Divorce is the answer here. Marry someone who cares about the stuff you care about.

[Anonymous]

If you’re not religious, you have nothing to grouse about. Your husband rightly sees it as just another Sunday. If you want to do stuff, do stuff.

If something optional/extraneous is not important to my husband, of course I don’t expect him to do something about it, and vice versa. Of course that doesn’t go for doing taxes, household chores, taking care of children, but if he’s not into play-acting a religious holiday he doesn’t celebrate, of course I wouldn’t expect him to do anything.

Your expectations are 100% off, OP.

[Anonymous]

I don't understand. YOU want to do a totally optional egg hunt. Why does he have to do the shopping for it? This is your project, right?

[Anonymous]

Why didn't you specify what you wanted?

If you didn't have time in two weeks to go get or order stuff, maybe this isn't a project you should have taken on? It's not required!

Also this is what Amazon or Target or pick-up orders are for, OP.

[Anonymous]

He sounds depressed.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Why didn't you specify what you wanted?

If you didn't have time in two weeks to go get or order stuff, maybe this isn't a project you should have taken on? It's not required!

Also this is what Amazon or Target or pick-up orders are for, OP.

Do you even have children in a home that celebrates Easter?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:If you’re not religious, you have nothing to grouse about. Your husband rightly sees it as just another Sunday. If you want to do stuff, do stuff.

If something optional/extraneous is not important to my husband, of course I don’t expect him to do something about it, and vice versa. Of course that doesn’t go for doing taxes, household chores, taking care of children, but if he’s not into play-acting a religious holiday he doesn’t celebrate, of course I wouldn’t expect him to do anything.

Your expectations are 100% off, OP.

An Easter egg hunt for a family who is not observant is worse than a regular Sunday.

He has risen! No he has not. But let’s celebrate with peeps and everyday candy just wrapped in green and pink!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Why didn't you specify what you wanted?

If you didn't have time in two weeks to go get or order stuff, maybe this isn't a project you should have taken on? It's not required!

Also this is what Amazon or Target or pick-up orders are for, OP.

Do you even have children in a home that celebrates Easter?

Newsflash. OP is not from a church going family, she also doesn’t have children at home who celebrate Easter.