BIL wants to use our house to get ready for wedding — WWYD?

[Anonymous]

OP, I'm all for setting boundaries, but this is the morning of his wedding and he wants a place to gather and hang out with his groomsmen while he gets ready for his wedding. The only answer here is yes. Take your showers, etc before he gets there in the morning. You can put on your makeup with a portable makeup mirror in the kitchen. This is your husband's brother's wedding!!! Anything other than a yes would be highly unusual and honestly really petty.

[Anonymous]

Just say yes and have your husband tell his brother that everyone needs to come showered because you don't have enough bathrooms/hot water. I'm sure that's what they were already planning to do. No "getting ready" event I have ever attended involves people meeting up to shower.

Get a sandwich or bagel platter and some paper plates and napkins. Throw everything in the trash on your way out the door.

[Anonymous]

They can all cram in the living room, porch, garage, wherever, it doesn't have to be well appointed or catered. Just be a location for him and maybe have some drinks for them. Chances are they will be in and out for food but mostly out anyway if you're lucky

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:What is it with all these adult siblings who can’t be generous and gracious for a few hours on a sibling’s wedding day?

It's called boundaries with siblings who are failure to launch.

[Anonymous]

If you are grown up enough to get married then you are are grown up enough to get a hotel room.

[Anonymous]

Where are all the groomsmen sleeping? Do they have hotel rooms?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Throw money at the problem. You rent the extra hotel room and DH shows up with the catered party platters.

The groom should throw money at the problem.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Why the heck not? "Six men" - is that scary to OP? I would happily do this.

Scary? No. But 6 men I don't know showering at my house is a definite no. Coming over to hang out and change clothes is fine but grooming needs to be done at their hotel.
(Not OP).

I come from a large family and this would not bother me at all. Maybe you can get ready at a friends house with the kids. Let the men have some fun. You sound like a Debbie Downer.

[Anonymous]

I cannot imagine under what circumstances I would say no to something like this unless it was pretty clear it wasn’t going to work logistically for the wedding. Obviously you say yes.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:of course you say yes. this sounds like a blast.

A blast for the guys, definitely.

Maybe not so much for the lady that has to clean the house before and after, arrange the food, make sure it all gets put away and crumbs are wiped down before she puts her dress on, get ready and wrangle the kids (and make sure she's decent whenever she pops out of her bedroom to take care of any of these things).

It's a pain in the ass at best, and they should be very grateful if she does it.

She should just get a hotel room for herself to get ready in

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:of course you say yes. this sounds like a blast.

A blast for the guys, definitely.

Maybe not so much for the lady that has to clean the house before and after, arrange the food, make sure it all gets put away and crumbs are wiped down before she puts her dress on, get ready and wrangle the kids (and make sure she's decent whenever she pops out of her bedroom to take care of any of these things).

It's a pain in the ass at best, and they should be very grateful if she does it.

Well life is short and we do things for those we love. Run a vacuum and take out the trash. NBD. So many uptight people. Geez.

[Anonymous]

“Sounds like fun for Larlo! Please make sure there’s food and drinks for them, and make sure everything is put away before we leave for the ceremony. You’re such a great brother!”

[Anonymous]

I’m a total introvert and not huge on having company in my house. For this I would be saying yes. I would have a cleaner come the day before and order sandwiches etc like mentioned above. I would not be worried in the least about leftovers getting wrapped up or put away.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:“Sounds like fun for Larlo! Please make sure there’s food and drinks for them, and make sure everything is put away before we leave for the ceremony. You’re such a great brother!”

[Anonymous]

Do it