BIL wants to use our house to get ready for wedding — WWYD?

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Anonymous wrote:I bet OP had to host them anyway and was just "venting" the way the usual doormats here do.

Funny calling op a doormat given the number of people on here attacking her for not jumping to pay for the hotel room for a group of grown men.

Either way OP won't get her way. Her BIL will show up because his brother invited him or she will be paying money for his room. Would be easier to just be go with the flow and let him get dressed for a few hours.

He originally wanted to use the parents' home but it's too small. Let them pay for the little darling's hotel room.

I wonder if the parents' purposely downsized early to avoid hosting the groom for stuff like this.

We stopped hosting after guest broke the bed in the room and didn't say a word to us.

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Anonymous wrote:I bet OP had to host them anyway and was just "venting" the way the usual doormats here do.

Funny calling op a doormat given the number of people on here attacking her for not jumping to pay for the hotel room for a group of grown men.

Either way OP won't get her way. Her BIL will show up because his brother invited him or she will be paying money for his room. Would be easier to just be go with the flow and let him get dressed for a few hours.

He originally wanted to use the parents' home but it's too small. Let them pay for the little darling's hotel room.

I wonder if the parents' purposely downsized early to avoid hosting the groom for stuff like this.

Yeah I’m sure they sold their house to avoid having their son and a few friends over for a few hours. Sure. Do you always have bizarre thoughts that you just wonder about?

Why don't they host then. The parents can get ready first and clear out and let the groomsmen and groom have space. Isn't that what parents do?

Why doesn't OP come back to clarify? Makes one wonder if OP was just a troll to bring out the usual family haters who wonder why anyone should have any relationship at all with others.

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Anonymous wrote:I bet OP had to host them anyway and was just "venting" the way the usual doormats here do.

Funny calling op a doormat given the number of people on here attacking her for not jumping to pay for the hotel room for a group of grown men.

Either way OP won't get her way. Her BIL will show up because his brother invited him or she will be paying money for his room. Would be easier to just be go with the flow and let him get dressed for a few hours.

He originally wanted to use the parents' home but it's too small. Let them pay for the little darling's hotel room.

I wonder if the parents' purposely downsized early to avoid hosting the groom for stuff like this.

Yeah I’m sure they sold their house to avoid having their son and a few friends over for a few hours. Sure. Do you always have bizarre thoughts that you just wonder about?

Why don't they host then. The parents can get ready first and clear out and let the groomsmen and groom have space. Isn't that what parents do?

Why doesn't OP come back to clarify? Makes one wonder if OP was just a troll to bring out the usual family haters who wonder why anyone should have any relationship at all with others.

I don't think you have to be a family hater not to want to host 6 men in your house when you're yourself trying to get ready for a wedding, and getting your young kids ready -- which is also on you not DH. I can imagine mom running around in her bra trying to grab something and you obviously cannot do that with a bunch of men sitting in your living room/your kids room/your bathroom or all of them. Then the kids might run around in their underwear before being stuffed into party clothes and you need to feed them etc. etc.... who needs all that drama! Have you never gotten your family ready for a fancy outing?!

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I am not a fan of my BIL and I would even say yes to this one.

DH only has one brother and he knows most or all of the groomsmen even though I, the SIL, don’t know them.

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Six grown men taking over your common space is a bit of an imposition. He can pay for another room. Or hang out in one of the groomsman’s hotel rooms. None of this makes any sense. At all.

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Anonymous wrote:I bet OP had to host them anyway and was just "venting" the way the usual doormats here do.

Funny calling op a doormat given the number of people on here attacking her for not jumping to pay for the hotel room for a group of grown men.

Either way OP won't get her way. Her BIL will show up because his brother invited him or she will be paying money for his room. Would be easier to just be go with the flow and let him get dressed for a few hours.

Every family event involving him will be like this.

Like what? He will come by and maybe eat something? The horror.

Did you not read the op's post? She's being asked to host 7 men for an unspecified number of hours so they can get ready for a wedding. Rather different.

It’s unspecified to us. Presumably OP knows what time the wedding is.

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I would allow this and, despite knowing it will be an imposition, try to make a festive event out of it that the whole family can enjoy. You can clean up later.

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How big is your house? My house is not big enough for this, 2000 sq. ft. 2 bathrooms. I don't like people in my bedroom or bathroom, so, this would be a hard no for me.

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Anonymous wrote:How big is your house? My house is not big enough for this, 2000 sq. ft. 2 bathrooms. I don't like people in my bedroom or bathroom, so, this would be a hard no for me.

From the original post, it sounds like OP has a smaller house as well. If there is no hotel room for the groomsmen to get ready, where are they all staying? Are they local? Is DH the best man? I would be inclined to allow it, but 100% put it on DH to clean, provide food, etc. Maybe you and the kids could even clear out and get a hotel room in the block to get ready.

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Anonymous wrote:How big is your house? My house is not big enough for this, 2000 sq. ft. 2 bathrooms. I don't like people in my bedroom or bathroom, so, this would be a hard no for me.

From the original post, it sounds like OP has a smaller house as well. If there is no hotel room for the groomsmen to get ready, where are they all staying? Are they local? Is DH the best man? I would be inclined to allow it, but 100% put it on DH to clean, provide food, etc. Maybe you and the kids could even clear out and get a hotel room in the block to get ready.

We are supposed to believe that the men aren't local, stayed somewhere else the previous night, maybe a hotel, and then will probably be checking into a hotel after the wedding? It makes very little sense!

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This is why they invented golf.

They need an activity and food while the bridal party gets ready. They do not all need to get ready together, the groom needs a place to get ready and they need a place to gather once they are fed and ready.

I would be fine with DH hosting this while I got myself and kids ready.

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This will be a lifelong memory for your kids and lesson in generosity Sobit.

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* Do it

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Anonymous wrote:Six grown men taking over your common space is a bit of an imposition. He can pay for another room. Or hang out in one of the groomsman’s hotel rooms. None of this makes any sense. At all.

For part of a day! You people are so ungracious it's shocking.

Men take very little time and space to get ready. This would be a no-brainer for me.

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Anonymous wrote:I would allow this and, despite knowing it will be an imposition, try to make a festive event out of it that the whole family can enjoy. You can clean up later.

They could clean up after themselves. They don't need a woman to do it.