DD planning to come visit for the holidays, but . .

[Anonymous]

Just wanted to say that welcoming the partners/SOs of adult children on vacations and into homes even early on in the relationship is a best practice. My parents let me take my now husband on vacation with the family four months after we started dating. We’ve now been together and married for over six years and have a child. Spouse still has a great relationship with my parents. It’s investing in the future to take good care of potential son and daughter in laws.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I wouldn't let some horny college boy screw my daughter under my roof regardless of whether he's getting action from her in other places. Nope.

Separate rooms for sure.

You are fine with that happening in a car, in a dorm, in school bathroom, in his apartment in a cheap motel etc, just not under your roof?

I can't stop it anywhere else. But I can in my house.

+1
It’s not even about “stopping” anything for me. It’s about not bringing me into the private sex life of two uncommitted adults. It’s presumptuous to assume they are having sex (which putting them in the same room definitely makes this assumption whether or not they actually engage in the act in your home) and invasive to ask and put DD on the spot, not to mention the awkwardness this creates for the bf as a guest. And I also consider it respectful to her dad to not put him through the stress of confirmation that DD is sharing a bed with some guy he has to have breakfast with in the morning. It’s okay to have boundaries. And it’s okay to acknowledge that you understand that the couple may be making or not making the choice to be sexually involved, but during the vacation at your home, they will be staying in separate bedrooms

Very fair.