Can I be honest? I don’t care much about my friends kids college announcements

[Anonymous]

One mom I know never posted about her DC1’s schools. One set of photos from move-in day. For her DC2, she posted application updates (ED submitted! Fingers crossed!), the list of acceptances (This brainy girl!), and the final decision. DC1 went to a flagship, DC2 went to an Ivy. I really felt for her DC1.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:It's jealousy. I feel it, too. But here's the thing. If someone posts a proud announcement about their kid going to some 80%+ acceptance rate school, I don't feel scornful. It's only the ones posting about the elite schools that make me annoyed. So I recognize that about myself. I grit my teeth and comment "Wow wow wow! How proud are you! Congratulations to the whole family!" And then I silence further notifications about the post.

Well, at least your honest. But why the jealousy? Why the insecurity? Is it because you honestly think that in the end where a kid goes to college makes a big difference?

Honestly, I can't articulate it. I think about it a lot. Why do I care so much? My kid is going to be fine wherever he lands. He's a great kid. We're a great family. I've always been impressed by prestigious schools, I guess. Like if someone says they went to Princeton, I never, ever forget where they went.

That said, I live in a rural area, own a small business, earn 7 figures and went to a state school. I know other highly successful, high earning people and none went to impressive colleges. And yet...I feel very stressed out about where my kid is going to go to college in a few years. Wish I didn't feel this way.

And here you are, letting us all know you make 7 figures and are highly accomplished.

You have serious, serious insecurity issues and wildly misplaced priorities. I'd strongly advise that you seek therapy.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I like following DC's school Instagram announcement page because I like to see where kids land, but I do not want constant updates from friends about their kids' application statuses, and I definitely do not want to know about scholarships, etc. Last year, we got actual printed college announcements with professional photos of the kids--essentially SM on crack. A big no thanks on the printed announcements aka brag bomb.

Again, it's the company you have chosen to keep. Let me guess: private school?

The printed announcements (coming from 3 separate families) were all from public school families.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:It's jealousy. I feel it, too. But here's the thing. If someone posts a proud announcement about their kid going to some 80%+ acceptance rate school, I don't feel scornful. It's only the ones posting about the elite schools that make me annoyed. So I recognize that about myself. I grit my teeth and comment "Wow wow wow! How proud are you! Congratulations to the whole family!" And then I silence further notifications about the post.

Yikes. Really? My kid got in unhooked to an Ivy. He didn’t post on the school Instagram and I didn’t post on mine (very small set of followers anyways).

It’s disheartening that people take it that way. He did put a sticker on the car. It’s kind of crazy it’s ok for anyone in a school below T20 to do- but other kids are t supposed to show any school pride.

Stickers on the car is so pretentious.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:It's jealousy. I feel it, too. But here's the thing. If someone posts a proud announcement about their kid going to some 80%+ acceptance rate school, I don't feel scornful. It's only the ones posting about the elite schools that make me annoyed. So I recognize that about myself. I grit my teeth and comment "Wow wow wow! How proud are you! Congratulations to the whole family!" And then I silence further notifications about the post. :)

Well, at least your honest. But why the jealousy? Why the insecurity? Is it because you honestly think that in the end where a kid goes to college makes a big difference?

Honestly, I can't articulate it. I think about it a lot. Why do I care so much? My kid is going to be fine wherever he lands. He's a great kid. We're a great family. I've always been impressed by prestigious schools, I guess. Like if someone says they went to Princeton, I never, ever forget where they went.

That said, I live in a rural area, own a small business, earn 7 figures and went to a state school. I know other highly successful, high earning people and none went to impressive colleges. And yet...I feel very stressed out about where my kid is going to go to college in a few years. Wish I didn't feel this way.

And here you are, letting us all know you make 7 figures and are highly accomplished.

You have serious, serious insecurity issues and wildly misplaced priorities. I'd strongly advise that you seek therapy.

NP hey dummy, this is an anon board. See the difference? Smh

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I like following DC's school Instagram announcement page because I like to see where kids land, but I do not want constant updates from friends about their kids' application statuses, and I definitely do not want to know about scholarships, etc. Last year, we got actual printed college announcements with professional photos of the kids--essentially SM on crack. A big no thanks on the printed announcements aka brag bomb.

Again, it's the company you have chosen to keep. Let me guess: private school?

The printed announcements (coming from 3 separate families) were all from public school families.

No, they weren't. And there weren't 3. And I was right that your kids are in private school.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:It's jealousy. I feel it, too. But here's the thing. If someone posts a proud announcement about their kid going to some 80%+ acceptance rate school, I don't feel scornful. It's only the ones posting about the elite schools that make me annoyed. So I recognize that about myself. I grit my teeth and comment "Wow wow wow! How proud are you! Congratulations to the whole family!" And then I silence further notifications about the post.

Yikes. Really? My kid got in unhooked to an Ivy. He didn’t post on the school Instagram and I didn’t post on mine (very small set of followers anyways).

It’s disheartening that people take it that way. He did put a sticker on the car. It’s kind of crazy it’s ok for anyone in a school below T20 to do- but other kids are t supposed to show any school pride.

Stickers on the car is so pretentious.

Vastly prefer the car sticker or magnet over a brag post(s) on SM.

[Anonymous]

I am not getting these blow by blows either. Friend group sends actual paper announcements to friends and family (which I know some also hate but I like).

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:It's jealousy. I feel it, too. But here's the thing. If someone posts a proud announcement about their kid going to some 80%+ acceptance rate school, I don't feel scornful. It's only the ones posting about the elite schools that make me annoyed. So I recognize that about myself. I grit my teeth and comment "Wow wow wow! How proud are you! Congratulations to the whole family!" And then I silence further notifications about the post. :)

Well, at least your honest. But why the jealousy? Why the insecurity? Is it because you honestly think that in the end where a kid goes to college makes a big difference?

Honestly, I can't articulate it. I think about it a lot. Why do I care so much? My kid is going to be fine wherever he lands. He's a great kid. We're a great family. I've always been impressed by prestigious schools, I guess. Like if someone says they went to Princeton, I never, ever forget where they went.

That said, I live in a rural area, own a small business, earn 7 figures and went to a state school. I know other highly successful, high earning people and none went to impressive colleges. And yet...I feel very stressed out about where my kid is going to go to college in a few years. Wish I didn't feel this way.

And here you are, letting us all know you make 7 figures and are highly accomplished.

You have serious, serious insecurity issues and wildly misplaced priorities. I'd strongly advise that you seek therapy.

NP hey dummy, this is an anon board. See the difference? Smh

Nope, I don't. The same point can be made without that information. It's a sure sign of incredible insecurity.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I am not impressed by any college my friends children got into. Most are wealthy. Maybe that’s not fair, but I know how much support/help these kids have. I appreciate the families are proud and that’s great, but there is no need to brag about the obvious privilege at play.

In contrast, I know a teacher whose dd got into Yale ED. I was happy and impressed to hear that news, although she didn’t tell me, our mutual friend shared the news.

This is how I feel. Maybe it’s mean but I can’t help it.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:It's jealousy. I feel it, too. But here's the thing. If someone posts a proud announcement about their kid going to some 80%+ acceptance rate school, I don't feel scornful. It's only the ones posting about the elite schools that make me annoyed. So I recognize that about myself. I grit my teeth and comment "Wow wow wow! How proud are you! Congratulations to the whole family!" And then I silence further notifications about the post.

Yikes. Really? My kid got in unhooked to an Ivy. He didn’t post on the school Instagram and I didn’t post on mine (very small set of followers anyways).

It’s disheartening that people take it that way. He did put a sticker on the car. It’s kind of crazy it’s ok for anyone in a school below T20 to do- but other kids are t supposed to show any school pride.

Stickers on the car is so pretentious.

Vastly prefer the car sticker or magnet over a brag post(s) on SM.

There's no difference. They're both bragging. One method has just been around longer.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:It's jealousy. I feel it, too. But here's the thing. If someone posts a proud announcement about their kid going to some 80%+ acceptance rate school, I don't feel scornful. It's only the ones posting about the elite schools that make me annoyed. So I recognize that about myself. I grit my teeth and comment "Wow wow wow! How proud are you! Congratulations to the whole family!" And then I silence further notifications about the post. :)

Well, at least your honest. But why the jealousy? Why the insecurity? Is it because you honestly think that in the end where a kid goes to college makes a big difference?

Honestly, I can't articulate it. I think about it a lot. Why do I care so much? My kid is going to be fine wherever he lands. He's a great kid. We're a great family. I've always been impressed by prestigious schools, I guess. Like if someone says they went to Princeton, I never, ever forget where they went.

That said, I live in a rural area, own a small business, earn 7 figures and went to a state school. I know other highly successful, high earning people and none went to impressive colleges. And yet...I feel very stressed out about where my kid is going to go to college in a few years. Wish I didn't feel this way.

And here you are, letting us all know you make 7 figures and are highly accomplished.

You have serious, serious insecurity issues and wildly misplaced priorities. I'd strongly advise that you seek therapy.

NP hey dummy, this is an anon board. See the difference? Smh

Nope, I don't. The same point can be made without that information. It's a sure sign of incredible insecurity.

It quite literally is not the same

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I love seeing them. This is so weird. I have two in college about to graduate and I still love seeing where kids land.

Why? Why do you care? Why do you think it matters at all? Especially if it's not your kid? I'm genuinely curious.

This is pretty sad. How can the idea of pleasure over your friends achievements be such a foreign concept?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:It's jealousy. I feel it, too. But here's the thing. If someone posts a proud announcement about their kid going to some 80%+ acceptance rate school, I don't feel scornful. It's only the ones posting about the elite schools that make me annoyed. So I recognize that about myself. I grit my teeth and comment "Wow wow wow! How proud are you! Congratulations to the whole family!" And then I silence further notifications about the post.

Yikes. Really? My kid got in unhooked to an Ivy. He didn’t post on the school Instagram and I didn’t post on mine (very small set of followers anyways).

It’s disheartening that people take it that way. He did put a sticker on the car. It’s kind of crazy it’s ok for anyone in a school below T20 to do- but other kids are t supposed to show any school pride.

Stickers on the car is so pretentious.

Vastly prefer the car sticker or magnet over a brag post(s) on SM.

Ditto

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:It's jealousy. I feel it, too. But here's the thing. If someone posts a proud announcement about their kid going to some 80%+ acceptance rate school, I don't feel scornful. It's only the ones posting about the elite schools that make me annoyed. So I recognize that about myself. I grit my teeth and comment "Wow wow wow! How proud are you! Congratulations to the whole family!" And then I silence further notifications about the post.

Yikes. Really? My kid got in unhooked to an Ivy. He didn’t post on the school Instagram and I didn’t post on mine (very small set of followers anyways).

It’s disheartening that people take it that way. He did put a sticker on the car. It’s kind of crazy it’s ok for anyone in a school below T20 to do- but other kids are t supposed to show any school pride.

Stickers on the car is so pretentious.

Who cares?! Eat it. I see 100+ UVA, VT, JMU, CNU decals daily. How are those not pretentious. A kid can only have a decal if it’s below T20?