Can I be honest? I don’t care much about my friends kids college announcements

[Anonymous]

I like following DC's school Instagram announcement page because I like to see where kids land, but I do not want constant updates from friends about their kids' application statuses, and I definitely do not want to know about scholarships, etc. Last year, we got actual printed college announcements with professional photos of the kids--essentially SM on crack. A big no thanks on the printed announcements aka brag bomb.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Op here. As usual, the lack of reading comprehension on here astounds me.

It’s not posting on social media that bothers me (I expect it there, although some posts seem especially cringey but whatever), it’s people who bring it to off SM communications- group texts, group WhatsApp, emails etc.

Sorry, that’s especially lame. Unless I’m grandma

I still don’t get what’s wrong with it. These are big milestones. Kids are excited. Let them be excited.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I like following DC's school Instagram announcement page because I like to see where kids land, but I do not want constant updates from friends about their kids' application statuses, and I definitely do not want to know about scholarships, etc. Last year, we got actual printed college announcements with professional photos of the kids--essentially SM on crack. A big no thanks on the printed announcements aka brag bomb.

Again, it's the company you have chosen to keep. Let me guess: private school?

[Anonymous]

It's jealousy. I feel it, too. But here's the thing. If someone posts a proud announcement about their kid going to some 80%+ acceptance rate school, I don't feel scornful. It's only the ones posting about the elite schools that make me annoyed. So I recognize that about myself. I grit my teeth and comment "Wow wow wow! How proud are you! Congratulations to the whole family!" And then I silence further notifications about the post.

[Anonymous]

You have to be modest.

Something along the lines of "I am humbled to be admitted to a HYPSM..."

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:You have to be modest.

Something along the lines of "I am humbled to be admitted to a HYPSM..."

Lolz!

[Anonymous]

I assume where they attend school/get a job isn’t my story to tell. It’s my kid’s story.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:It's jealousy. I feel it, too. But here's the thing. If someone posts a proud announcement about their kid going to some 80%+ acceptance rate school, I don't feel scornful. It's only the ones posting about the elite schools that make me annoyed. So I recognize that about myself. I grit my teeth and comment "Wow wow wow! How proud are you! Congratulations to the whole family!" And then I silence further notifications about the post.

Well, at least your honest. But why the jealousy? Why the insecurity? Is it because you honestly think that in the end where a kid goes to college makes a big difference?

[Anonymous]

It’s the same parents who post long birthday wishes to their spouses on Facebook or insta. Presumably, the person is next to you, no?

Unless you’re a celebrity, no one cares

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I assume where they attend school/get a job isn’t my story to tell. It’s my kid’s story.

This. My kid posts. I don’t although dh might. But what I certainly don’t do is email or message my friends about it.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:It’s the same parents who post long birthday wishes to their spouses on Facebook or insta. Presumably, the person is next to you, no?

Unless you’re a celebrity, no one cares

You seem to care.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:It’s the same parents who post long birthday wishes to their spouses on Facebook or insta. Presumably, the person is next to you, no?

Unless you’re a celebrity, no one cares

You seem to care.

I get second hand embarrassment

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:It's jealousy. I feel it, too. But here's the thing. If someone posts a proud announcement about their kid going to some 80%+ acceptance rate school, I don't feel scornful. It's only the ones posting about the elite schools that make me annoyed. So I recognize that about myself. I grit my teeth and comment "Wow wow wow! How proud are you! Congratulations to the whole family!" And then I silence further notifications about the post.

Well, at least your honest. But why the jealousy? Why the insecurity? Is it because you honestly think that in the end where a kid goes to college makes a big difference?

Honestly, I can't articulate it. I think about it a lot. Why do I care so much? My kid is going to be fine wherever he lands. He's a great kid. We're a great family. I've always been impressed by prestigious schools, I guess. Like if someone says they went to Princeton, I never, ever forget where they went.

That said, I live in a rural area, own a small business, earn 7 figures and went to a state school. I know other highly successful, high earning people and none went to impressive colleges. And yet...I feel very stressed out about where my kid is going to go to college in a few years. Wish I didn't feel this way.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:It's jealousy. I feel it, too. But here's the thing. If someone posts a proud announcement about their kid going to some 80%+ acceptance rate school, I don't feel scornful. It's only the ones posting about the elite schools that make me annoyed. So I recognize that about myself. I grit my teeth and comment "Wow wow wow! How proud are you! Congratulations to the whole family!" And then I silence further notifications about the post.

Yikes. Really? My kid got in unhooked to an Ivy. He didn’t post on the school Instagram and I didn’t post on mine (very small set of followers anyways).

It’s disheartening that people take it that way. He did put a sticker on the car. It’s kind of crazy it’s ok for anyone in a school below T20 to do- but other kids are t supposed to show any school pride.

[Anonymous]

I like wishing the kids well at their new destination. It’s an exciting milestone for them.