Can I be honest? I don’t care much about my friends kids college announcements

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Anonymous wrote:It's jealousy. I feel it, too. But here's the thing. If someone posts a proud announcement about their kid going to some 80%+ acceptance rate school, I don't feel scornful. It's only the ones posting about the elite schools that make me annoyed. So I recognize that about myself. I grit my teeth and comment "Wow wow wow! How proud are you! Congratulations to the whole family!" And then I silence further notifications about the post.

Yikes. Really? My kid got in unhooked to an Ivy. He didn’t post on the school Instagram and I didn’t post on mine (very small set of followers anyways).

It’s disheartening that people take it that way. He did put a sticker on the car. It’s kind of crazy it’s ok for anyone in a school below T20 to do- but other kids are t supposed to show any school pride.

Stickers on the car is so pretentious.

Vastly prefer the car sticker or magnet over a brag post(s) on SM.

Ditto

+1

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Anonymous wrote:It's jealousy. I feel it, too. But here's the thing. If someone posts a proud announcement about their kid going to some 80%+ acceptance rate school, I don't feel scornful. It's only the ones posting about the elite schools that make me annoyed. So I recognize that about myself. I grit my teeth and comment "Wow wow wow! How proud are you! Congratulations to the whole family!" And then I silence further notifications about the post.

Yikes. Really? My kid got in unhooked to an Ivy. He didn’t post on the school Instagram and I didn’t post on mine (very small set of followers anyways).

It’s disheartening that people take it that way. He did put a sticker on the car. It’s kind of crazy it’s ok for anyone in a school below T20 to do- but other kids are t supposed to show any school pride.

Stickers on the car is so pretentious.

Who cares?! Eat it. I see 100+ UVA, VT, JMU, CNU decals daily. How are those not pretentious. A kid can only have a decal if it’s below T20?

Yep. It’s so weird.

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Limit the announcements and photos and videos about college admissions or anything else to the grandparents. No one else cares and people can be really mean!

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you dont like the people you're friends with.

this is a failure on your part. find friends you CARE about! you will want to celebrate their wins with a full heart - and they will want to celebrate yours.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:It's jealousy. I feel it, too. But here's the thing. If someone posts a proud announcement about their kid going to some 80%+ acceptance rate school, I don't feel scornful. It's only the ones posting about the elite schools that make me annoyed. So I recognize that about myself. I grit my teeth and comment "Wow wow wow! How proud are you! Congratulations to the whole family!" And then I silence further notifications about the post.

Yikes. Really? My kid got in unhooked to an Ivy. He didn’t post on the school Instagram and I didn’t post on mine (very small set of followers anyways).

It’s disheartening that people take it that way. He did put a sticker on the car. It’s kind of crazy it’s ok for anyone in a school below T20 to do- but other kids are t supposed to show any school pride.

Stickers on the car is so pretentious.

Who cares?! Eat it. I see 100+ UVA, VT, JMU, CNU decals daily. How are those not pretentious. A kid can only have a decal if it’s below T20?

Decals on cars are great imo. I remember my had decals on EVERYTHING of my school (UVA back in the 90s). It wasn't my top choice; I didn't get into my top choice. I wasn't that thrilled to be going there initially (ended up loving it). Honestly I felt cheered by my dad displaying pride in my school on his car. 25+ years later he still wears UVA golf shirts, hats...and we live nowhere near VA anymore.

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Anonymous wrote:Limit the announcements and photos and videos about college admissions or anything else to the grandparents. No one else cares and people can be really mean!

Yep. You wouldn’t want to hurt momma snowflake’s feelings. Play it close to the chest.

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Anonymous wrote:It's jealousy. I feel it, too. But here's the thing. If someone posts a proud announcement about their kid going to some 80%+ acceptance rate school, I don't feel scornful. It's only the ones posting about the elite schools that make me annoyed. So I recognize that about myself. I grit my teeth and comment "Wow wow wow! How proud are you! Congratulations to the whole family!" And then I silence further notifications about the post.

Yikes. Really? My kid got in unhooked to an Ivy. He didn’t post on the school Instagram and I didn’t post on mine (very small set of followers anyways).

It’s disheartening that people take it that way. He did put a sticker on the car. It’s kind of crazy it’s ok for anyone in a school below T20 to do- but other kids are t supposed to show any school pride.

Stickers on the car is so pretentious.

Who cares?! Eat it. I see 100+ UVA, VT, JMU, CNU decals daily. How are those not pretentious. A kid can only have a decal if it’s below T20?

Decals on cars are great imo. I remember my had decals on EVERYTHING of my school (UVA back in the 90s). It wasn't my top choice; I didn't get into my top choice. I wasn't that thrilled to be going there initially (ended up loving it). Honestly I felt cheered by my dad displaying pride in my school on his car. 25+ years later he still wears UVA golf shirts, hats...and we live nowhere near VA anymore.

But if it were an Ivy people would be angry at both of you, apparently. Lol

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Anonymous wrote:I love seeing them. This is so weird. I have two in college about to graduate and I still love seeing where kids land.

Why? Why do you care? Why do you think it matters at all? Especially if it's not your kid? I'm genuinely curious.

This is pretty sad. How can the idea of pleasure over your friends achievements be such a foreign concept?

DP.
Here’s the thing. Pleasure is great but you’re being dishonest if you don’t admit that there’s a huge element of narcissistic bragging at play for many parents, and I think that’s what irks some of us. As example, my friends son struggled in high school and when he got into college, I was overjoyed for him. Same with another friend’s dc who worked his butt off in high school, juggling academics and sports, and was recruited at a D1. Same for a friends son who got into Yale who she worried about socially as a kid. These are otherwise humble families. But in contrast, I know some people who have really taken to SM to brag about vacations, other ‘cool’ things they’re doing, their parties, their husbands love letter to them, their new pricey car, etc and yes, those people irk me. I stopped following them on SM ages ago, but those are the same ones who make announcements in other ways to ensure no one missed their latest brag.

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Anonymous wrote:I have a kid in the mix this year too, and I know we all care as parents but I don’t need blow by blow updates/brags.

Post it on social media if you must, tell grandma, but you don’t need to text every friend with a ‘big announcement’ that Larla is going to X school.

Flame away

Ok

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Anonymous wrote:I have a kid in the mix this year too, and I know we all care as parents but I don’t need blow by blow updates/brags.

Post it on social media if you must, tell grandma, but you don’t need to text every friend with a ‘big announcement’ that Larla is going to X school.

Flame away

Really? I love those posts. I enjoy knowing where kids go. I'm happy for the kids who have found their place. It's also useful info because sometimes kids a few years older than mine have gone to schools that my own kids look at, so then I have someone who can give me info.

What I don't like are the posts about every acceptance. Nope. Just post once about where your kid will actually go.

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Anonymous wrote:I have a kid in the mix this year too, and I know we all care as parents but I don’t need blow by blow updates/brags.

Post it on social media if you must, tell grandma, but you don’t need to text every friend with a ‘big announcement’ that Larla is going to X school.

Flame away

Really? I love those posts. I enjoy knowing where kids go. I'm happy for the kids who have found their place. It's also useful info because sometimes kids a few years older than mine have gone to schools that my own kids look at, so then I have someone who can give me info.

What I don't like are the posts about every acceptance. Nope. Just post once about where your kid will actually go.

just adding that this means social media posts, not a huge text to everyone i know!

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I have a kid in the mix this year too, and I know we all care as parents but I don’t need blow by blow updates/brags.

Post it on social media if you must, tell grandma, but you don’t need to text every friend with a ‘big announcement’ that Larla is going to X school.

Flame away

Really? I love those posts. I enjoy knowing where kids go. I'm happy for the kids who have found their place. It's also useful info because sometimes kids a few years older than mine have gone to schools that my own kids look at, so then I have someone who can give me info.

What I don't like are the posts about every acceptance. Nope. Just post once about where your kid will actually go.

Read again

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Anonymous wrote:Nothing amuses me more than some parents’ ineluctable enthusiasm while revealing their kids’ admission to Northeastern or Tulane.

This is repulsive. You know there are parents that are so thankful their kids are alive or healthy or able to overcome something you likely know nothing about, right? What does it cost you to support others in their excitement for whatever school makes sense for their kid?

Why do they need to post bragging wise that they got into Northeastern or Tulane then. Why not just enjoy the time together.

I don’t care if people judge me for my kid going to Tulane. They likely have never attended. We love Tulane! It has been such a great experience for my DC. They have had so many research opportunities and summer internships. Not everyone goes to top 20. Top 75 schools have great opportunities as well, especially the R1 schools like Tulane.

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Anonymous wrote:I am getting the tripod set up for the family reaction video so we can post it all over social media!! Can't wait!!

I don’t mind the general social media announcements once a child has decided what college they’re attending, but posting those videos is very cringe. Just keep that moment in the family. Everything doesn’t need to be recorded and shared for public consumption.

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Anonymous wrote:I have a kid in the mix this year too, and I know we all care as parents but I don’t need blow by blow updates/brags.

Post it on social media if you must, tell grandma, but you don’t need to text every friend with a ‘big announcement’ that Larla is going to X school.

Flame away

And yet you care enough to post here to complain?

I love reading where kids I know are heading off to college. I had a great time in college, and I'm excited for them to have what I hope will be a great adventure, too. Agree that no need for a blow-by-blow accounts except for with my girlfriends (no need for public updates), but final announcements, yes, definitely.