Can I be honest? I don’t care much about my friends kids college announcements

[Anonymous]

I have a kid in the mix this year too, and I know we all care as parents but I don’t need blow by blow updates/brags.

Post it on social media if you must, tell grandma, but you don’t need to text every friend with a ‘big announcement’ that Larla is going to X school.

Flame away

[Anonymous]

Agree. The formal announcements are insufferable. Similar to the kids who make big pronouncements about internships and jobs on LinkedIn. Schools and companies should rescind offers from these clowns. Act like you've been there before.

[Anonymous]

This forum is becoming urban mom…

[Anonymous]

And no, your kid didn't get a scholarship because they are brilliant. It is because you can't afford full pay. I love the grandmas who brag that their grandchild got a scholarship to an Ivy. Awesome that junior got into an Ivy, but they didn't get a scholarship because they are more special than the other kids there.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:And no, your kid didn't get a scholarship because they are brilliant. It is because you can't afford full pay. I love the grandmas who brag that their grandchild got a scholarship to an Ivy. Awesome that junior got into an Ivy, but they didn't get a scholarship because they are more special than the other kids there.

Ok that’s mean! Grandmas can be excited! That’s sweet!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:And no, your kid didn't get a scholarship because they are brilliant. It is because you can't afford full pay. I love the grandmas who brag that their grandchild got a scholarship to an Ivy. Awesome that junior got into an Ivy, but they didn't get a scholarship because they are more special than the other kids there.

Ok that’s mean! Grandmas can be excited! That’s sweet!

No, they are delusional. Ivies don’t give scholarships, period.

[Anonymous]

Just pop a thumbs-up reaction, delete the text, and move on.

[Anonymous]

Who would text everyone telling them? It's not even THEIR news. That's so tacky. Why do you know people like this?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:And no, your kid didn't get a scholarship because they are brilliant. It is because you can't afford full pay. I love the grandmas who brag that their grandchild got a scholarship to an Ivy. Awesome that junior got into an Ivy, but they didn't get a scholarship because they are more special than the other kids there.

Ok that’s mean! Grandmas can be excited! That’s sweet!

No, they are delusional. Ivies don’t give scholarships, period.

I know, but really? Who cares?! It’s grandma!

[Anonymous]

I am not impressed by any college my friends children got into. Most are wealthy. Maybe that’s not fair, but I know how much support/help these kids have. I appreciate the families are proud and that’s great, but there is no need to brag about the obvious privilege at play.

In contrast, I know a teacher whose dd got into Yale ED. I was happy and impressed to hear that news, although she didn’t tell me, our mutual friend shared the news.

[Anonymous]

My kid got a full ride from an ivy school, ho ho ho -

[Anonymous]

I’m very happy for them. It’s a huge struggle so any admission is worth celebration

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:And no, your kid didn't get a scholarship because they are brilliant. It is because you can't afford full pay. I love the grandmas who brag that their grandchild got a scholarship to an Ivy. Awesome that junior got into an Ivy, but they didn't get a scholarship because they are more special than the other kids there.

Ok that’s mean! Grandmas can be excited! That’s sweet!

No, they are delusional. Ivies don’t give scholarships, period.

They do give need based scholarships for those who are poorer than you.

[Anonymous]

I agree. Largely because I just don't think it matters where most kids go to school. The people who send the text announcements are often looking for a specific kind of congratulations (on getting into a better school than other kids got into) and I genuinely just don't think it matters that much. I went to a T20 and in the end what matters most is what you do with the opportunity. I know people from non-flagship state schools who are among the smartest and most accomplished people I've met.

Going to college is a big deal. Which one you get into is now, IMO.

[Anonymous]

Admittedly, my kids are young and college is a ways away but I also find these sm posts so over the top. I’ve even seen parents post about their kids getting jobs after graduating.

It all comes off as very desperate for attention and I get second hand embarrassment. I assume it’s mostly for other parents they feel they are competing with?