Setting boundaries with STBX?

[Anonymous]

You left him and started seeeing someone else. I don't know why you strung your ex along for 6 months dangling a maybe we will get back together carrot when you have already moved on to someone else.

Anyways, you reap what you sow. You thought you could make both of them want you until you decided who to drop and when you do that, someone gets hurt. This isn't about setting boundaries. It is about not playing head games and messing with other people.

Move on, be done, Get divorced. Give him the money he is owed so he can move on too, and go play happy family with your new guy.

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Anonymous wrote:On a more serious note: I do wonder about the posters who display zero empathy. Let's say someone *did* have an affair! I doubt they feel proud about it. My bet is that most people who have affairs feel terrible about it. But I also think even good people make mistakes and behave badly sometimes. That doesn't make them terrible people. It makes them decent people who did something wrong. And we don't know what the circumstances were that led them there.

To the super-Christians on this and other threads whose attitude is: "This person is an adulterer and therefore just a disgusting bad blameworthy person in every way, i hope they rot!" - whatever happened to Christian charity? To letting he who is blameless cast the first stone?

Or maybe it's just the Taliban joining DCUM?

I don’t think she should rot but I certainly don’t believe in what she is doing with impunity.

Who had this alleged affair?

Presumably you can read.

I can. Can you? Where does she say it was an affair? Clearly she said it started after she separated from her husband and told him they can both start seeing other people. So please point me to the post that explains how that’s an affair.

You’re the one who implied an affair.

More nonsense from you. No, I didn't and neither did OP. Telling him she wants to separate and start seeing other people is the end of the relationship. His (and I assume you have the same controlling tenancies) tantrums don't work any more.

Except you did imply it. It’s plain as day in this thread assuming you can read.

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Anonymous wrote:On a more serious note: I do wonder about the posters who display zero empathy. Let's say someone *did* have an affair! I doubt they feel proud about it. My bet is that most people who have affairs feel terrible about it. But I also think even good people make mistakes and behave badly sometimes. That doesn't make them terrible people. It makes them decent people who did something wrong. And we don't know what the circumstances were that led them there.

To the super-Christians on this and other threads whose attitude is: "This person is an adulterer and therefore just a disgusting bad blameworthy person in every way, i hope they rot!" - whatever happened to Christian charity? To letting he who is blameless cast the first stone?

Or maybe it's just the Taliban joining DCUM?

I don’t think she should rot but I certainly don’t believe in what she is doing with impunity.

Who had this alleged affair?

Presumably you can read.

I can. Can you? Where does she say it was an affair? Clearly she said it started after she separated from her husband and told him they can both start seeing other people. So please point me to the post that explains how that’s an affair.

You’re the one who implied an affair.

More nonsense from you. No, I didn't and neither did OP. Telling him she wants to separate and start seeing other people is the end of the relationship. His (and I assume you have the same controlling tenancies) tantrums don't work any more.

Except you did imply it. It’s plain as day in this thread assuming you can read.

You repeating the same thing does not make it come true magically.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:You left him and started seeeing someone else. I don't know why you strung your ex along for 6 months dangling a maybe we will get back together carrot when you have already moved on to someone else.

Anyways, you reap what you sow. You thought you could make both of them want you until you decided who to drop and when you do that, someone gets hurt. This isn't about setting boundaries. It is about not playing head games and messing with other people.

Move on, be done, Get divorced. Give him the money he is owed so he can move on too, and go play happy family with your new guy.

This x10000000 🔥

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Anonymous wrote:On a more serious note: I do wonder about the posters who display zero empathy. Let's say someone *did* have an affair! I doubt they feel proud about it. My bet is that most people who have affairs feel terrible about it. But I also think even good people make mistakes and behave badly sometimes. That doesn't make them terrible people. It makes them decent people who did something wrong. And we don't know what the circumstances were that led them there.

To the super-Christians on this and other threads whose attitude is: "This person is an adulterer and therefore just a disgusting bad blameworthy person in every way, i hope they rot!" - whatever happened to Christian charity? To letting he who is blameless cast the first stone?

Or maybe it's just the Taliban joining DCUM?

I don’t think she should rot but I certainly don’t believe in what she is doing with impunity.

Who had this alleged affair?

Presumably you can read.

I can. Can you? Where does she say it was an affair? Clearly she said it started after she separated from her husband and told him they can both start seeing other people. So please point me to the post that explains how that’s an affair.

You’re the one who implied an affair.

More nonsense from you. No, I didn't and neither did OP. Telling him she wants to separate and start seeing other people is the end of the relationship. His (and I assume you have the same controlling tenancies) tantrums don't work any more.

Except you did imply it. It’s plain as day in this thread assuming you can read.

You repeating the same thing does not make it come true magically.

No, but your written words of it upthread does.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:On a more serious note: I do wonder about the posters who display zero empathy. Let's say someone *did* have an affair! I doubt they feel proud about it. My bet is that most people who have affairs feel terrible about it. But I also think even good people make mistakes and behave badly sometimes. That doesn't make them terrible people. It makes them decent people who did something wrong. And we don't know what the circumstances were that led them there.

To the super-Christians on this and other threads whose attitude is: "This person is an adulterer and therefore just a disgusting bad blameworthy person in every way, i hope they rot!" - whatever happened to Christian charity? To letting he who is blameless cast the first stone?

Or maybe it's just the Taliban joining DCUM?

I don’t think she should rot but I certainly don’t believe in what she is doing with impunity.

Who had this alleged affair?

Presumably you can read.

I can. Can you? Where does she say it was an affair? Clearly she said it started after she separated from her husband and told him they can both start seeing other people. So please point me to the post that explains how that’s an affair.

You’re the one who implied an affair.

More nonsense from you. No, I didn't and neither did OP. Telling him she wants to separate and start seeing other people is the end of the relationship. His (and I assume you have the same controlling tenancies) tantrums don't work any more.

Except you did imply it. It’s plain as day in this thread assuming you can read.

You repeating the same thing does not make it come true magically.

No, but your written words of it upthread does.

Either reference them already or STFU. It's amazing some of you were able to graduate high school with the way you write.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:On a more serious note: I do wonder about the posters who display zero empathy. Let's say someone *did* have an affair! I doubt they feel proud about it. My bet is that most people who have affairs feel terrible about it. But I also think even good people make mistakes and behave badly sometimes. That doesn't make them terrible people. It makes them decent people who did something wrong. And we don't know what the circumstances were that led them there.

To the super-Christians on this and other threads whose attitude is: "This person is an adulterer and therefore just a disgusting bad blameworthy person in every way, i hope they rot!" - whatever happened to Christian charity? To letting he who is blameless cast the first stone?

Or maybe it's just the Taliban joining DCUM?

I don’t think she should rot but I certainly don’t believe in what she is doing with impunity.

Who had this alleged affair?

Presumably you can read.

I can. Can you? Where does she say it was an affair? Clearly she said it started after she separated from her husband and told him they can both start seeing other people. So please point me to the post that explains how that’s an affair.

You’re the one who implied an affair.

More nonsense from you. No, I didn't and neither did OP. Telling him she wants to separate and start seeing other people is the end of the relationship. His (and I assume you have the same controlling tenancies) tantrums don't work any more.

Except you did imply it. It’s plain as day in this thread assuming you can read.

You repeating the same thing does not make it come true magically.

No, but your written words of it upthread does.

Either reference them already or STFU. It's amazing some of you were able to graduate high school with the way you write.

It’s amazing you graduated elementary school. Use your crayon and scroll down to where you typed it.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:On a more serious note: I do wonder about the posters who display zero empathy. Let's say someone *did* have an affair! I doubt they feel proud about it. My bet is that most people who have affairs feel terrible about it. But I also think even good people make mistakes and behave badly sometimes. That doesn't make them terrible people. It makes them decent people who did something wrong. And we don't know what the circumstances were that led them there.

To the super-Christians on this and other threads whose attitude is: "This person is an adulterer and therefore just a disgusting bad blameworthy person in every way, i hope they rot!" - whatever happened to Christian charity? To letting he who is blameless cast the first stone?

Or maybe it's just the Taliban joining DCUM?

I don’t think she should rot but I certainly don’t believe in what she is doing with impunity.

Who had this alleged affair?

Presumably you can read.

I can. Can you? Where does she say it was an affair? Clearly she said it started after she separated from her husband and told him they can both start seeing other people. So please point me to the post that explains how that’s an affair.

You’re the one who implied an affair.

More nonsense from you. No, I didn't and neither did OP. Telling him she wants to separate and start seeing other people is the end of the relationship. His (and I assume you have the same controlling tenancies) tantrums don't work any more.

Except you did imply it. It’s plain as day in this thread assuming you can read.

You repeating the same thing does not make it come true magically.

No, but your written words of it upthread does.

Either reference them already or STFU. It's amazing some of you were able to graduate high school with the way you write.

It’s amazing you can’t read what you wrote.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:On a more serious note: I do wonder about the posters who display zero empathy. Let's say someone *did* have an affair! I doubt they feel proud about it. My bet is that most people who have affairs feel terrible about it. But I also think even good people make mistakes and behave badly sometimes. That doesn't make them terrible people. It makes them decent people who did something wrong. And we don't know what the circumstances were that led them there.

To the super-Christians on this and other threads whose attitude is: "This person is an adulterer and therefore just a disgusting bad blameworthy person in every way, i hope they rot!" - whatever happened to Christian charity? To letting he who is blameless cast the first stone?

Or maybe it's just the Taliban joining DCUM?

I don’t think she should rot but I certainly don’t believe in what she is doing with impunity.

Who had this alleged affair?

Presumably you can read.

I can. Can you? Where does she say it was an affair? Clearly she said it started after she separated from her husband and told him they can both start seeing other people. So please point me to the post that explains how that’s an affair.

You’re the one who implied an affair.

More nonsense from you. No, I didn't and neither did OP. Telling him she wants to separate and start seeing other people is the end of the relationship. His (and I assume you have the same controlling tenancies) tantrums don't work any more.

Except you did imply it. It’s plain as day in this thread assuming you can read.

You repeating the same thing does not make it come true magically.

No, but your written words of it upthread does.

Either reference them already or STFU. It's amazing some of you were able to graduate high school with the way you write.

It’s amazing you can’t read what you wrote.

I have no idea what you've concocted in your imagination. So again, either post what you're talking about or go away.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:On a more serious note: I do wonder about the posters who display zero empathy. Let's say someone *did* have an affair! I doubt they feel proud about it. My bet is that most people who have affairs feel terrible about it. But I also think even good people make mistakes and behave badly sometimes. That doesn't make them terrible people. It makes them decent people who did something wrong. And we don't know what the circumstances were that led them there.

To the super-Christians on this and other threads whose attitude is: "This person is an adulterer and therefore just a disgusting bad blameworthy person in every way, i hope they rot!" - whatever happened to Christian charity? To letting he who is blameless cast the first stone?

Or maybe it's just the Taliban joining DCUM?

I don’t think she should rot but I certainly don’t believe in what she is doing with impunity.

Who had this alleged affair?

Presumably you can read.

I can. Can you? Where does she say it was an affair? Clearly she said it started after she separated from her husband and told him they can both start seeing other people. So please point me to the post that explains how that’s an affair.

You’re the one who implied an affair.

More nonsense from you. No, I didn't and neither did OP. Telling him she wants to separate and start seeing other people is the end of the relationship. His (and I assume you have the same controlling tenancies) tantrums don't work any more.

Except you did imply it. It’s plain as day in this thread assuming you can read.

You repeating the same thing does not make it come true magically.

No, but your written words of it upthread does.

Either reference them already or STFU. It's amazing some of you were able to graduate high school with the way you write.

It’s amazing you can’t read what you wrote.

I have no idea what you've concocted in your imagination. So again, either post what you're talking about or go away.

neutral observer here: as Winston Churchill once said, the problem with arguing with an a-hole is that people can't tell the difference.