What are people in DC’s honest views of southern women

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I mean the dmv is below the mason dixon line so you are all in the south

Very true. And prior to the recent wave of transplants, DC was very much a “Southern” city — legal racial segregation and all, from the accents of many of us, to what we served at cookouts. I think a lot of these discussions— supposedly about regional and even cultural matters are centering transplants interacting with other transplants, often in/from the suburbs. I think the OP is trolling, but anyone actually from the South, actually interacting with DC natives would recognize this, even if the only DC natives they encountered were the white ones.

-Sweet potato not pumpkin

[Anonymous]

1) D.C. is absolutely not “the South,” and

2) fact is: the South is flyover-country

[Anonymous]

It's discrimination. Regionalism if you will.

Religious and race based assumptions/jokes/blanket judgements aren't made by educated and open minded people, and I don't think cultural or geographic based are OK either.

I'm also from the south and whenever people ask why I don't have an accent, I straight up tell them that people discriminate against southern people and assume they ate stupid or
Uneducated.

[Anonymous]

NP. What a thread. Let’s just say that none of the people being absolutely awful about southern women in this thread would be able to countenance what the entire rest of the country thinks about anyone, male or female, from DC.

[Anonymous]

Clarence Thomas refused to speak on the Supreme Court for ten years because he was ashamed of his deep south accent.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I lived in the south for a while and I was judged for wearing blue jeans, for not being girly enough, not being “sweet” enough, not wearing the same clothes as everyone else, not having been in a sorority, for eating normal portions of flavorful food, for not being related to anyone they deemed valuable to their social circles, not being “from there”, not being WASPy enough, for being “too” independent and for not not going to church.

I guess that’s just the way people are, OP. But we do have country clubs here. Good luck getting off the waitlist.

See OP? It’s not DC. It’s just people.

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Anonymous wrote:I moved here about 5 years ago and low key feel like my coworkers tolerate me but judge the fact that I’m from the south. I’ve only worked in corporate jobs, and never talk about politics, but identify as right of center but I don’t really like Trump and don’t feel comfortable talking about politics. I feel like I have to hide the fact that I’m a southern sorority girl that did a debutante ball, goes to church and country clubs ect even though they people I work with grew up upper middle class too. I’ve also scrubbed my social media of all the fraternity formal date pics and things like that after some snarky comments.

I’d just love to understand why people are so judgemental. My experience has always been that people in my life and hometown are kind and polite, so would love some honest feedback about what people think here about southern women and how I can appear more approachable while staying true to myself.

I am not DC native, transplant from Europe. I LOVE people from south. They, primarily, are very well educated, well read, kind, less mental issues compared to people from North East, less arrogant. Please, stay true to who you are. It is such a pleasant contrast to meet people like you.

Also a European transplant. And I agree 100 percent. Southern people tend to be kinder, more humane, more interesting, more down to Earth. Also more curious and straightforward. I always like people who are really southern.

Please don't change a thing to "adapt."

As a New Englander with a mother from Texas (deep Texas roots - not the superficial Bush family carpetbaggers - my great grandparents built Texas highways and we still have oil/gas fields) AND who married to a brown person. All southerns are wonderful if you are white. Many are okay as long as you are brown and not black. Some are okay if you are Black. Non are okay if you want to take away their guns and cannot understand the role that free access to guns played in Charlie Kirk’s death. And if you are a socialist you are terrible (but they don’t understand that social security is a socialist program). Basically, many southerns are lovely people if the proper conditions are met and you don’t ask hard questions.

OP is talking about her colleagues. Why would you be asking your colleagues about guns or socialism????

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:No one cares. I really mean that: No.One.Cares. Meaning that if your idea of small talk is telling me about your sorority and your debutant balls and teas, I really don’t care. You don’t need to hide it. Many of also also belong to sororities and even made debuts. For the most part, we don’t bring that kind of personal stuff to work with us though. I won’t be scouring your social media. Just be a decent, competent coworker — that’s all I care about.

Also, you should know that DC — not “Washington” — used to be very much a Southern city. See the famous quote by JFK. So if you’re talking to DC natives about your “Southern” identity, wondering why some of us might seem “judgmental” to you, it might be because you’ve said something that makes one of us think that you’re repping for the KKK or the Daughters of the Confederacy — as opposed to, say, being upset that it’s hard to find White Lily flour at local grocery stores.

Examples would be nice, if you’d care to share a few, just so we all have a clearer idea of what exactly it is that you think might be prompting judgmental responses from your coworkers.

Do you honestly think she's saying something that suggests she's "repping for the KKK?" Get over your arrogant self.

If you're an "actual" southerner from the south and your family had money when they were growing up... well, you're only 2 generations displaced from Jim Crow, i.e., your grandparents. And 4-5 (i.e., their grandparents) from cohabitating certain public spaces with former slaves that you despised so much that you passed laws so you didn't have to cohabitate with them. Its shameful that people that proudly say they're from the south actually mean the white part of it.

It's shitty to blame someone for their heritage and for whatever her ancestors did or didn't do. Should we assume that all Cambodians are descendants of Pol Pot and hold that over their heads? Maybe OP should pay reparations, hell, not even draw a salary, just give it away because she doesn't deserve a good life because she comes from a family of rich Southerners. GTFOOOH

[Anonymous]

You're reading too much into this. DC just isn't a very friendly place. I am from New England and fit in just fine and it's still not friendly. Don't take it personally, it's not about you.

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Op, the people in your home town are warm and friendly to YOU. If people who didn’t look like you and dress like you and act like you moved into town, they might smile and be polite, but they would not be chatting them up for real friendship either. BTDT

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Anonymous wrote:I lived in the south for a while and I was judged for wearing blue jeans, for not being girly enough, not being “sweet” enough, not wearing the same clothes as everyone else, not having been in a sorority, for eating normal portions of flavorful food, for not being related to anyone they deemed valuable to their social circles, not being “from there”, not being WASPy enough, for being “too” independent and for not not going to church.

I guess that’s just the way people are, OP. But we do have country clubs here. Good luck getting off the waitlist.

+1

The above is my firsthand impression of the south after having to work in Dallas for a few years.
Most never leave, it’s kind of sad. I even saw high school grads, boys or and girls, try college at Ohio State or at Amherst and transfer to SMU or TCU sophomore year. That was weird. Many seem to lean heavily on family or regional connections to do anything.

Same. At work, a partner asked a young intern who had been working in the office for a couple weeks, “who are you?”, and she, who was from the north but spending the summer with extended family, was confused because he knew her name and that she was an intern. So she awkwardly stated the obvious to the partner “I’m Larla.” I laughed and said “he means who’s your daddy? Who are you related to?” Because the assumption is that most people are hired for their relationships, not their resume.

They do know that that just makes them look like they can’t survive or compete outside of their nepo bubble. Right?

I mean, if you can’t hack college outside of the south, getting a national level competitive job, or proving your work yourself, you just fight for more nepotism and BS. I guess all the transplant people and companies still make up it, because there’s no growth selling to your buddies who sell to you.

Nepotism is to be revered.

DEI initiatives are just efforts to steal spots from the nepo babies and somehow the nepo babies have convinced even the poor whites to be upset about this.

Nepotism and DEI are just two extremes of the same meritocracy spectrum. No gracias to either.

Nepotism reminds me of emerging markets backwards countries.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Why is this in politics forum

DCUM troll posts in every category!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:It's discrimination. Regionalism if you will.

Religious and race based assumptions/jokes/blanket judgements aren't made by educated and open minded people, and I don't think cultural or geographic based are OK either.

I'm also from the south and whenever people ask why I don't have an accent, I straight up tell them that people discriminate against southern people and assume they ate stupid or
Uneducated.

Sorry, so why don’t you have an accent?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Why is this in politics forum

It broadens your horizons.

Why just be anti-Trump all day, look into some other topics. Growth mindset!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:NP. What a thread. Let’s just say that none of the people being absolutely awful about southern women in this thread would be able to countenance what the entire rest of the country thinks about anyone, male or female, from DC.

First off when a statistically significant subgroup all act and behave the same = stereotype

Is everyone there that way? No, but a critical mass is.

Is your attempted rebuttal of averages/ entire rest of the country a cool addictive point to this thread? No.
You actually support the points made about Southerner women, by correctly claiming that no one can describe a Wash DC person. And why is that? Because the last 30 years of DC people are too diverse to have a critical mass of any stereotype! I’d argue that educated AA is a largish group, and uneducated AA is a largish group here in barbell Chocolate City. And outside of that there are swaths of people from every country, every creed, every industry.

I moved here from Manhattan, and felt it was more cosmopolitan and diverse here than there. But you still tend to hang out with those of your same education and SeS, but less so here.